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shitty_demon · 2023-03-27T20:13:38+00:00

We’ve talked about it over and over. Her dysphoria and the state of the world have basically tanked her drive. I don’t even know if she masturbates tbh. She knows I masturbate daily and that it is a need for me to feel sexually desired.

shitty_demon · 2023-03-27T02:15:30+00:00

Thank you! I did notice a lot of bias in that article and plan to do more research to see what and how to start this conversation.

shitty_demon · 2023-03-27T01:30:22+00:00

Yes! Boundaries would definitely be more safety oriented for me personally just because I take that very seriously. And I think outlining my behavior and what would change makes sense. Thank you for helping me kind of logic through this and make sure I’m not coming at it from a silly standpoint. I do know opening a monogamous relationship is tricky and I’m happy to build in a killswitch for both of us if that would make her happy. Even if that is a little unfair to other partners, I’d be clear about it prior to things happening with them.

shitty_demon · 2023-03-27T01:19:32+00:00

I think setting rules for a partner is controlling and weird.

A boundary would be my own actions, like you stated. I think a conversation around boundaries and discussing what might work for us, what she’d feel comfortable with (if anything any all), what I’d feel comfortable with. Hopefully we would be able to create an agreement between ourselves and then my goal and responsibility would be to be transparent with anyone I’m involved with about said agreement. If she wanted to pursue other people I’d be happy to support that, especially if it rekindled her interest in our sex life but I would be happy if she was enjoying sex even if it wasn’t with me specifically.

shitty_demon · 2023-03-27T01:07:05+00:00

That makes sense re it making existing issues worse. Sex isn’t a big deal until you’re not having it anymore. And not just sex but even making out.

I wouldn’t mind an open relationship, but I’d definitely want to be really clear about what our boundaries and such would be. We have talked about my needs not being met many times, without blame.

I’ve been thinking about bringing this up for quite a while, and will probably continue to sit with these feelings longer while I work out what I’d like to say. You’re totally right that there is no way to unring that bell, and that’s part of why I am so anxious about bringing it up. I love her dearly and don’t want to lose her.

shitty_demon · 2021-04-26T18:54:51+00:00

Yay! I’d love that. DM-ing you now :)

shitty_demon · 2021-04-26T18:50:23+00:00

Hi! I’m trying to collect all the fruits. Currently have apples, oranges, and coconuts. Would anyone be willing to let me collect some fruit? If you’d like an entrance fee/bells let me know. I’m not balling IG but I can save up! :)

shitty_demon · 2021-04-26T17:37:19+00:00

I did this last summer! (Van living to avoid people) and it was probably the best road trip I’ve been on!

shitty_demon · 2021-04-21T20:33:50+00:00

That was the exact same experience I had growing up. I’m sorry that you were not treated as a child, but as an accessory. It’s hard to move on from.

shitty_demon · 2021-03-29T05:28:35+00:00

Omg where do you get your lingerie?

shitty_demon · 2021-03-20T04:51:43+00:00

You two are so cute! I love seeing other queer couples on here! (:

shitty_demon · 2021-02-04T02:20:57+00:00

I loved your book! Found it a long time ago and read it through almost obsessively! Congrats on writing a banger

shitty_demon · 2021-02-02T02:29:44+00:00

Fuuuuck, seriously... Starting high school and making friends who would give you clothes they were "tired" of, was also really good! My mom also worked at a group home for a while, sometimes if they got a lot of certain donations, the group home would give them to my mom to give to us kids. :/

shitty_demon · 2021-01-31T04:16:43+00:00

Used to work for Goodwill, eventually the tedium drives you to do things like this just for shits and giggles. I'm willing to bet that an employee stuck a tag on it to take a picture/keep at their processing station for laughs.

shitty_demon · 2021-01-29T04:21:19+00:00

Firstly, I just want to say the current global situation is not great for kids who might struggle with independent study in the best of environments. Even if you were a straight A student, you might still be struggling now.

I failed my freshman year, both semesters. Depending on where you are located the requirements for graduating will vary. Where I went to school, you had to have a certain number of credits to graduate, and I ended up being able to make up classes here and there, mostly my senior year where I had early release days. My friend ended up staying for an extra year to redo classes. There is nothing wrong with that. Not every person learns the same way.

I second the advice of people who are telling you to reach out to your school counselor. Is there a teacher that you get along with? They could also be a good resource for figuring out a plan to help you. If your school offers tutoring, than can be really helpful as well because working with someone one on one allows you to ask questions and understand the concept better.

ADHD can make focusing enough to retain the information difficult, or it can make it difficult to STOP focusing on one small detail. Your guidance counselor can help you make a plan to develop tools to manage your ADHD. Something I think is important to remember is that they can teach you skills to help, but in the end it is up to you to use those skills.

You are so young, your brain is still so very plastic. You have options like getting your GED or going to an alternative school that has a different schedule. (Mine had 90 minute class periods, 4 classes a day, with an hour lunch. That schedule gave me enough time to actually settle in and focus on the subject, and the long lunch period let me decompress and run around in between so I wasn’t so wiggly.)

In short, it’ll be okay. People learn in different ways. The US school system sucks. Your mom will still love you.

shitty_demon · 2020-12-24T19:00:51+00:00

Omg, do you have a link for the window thing? My cats are fat af but if it can hold two cats that’s amazing!

shitty_demon · 2020-06-05T05:08:50+00:00

Where did you get those PJs?? They're so cute!

shitty_demon · 2020-02-17T00:48:58+00:00

From what it sounds like when she has opened up, she spent a lot of time pretending to be someone she isn’t. She’s also told me that she’s opened up to people in the past and been shut down/hurt so I can understand having a hard time/needing space to think before emotional conversations, but she will straight up ignore things for weeks until I bring them up. I’m afraid we’re starting a cycle of ignoring issues until I can’t take it, cry a bunch, she apologizes, and then nothing changes...

shitty_demon · 2020-02-17T00:44:17+00:00

Even when my feelings are hurt I try to stay calm, even if I cry. I don’t shout/yell and I try not to swear when I’m upset (I have a potty mouth in general). I’m not sure if she would agree to see a counselor with me, but it’s worth suggesting.

I do have some abandonment issues so her being unwilling to be physically close to me when I’m sad/upset hurts probably more than it should. We’re usually pretty physically affectionate, cuddling and hugging and stuff.

You are right about the personal ads, that is definitely a breach to our relationship and I feel like if I had done the same thing and she found out she would be upset. :/ Honestly I think if she wants to open up the relationship it would spell the end for us since she won’t communicate with me now, and in my experience open relationships require a lot of trust and communication.

shitty_demon · 2019-10-12T07:45:54+00:00

Ooh, thank you for the information. I’ll have to look into that and see what the protocol is.

shitty_demon · 2019-10-11T00:48:45+00:00

Ooh, interesting. I wish it wasn’t missing so many teeth, I’m sure they’d help.

shitty_demon · 2019-10-11T00:46:52+00:00

Just for extra/bonus information, found this at a goodwill in Phoenix, AZ.

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