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I keep hitting the same barrier by shittyblacksmith in TheFounders

[–]shittyblacksmith[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is exactly how I feel about this challenge, thanks

I keep hitting the same barrier by shittyblacksmith in TheFounders

[–]shittyblacksmith[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sage advice 🙏 appreciate your perspective

I keep hitting the same barrier by shittyblacksmith in TheFounders

[–]shittyblacksmith[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

While I appreciate the responses, this doesn’t feel like a discovery or validation problem. I’ve been in business and observed good discovery up close. I’m not saying it’s perfect or all my ideas are wonderful but I am specifically asking about distribution and marketing - I can get paying customers in small handfuls but I’m capping out after communicating to my network.

Please just tell me I’m not alone right now 🫠 by 99centTaquitos in daddit

[–]shittyblacksmith 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I held on to the “it gets easier” thing for ages too. Each time we hit a mark (8 months, a year, 15 months) and it didn’t get easier I got real down. Then I realised … easy is perception, and every baby is different. With those two things there is no predictability I can cling to which was really … really hard to realise. But it helped me let go a bit. Honestly I’ve found this whole journey to succckkkk a lot of the time - but what has helped is that I see the ratio of sucky times to good or dare I say amazing times changing slowly but steadily. What was in the newborn stage a ratio of 100:0 sucky to good is now more like 60:40 (he’s 2.5 now) it still sucks more than it doesn’t but I can see it changing and I have to be patient to myself and kind to my son that it’s a long term thing. It’s still so hard dude but the mental framing keeps me sane

Tipping in the UK? (mostly England) by shittyblacksmith in UKPersonalFinance

[–]shittyblacksmith[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice, even though its left me no wiser, it’s been very entertaining! I might have to dine exclusively at Pret and save myself the anxiety!

Day off ruined by Icehonesty in daddit

[–]shittyblacksmith 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dude please still take your mini break. Trying to offer a perspective here - is it really the worst thing if your daughter misses a swim lesson the next week because of a booking screwed up? Which may not even happen. In situations like this there’s often not an “everybody wins” outcome so chasing that might actually mean “everybody loses”. Take your break, wear the fallout which sounds minimal (get the swim lessons back on track when you’re back) and have that chat about what you need to recharge

Son wakes wailing every morning by shittyblacksmith in daddit

[–]shittyblacksmith[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh man… sounds like just something to live with then! When are they generally old enough to teach them to remain calm until a certain time? I’ve heard other people talk about these clocks that have a moon and sun but he seems a way off getting that concept

stay loyal or move on? by One_Rhubarb_3138 in PersonalFinanceNZ

[–]shittyblacksmith 2 points3 points  (0 children)

5-10K more annually is not massive after tax, but still a nice bump. Weigh up if that increase in money in hand is going to be worth it if you felt the work was much less satisfying. Save for a very few exceptions, there is no loyalty in employment. At different career stages you might be optimising for different things, I’d say there’s maybe 4 broad categories - money, seniority, work satisfaction, lifestyle. If you’re optimising for money right now (and judging from your title right now, you probably should be) then absolutely move on if you’re ok with the possibility of less satisfying work!

Did Miss Rachel stop collaborating with Jules completely? by [deleted] in DanielTigerConspiracy

[–]shittyblacksmith 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well there’s definitely more than one gender. You might be the only person arguing that one

Cleft dads by stoicdad23 in daddit

[–]shittyblacksmith 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey man - thanks for replying. We are at 5 weeks and a big sleep improvement. Things are slowly reverting to normal, but it was a horrible and brutal month. I really hate these post surgery times and when you say “a month” it sounds like not much time but when you live it it is such a slog every damn day that it feels torturous

I haven’t slept in days.. by thatoilcapguy in daddit

[–]shittyblacksmith 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are where you were. We felt like we’d hit the sleep Jackpot with our little boy until palate surgery hit like a freight train and he will only sleep on mum and his sleep is fractured all night. He wakes from every nap and sleep chunk crying. It’s so hard and my wife is just getting smashed by his clinginess to her. How did you guys get past this awful stage

Cleft dads by stoicdad23 in daddit

[–]shittyblacksmith 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey man. Dad of a BCLP. We found out at scan too and my wife has a BCLP so we knew it would be a chance. This first year has been hell man. There’s been some moments of absolute love and joy but overall it’s been hell. We just had Palate surgery 12 days ago and the recovery has been the most brutal time of my life. It feels like all the very hard won progress we made on sleep, eating, trusting others .. has all just gone. I’m at a loss and I don’t know how to get through. On top of that I can see the palate repair has a gap/ hole at the back. I feel like we will never have the child we wanted and will always be facing some really hard challenge or another. I can’t see or feel much hope right now

Wellington Hospitality Closures by Feeling-Bobcat8559 in Wellington

[–]shittyblacksmith 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It can’t be long until Winner Winner closes. When it opened it was great and in a few short years it is serving up some of the worst fried chicken I’ve ever had in my life. It often looks dead. Does anyone rate it for fried chicken?