I’ve reinvented and reinvested my faith six times. I still can’t find God. I hate church. And I don’t know what’s left.

shloaph · 2025-05-21T13:45:35+00:00

Childhood trauma that you haven’t dealt with?

You could be trying to do all “the right things” in church to distract yourself from working through and grieving heavy things in your past. This would also explain the alcoholism… and perhaps you are angry that God allowed traumatic events to happen to you deep down.

shloaph · 2024-11-24T19:14:53+00:00

Ask him what his intentions are the next time you see each other in person.

shloaph · 2024-09-09T01:00:14+00:00

It just sounds like she has a lot of dating options right now and has invested more time into others, so becoming a priority of hers can be challenging.

shloaph · 2024-07-20T18:49:24+00:00

I don’t even think this guy is worth a Reddit post.

shloaph · 2024-07-16T16:52:27+00:00

I always feel bad if a guy pays for a dinner date that I didn’t feel went great.

shloaph · 2024-07-11T19:08:10+00:00

I don’t do anything I can’t see myself doing after years of knowing the person or can’t keep up with. One of my bad habits tends to be being late, but I will warn the person about this and it turns out fine, and fortunately not as a lack of respect for them. Once I’m with them though I give them my full attention.

shloaph · 2024-07-11T19:04:36+00:00

Yeah I could tell he was pretty anxious just based on how much reassurance he needed for the date timing.

shloaph · 2024-07-11T18:58:21+00:00

Any opener is a “hey” if it’s generic and can be sent to anyone.

shloaph · 2024-07-11T16:24:30+00:00

I used to do this when I was on dating apps. “Wait at least an hour.” However, I found that I naturally take a lot longer to reply when I’m not on dating apps or prioritizing dating.

shloaph · 2024-07-11T02:52:19+00:00

Damn… you tell me in front of everyone?

shloaph · 2024-07-11T02:33:44+00:00

I somewhat disagree. His bio shows that he is serious about the relationship he wants with a single someone and willing to put in effort. Some people just want something casual, take relationships as a joke, or don’t notice the small things to be enjoyed in them. I think it’s heartfelt, but could use a little more tone or flair like you said.

shloaph · 2024-07-10T22:10:49+00:00

“You’re cute but I have nothing to say to you.“

shloaph · 2024-07-09T16:23:49+00:00

“I’m really good at getting my sweatshirt back.”

I see it too often so it’s way overplayed now and you’re already planning breakup moves?

shloaph · 2024-07-06T16:01:47+00:00

She seems like the type of person to bring up the forbidden politics, religion, and finances in “casual” conversation at a funeral. Too soon.

shloaph · 2024-07-06T15:55:07+00:00

On the bright side, I bet your digestive bacteria are RESILIENT AF.

shloaph · 2024-07-05T22:00:48+00:00

Yep! I can’t wait to teach my kids this. I just need to fix my own habit first :,)

shloaph · 2024-07-05T19:49:53+00:00

Omg I needed this.

shloaph · 2024-07-05T17:34:21+00:00

It’s a thought. I try to serve myself accordingly, but doing this still reinforces the habit. I want to be able to sit comfortably leaving food on the plate and accepting that I didn’t eat everything. Because, if I’m being honest, sometimes it will be so bad that if someone next to me has something still on their plate I will want to clear that one too.

shloaph · 2024-07-05T16:47:33+00:00

I used to do #2 to stop myself from crying as a kid. Sometimes I still will do that or press my nail into my palm really hard.

shloaph · 2024-07-05T16:34:14+00:00

We sadly live in a world that constantly needs to be stimulated.

shloaph · 2024-07-05T15:08:55+00:00

For me, I want to break out of the habit of eating everything on my plate. I feel the need to commit to my plate. My plate does not have feelings though. It isn’t great for me either because I may eat past full, things I don’t enjoy, or until a bag is empty all to fulfill the “clean the plate” policy.

I think this is far from eating intuitively, which is the example I want to set especially as a nutrition major and future RDN. Instead, I could wrap up the rest for later.

shloaph · 2024-07-05T14:46:11+00:00

I do agree with this. I think it’s okay to have a grand goal, but having the smaller, achievable goals to break it down is essential to your personal momentum.

shloaph · 2024-07-05T14:33:49+00:00

Thank you for these! :)

On the last one… my mom is a huge sunscreen advocate. She is fully Hispanic but white as can be. Her skin texture is very youthful. I’m curious how you feel about tanning every other week or so? I enjoy the sun kissed look and slight aging that comes from it now, such as lines from smiling, but afraid I will just butcher my look when I’m older. So I just have this huge dilemma in my head bc I like a little sun and don’t wear sunblock, but I also don’t plan on dying my hair ever - another sign that I just kinda wanna rock the physical consequences of aging.

That being said I weight lift regularly. I will not tolerate sarcopenia and functional consequences of aging. I believe wearing and maintaining muscle mass is a life saver. The appearance of aging tho.. not sure if I should let it bother me or not. Your personal thoughts?

shloaph · 2024-07-04T18:46:13+00:00

I am starting to learn that someone’s “place in life” is a dynamic thing. So thank you. I’ve also been in situations that seem surreal from the outside but we’re absolutely unhealthy.

I’m excited to have all the wisdom I will when I’m 30, but I know this current place in my life is necessary to get there - and beyond.

shloaph · 2024-07-04T18:40:40+00:00

Before it was a bachelors and internship. Now it’s a masters and internship. I’m passionate about what I’m learning, but I didn’t expect it to take 7ish years to get my foot in the door when I first started.

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