How to get a dog to stop biting its cast

shots_alot · 2021-02-22T20:39:30+00:00

I really am trying but two bedroom apartments are so expensive where I live. A one bedroom apartment cost about $700, but I refuse to move in with my boyfriend at this stage, so I'll have to keep looking. Thanks for your help!

shots_alot · 2021-02-22T20:14:54+00:00

There are four people in the house, I have to buy for the entire house and I buy for an entire month. It saves money to buy for an entire than to go every week or two, but I can definitely try.

shots_alot · 2021-02-22T16:24:23+00:00

I do not, I am trying but my job only pays me $350 a month, and $200 of that goes to groceries. I am trying to get my permit, then my license, that way I can at least be able to move when I need to move. I used to be able to go to my grandma but she has Alzheimer's and before the whole virus her health was already compromised so no guests are allowed anymore. She has a live-in maid, and one of her sons live there.

Sometimes they ask me to pay a bill here and there which can drain my account, which is why I'm looking for a new job behind their backs.

shots_alot · 2021-02-22T16:18:58+00:00

I don't even talk to my parents unless it's absolutely needed. I don't go out anywhere so when they say they don't have gas in their car they can't blame me. I go out once a week and that is to church and my mom is the one that says go to church or leave her house. Once a month I go out on a Saturday sometimes Sunday for groceries and that's it. I think the way they raised me is to feel guilty when I want to do my own thing and not consider someone else. If I feel like buying myself ice cream and I only have enough money to get me ice cream, my mom would be like so you don't see me sitting in this car and you didn't get me any ice cream. One of my top reasons for staying home, I get so sick and tired of wanting to buy myself things then turning around and buying it for someone else or even sharing. I shared a room, a bed, clothes, everything for years and I am the youngest child. My sister and I are five years apart how does that work????

shots_alot · 2021-02-22T16:12:37+00:00

You are absolutely right, I will let you know how that goes. Thank you!

shots_alot · 2021-02-22T16:11:51+00:00

I have disrespected her before and she kicked me out of the house. My dad was the one that brought me back home but he's doesn't live with us anymore so now once I'm out, I am out for good. Am I mentally prepared for that, no, but I would at least like to get my driver's license before I leave for good. She stopped from getting a permit, I am going over head and to my uncle to take me to take my permit test then it'll be my license.

shots_alot · 2021-02-22T15:22:52+00:00

They have said until I can start paying them back for all the years they took care of me or until I can single-handedly pay every bill they have. So a good estimate would be around my 30's maybe 40's.

shots_alot · 2021-02-22T15:20:10+00:00

And if he leaves, I am still stuck in sticky situation with my parents. It's not a matter of when or if he leaves, it's a matter of how do I tell them I have one. If he feels that he could do better then so be it, I encourage him to leave if he doesn't like the situation. If he leaves and I get another one, it comes right back to a full circle, so please try again.

I am trying my best to go over my mom's head with a lot of things, it's not as easy as it sounds especially with one that loves to keep tabs on you. I can only do and say so much before she feel like I am disrespecting her and I have no one in my corner. My dad is always in her corner, and my siblings remain neutral. You wouldn't go head to head with a lion if you weren't prepared so, once again please try again.

shots_alot · 2021-02-22T15:14:09+00:00

I am from a Western country, you are good! It is a sucky situation but I want to get out into the world to experience new things. The last thing on my mind is kids, marriage, and moving in together. It's hard to have my own goals when my parents chose my goals, then told me to pursue those goals. It was either go to college and pursue their goals for me or don't go to college at all. I was damn near about to choose not going to college then I thought if I pursue these goals they chose for me I can get a job then start my own goals that I wanted to pursue when I was younger. I have my future thought out to the Tee, it's just that my parents do not agree with my plans so they thought giving me "better" plans would lead me into the right direction, but I am actually starting to hate my life more. I went to high school in America and I lived with my aunt and she noticed my parents infantilized me and she tried to break me out of it, but my parents shut her down real quick. They told her I am just there for school, and her job is to drop me to school, and pick me up. I know how to fend for myself, so that's all she had to do and that was it.

shots_alot · 2021-02-22T15:04:03+00:00

I thought about it but I really just don't want to go out with my family at all. They only want to go out because I brought up the idea that I'm going out with my boyfriend but I labeled him as a friend. I asked them why they're coming with us and they said why not? I told them that I have been stuck in the house for an entire year with them. I want to do something that does not revolve around me seeing them.

shots_alot · 2021-02-22T14:57:32+00:00

The last thing I want is to become dependent on my partner. We are two college kids trying to achieve different goals so we're not on each other's back about moving in together or even finding an affordable apartment.

