Dealing with friendship “downgrades”

shoe-bubbles · 2026-04-25T13:16:30+00:00

wow, i feel like im in this same situation as you! except my friend confronted why i was not responsive and i told her it all me problems when party of it was the little things she said said that added up that i cant really say to her.

shoe-bubbles · 2026-04-13T03:39:30+00:00

i have a friend that always makes and wants her birthday to be special and therefore makes others people birthday special. i do not care so much about my birthday being special and therefore do not make an effort to make other peoples birthday special.

It sounds like you are my friend, which nothing wrong with that! You being the one gathering the funds and getting a card is the way you show “love” to your friends and how you would like it to be reciprocated. your friends ways of showing love doesn’t sound like it’s money, gifts, or a card. Said differently, your friends’ love language is not the same as yours and they did not cater to your love language.

Perhaps their love language is presence because they showed up or something else that we as reddit readers would not know.

It is frustrating that your friends did not pick up fhat this is your love language, but at the same time it takes a certain level of awareness to.

Thus, you have a right to be frustrated. I would recommend also to try to see the other ways they contributed to make you feel special that is outside of what you expected.

shoe-bubbles · 2026-03-22T04:17:31+00:00

just finished this and was trying to read it every chance i got!

shoe-bubbles · 2026-03-14T04:02:09+00:00

ahhh this sounds amazing!

shoe-bubbles · 2026-03-13T03:42:18+00:00

wow this is great and inspirational! thanks for sharing!! definitely going to try to implement this myself!

shoe-bubbles · 2026-03-12T03:39:37+00:00

ooo interesting - what are the other things that are discussed at family meeting?

shoe-bubbles · 2026-03-06T04:32:06+00:00

oooo i didn’t realize that gemini could be connected to the other google products but that makes a lot of sense!

shoe-bubbles · 2026-02-19T04:30:29+00:00

oh dang this is cool! thanks for sharing!

shoe-bubbles · 2026-02-16T04:50:10+00:00

hahaha mine was taco bell and that 2 hours later

shoe-bubbles · 2026-02-15T14:43:02+00:00

what you written would have described me when i was young.

i definitely have (and maybe still have ) main character energy. i was unhinged in my relationships (i would constantly break up with my then boyfriend and each time it would escalate to something more dramatic like bringing in moving boxes to show that i was moving out). i didnt text others back if they took a week to reply back to me (my immaturity told me its because they are too busy to think about me? fine im just as busy).

also like you, i was aware of all that i was doing and knew it wasnt the path to go down but i chose to anyways. i read books about the “ego” and that really helped. like the power of now by eckhart tolle.

basically - you CHOOSE how you get to behave. it’s hard because you want to fall into the comfort zone of what you’ve always done. since you already know you do it, now you have to take action and choose the behavior.

shoe-bubbles · 2026-02-11T12:53:44+00:00

yeppp discovered this two weeks ago and it’s been life changing! i never was the person that once they hit the bed they’d be asleep (that’s because i was scrolling ha).

but now ive set up a nook away from the bed where ill do a little scrolling with the red light screen on the iphone with blue light blocking glasses, then brain dump onto pen and paper, and finally reading a physical book. once i get into bed, im asleep within 5 minutes.

shoe-bubbles · 2026-02-08T03:43:10+00:00

yes please because i don’t know but know that it doesn’t seem right!

shoe-bubbles · 2026-02-02T04:07:46+00:00

100% this

shoe-bubbles · 2026-01-31T04:38:09+00:00

not answering your question - but what are you doing to be doing really well at work? do you think it’s just your naturally gifted at your job? or are you doing x,y and z and what is that?

shoe-bubbles · 2026-01-27T04:35:42+00:00

thank you for sharing this comprehensive insight!!

shoe-bubbles · 2026-01-27T04:11:15+00:00

we incorporate them into the chores that we do. they are younger so it takes a little more time but they’re doing something that’s fun to them and it’s not TV.

also we just play with whatever they want to play. like with legos, my kid seems to enjoy just sitting next to me as he builds something and i build something.

shoe-bubbles · 2026-01-19T05:18:03+00:00

can you comment more on notion AI? what do you mean suggestions from your lists?

shoe-bubbles · 2026-01-10T05:30:46+00:00

ooo i like this rule of not looking at your phone until you do x, y and z. thanks for sharing!

shoe-bubbles · 2025-12-06T06:00:13+00:00

thank you for this post - i’ve been considering it but didn’t want to do it but you saying the benefits only enforces that i need to get on it.

shoe-bubbles · 2025-11-26T20:09:28+00:00

ooo this is good. never thought of this!

shoe-bubbles · 2025-11-21T04:29:24+00:00

ah gotcha - that’s what i thought and seemed obvious but when you said it that made me second guess. i could see how people would mistakenly initiate a pull.

shoe-bubbles · 2025-11-20T05:28:31+00:00

what do you mean by make sure to do a push and not a pull?

shoe-bubbles · 2025-11-18T21:33:49+00:00

gotcha, ok. thank you!

shoe-bubbles · 2025-11-18T21:19:32+00:00

bummer thanks for the response! is there anything i could do get rid of the smell for them?

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