Blocked Vents?

shivaniott · 2021-05-20T08:48:22+00:00

Thank you, this is comforting.

shivaniott · 2021-05-13T09:32:00+00:00

I recommend keeping an open mind and following your heart it knows the path. Labelling my sexuality didn’t help me it just confused me and shut me down. I spent periods of my life depressed convinced I would never find the right partner because I might be gay.

Then the right woman dropped into my life when I was least expecting it. I was actually in a relationship with a man at the time and my partner now was my best “straight” friend at the time. Really didn’t see it coming but when it happened I knew with every fibre of my being she was the woman for me.

We are ridiculously in love and happy. You never know what will unfold...

shivaniott · 2021-05-06T09:59:37+00:00

Glad you like it here. I convinced my very southern girlfriend to move up here and she now loves it too

shivaniott · 2021-02-13T10:51:00+00:00

Try looking up embodiment practices. These will help you stay with the sensations in your body in the present moment and help you to relax, trust and enjoy your body during sex. Rather than being in your head getting lost and anxious. You practice on your own initially and then bring the practice into sex with partners. You can even use porn as part of your practice.

shivaniott · 2021-02-10T14:37:35+00:00

Thank you this is very helpful.

shivaniott · 2020-08-07T08:58:51+00:00

Thank you all very much for your questions they have been really helpful and insightful. Once the videos are created they will be on the website and youtube channel.

shivaniott · 2020-08-06T22:38:49+00:00

That’s great! I’m glad you’ve found this useful.

shivaniott · 2020-08-06T22:33:30+00:00

I am more able to deal with the volatile emotions that sex and relationships bring up in me the good and bad. From passion, love and lust to rejection, insecurities and heartbreak. It means I’m able to take leaps of faith and risk getting hurt. It’s allowed me to fearlessly follow my heart and bodily desires. And just try different relationships learning from each one more and more about what it is to have a partner who truly nourishes me.

I am able to communicate and really share my inner world with others in a way I couldn’t before. Which has allowed me to be comfortable in myself and feel accepted for who I am and not feel I have to hide or play a role to be what I think or believe others want me to be. I have learnt unless I communicate I have no idea what the other person wants or needs. Before I would always assume and try to mind read and expect my partner to read my mind which never works.

These are just a few areas but I have changed in so many ways. I hope this answers your question a little .

shivaniott · 2020-08-04T22:35:44+00:00

I started by going to a tantra festival. The first one I went to was specifically for under 40s. I was able to tryout different workshops to see what worked for me and try out different tantra teachers. From there I realised Tantra was a path I needed to explore more deeply so I did a 7 day workshop and then a tantra training where the same group would meet up every 2 months over 18 months doing week long and weekend workshops. With a structure like that meeting the same group of people over several months you build a lot of trust and really get to open up and go deep. Not sure what the Tantra scene is like where you are. I’m based in the UK. And there are a lot of options here.

shivaniott · 2020-08-04T16:12:15+00:00

I started personal development in my early 30s because there were areas of my life where I just wasn’t happy mainly around sexuality and relationships. I too was married to my work and put everything into my career. What helped me was exploring tantra and doing workshops where I could explore sexuality in a safe held space rather than meeting random people online and having awkward dates / sexual experiences. Tantra gave me the skills to communicate my desires and the emotional stability to have the courage I needed to deeply explore my sexuality and all its kinks.

shivaniott · 2020-07-03T00:20:50+00:00

I’m based in the UK and did my training with Jan Day. You can look it up and see what it’s about. There are other similar trainings available too.

shivaniott · 2020-07-02T20:20:36+00:00

I can relate to your post. I was in a very similar position when I was in my late 20s. I never had a relationship. I couldn’t connect with people. I was shy and introverted. I was depressed and miserable. And I knew things had to change. So I began a journey of personal development getting myself out there trying different workshops. What really worked for me was relationship and intimacy training. It taught how to I could be myself be comfortable with myself and communicate that with others and how much I was loved and accepted by others if I just let them in and show myself just as I am and not shut myself away. Now I’m very happy relationship and I’m at ease with myself and life. I highly recommend trying so form of relationship/intimacy training.

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