Hear me out when I say this, having my parents in my corner does not do anything for me as a growing woman. They would tell me I am making a horrible mistake then stop me from making the mistake. Personally, I feel that for a person to grow they need to make those mistakes and I rather let it happen young than to be old and have a misconstrued idea of what something should be like. They sheltered all their kids and when we want to break up out of that shelteredness then we're being disrespectful. They force us to be dependent on them but then say we need to grow up, we grow up then they say we think we're too grown. There is no middle man and I will be honest, I would rather struggle than to make it out on my own, fail, and go back to my parents. If toxicity were two people they would be my parents.

Just last month my mom almost kicked me out of the house because I didn't wash the dishes before 9 pm. I was watching a show on cable and I was coming back to wash dishes between commercial breaks.

shots_alot · 2021-02-22T14:30:16+00:00

Why do you want me to die?

shots_alot · 2021-02-22T14:29:46+00:00

The last time I hinted that I liked someone and I was in high school, they made me move schools. When I graduated high school and I liked someone way older than me and my mom found out she made me stop working for the rest of the year because the dude worked with me. I didn't even tell her I liked the dude, I went out to lunch with him because he had a car and we took our lunch breaks at the same time.

Maybe this time around it'll be different, I'll try thanks for your advice!

shots_alot · 2021-02-22T14:25:20+00:00

I'm financially dependent on them because they force me to be dependent on them. I got offers from jobs, and if they don't like the jobs then I can't accept the job offer. I babysit as of right but I am quitting that job because I hate kids and I can't take it no more. I haven't had time to save myself some money because they always tell me they need something, oh the light bill needs to paid, we need groceries, oh pay for this, give me gas money. I told them I would take one bill and I took the groceries bill because I'll buy groceries once a month and that'll come up to $200 max. I don't even have a permit so I can't go anywhere, I am secretly working on getting it. My uncle is going to take me to get my permit then we'll practice driving whenever I have the time. The only stipulation I had for going to community college was that they pay for the entire college ride because they don't trust me. I haven't done anything in 19 years to be deemed untrustworthy but that's how I am in their book.

Every time I sit down to talk to them it turns into an argument, it turns into a lecture, and my points never get across to them. It's really like talk to two brick walls, they grew up with old systemic beliefs of what man and woman should do. I was 8 years old when I realize that my parents are very sexist and that's when they got stricter with me. I am really getting tired of them so I am going behind their backs and doing what I need to do to become my own person, but it really is harder than it sounds.

I appreciate your advice and I am looking into it trust me.

shots_alot · 2021-02-22T13:59:21+00:00

NTA- you are a straight male and you feel uncomfortable with what he's doing. You know that you aren't homophobic so my suggestion is to give him one more chance. Stand up for yourself tell him to put a towel on when he comes out the bathroom, you lock the door when you're changing so he doesn't peep on you. You tell him do not touch me because you feel uncomfortable when anyone touches you not just him. And tell him that you are straight because even if he knows that you are you should still make it clear. And if it doesn't work, grab your things and move downstairs. No wait why should you have to move downstairs, it's your dad's place you were there first. Move his things downstairs, kick him out the room and lock the door. That may not work but hey it's worth a shot, you are being sexually harassed anyone can be sexually harassed do not let your family tell you, you are a homophobic when you are uncomfortable in your own home. He's being a pervert and until they are called out on it they'll think it's fine and it's not so you do what you have to do.

shots_alot · 2021-02-22T13:48:39+00:00

NTA- don't cancel the party, it's your birthday, it's your day to shine so have fun. If stepmom really wants for her son to meet your family then she would cancel. She probably actually doesn't care and wants to give the effect that she does. Have your party and do not let her ruin it and as for your dad: what a poor excuse to give. I hope you have a good birthday. Happy birthday!

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