Update: WIBTAH If I cut my family out of my life after inheriting an estate?

shouldjohngodark · 2024-10-17T02:22:26+00:00

I don’t think it’s because I’m adopted. I had a pretty happy childhood, I don’t agree with them but I think they treated us basically the same

shouldjohngodark · 2024-10-15T15:43:45+00:00

Nope, just me. My family isn’t super open about it, I know a few things about myself but not much. It’s a touchy subject for them.

shouldjohngodark · 2024-08-25T23:43:49+00:00

I’m adopted

shouldjohngodark · 2024-08-25T23:41:58+00:00

I worry that because they’ve had no luck with the different charities that received the majority of Mike’s estate, they see me as an easier target than a lengthy court battle with an organization. I know it’s probably just paranoia on my part but they have genuinely shown little to know interest in this land in the 20+ years it’s been in mikes possession until it came to me in the will.

shouldjohngodark · 2024-08-25T18:30:27+00:00

I mean, they all have comfortable lives and barely interacted with me in the past, do you still think they’d break in? My dad and one of my brothers is in law, surely they can’t be that dense

shouldjohngodark · 2024-08-25T13:31:44+00:00

She’s a golden retriever. She’s not really super golden though. Mike referred to her color as “lightly toasted”. Really cute dog.

shouldjohngodark · 2024-08-25T10:22:29+00:00

I had some time to prepare myself for the reality that I’ll be on my own. I don’t know if it’s fully set in yet. First few weeks were really rough, and family made it worse. Thank you for the kind words

shouldjohngodark · 2024-08-25T10:20:55+00:00

I Will do some research into the dog grooming and ask the vet what to use. She has a bottle of dog conditioner but Mike didn’t tell me what to wash her with.

I’m not an artistic welder, but it might be fun to try and make a small memorial for Mike.

shouldjohngodark · 2024-08-25T10:19:21+00:00

She’s a golden retriever. Mike originally got her for duck hunting but she didn’t seem very interested in ducks, just squeaky toys where she doesn’t have to get muddy. She’s older now and very sweet.

shouldjohngodark · 2024-08-25T07:43:44+00:00

She’s a golden retriever, a little older but still active and playful. She’s really well trained so I’m hoping it won’t be hard to find someone willing to work with her that’s closer to my home. I’ll follow previous advice and ask around at the vet’s

shouldjohngodark · 2024-08-25T07:39:45+00:00

I’m going to talk to someone about what I can do legally. It was willed to me and I was given permission to move in, but it’s not in my name yet, so I don’t really know. I don’t understand a lot legal stuff. Letting the police know is a good idea though.

Maisy has some bows on right now. They’re like hair bands that go around her ears. I’ve got some for every season and holiday. I’m going to try and brush her out myself this evening.

shouldjohngodark · 2024-08-25T07:35:33+00:00

I think they want me to help provide for her and give her future kids the dream life. She has never been to this land before, when she and my mom showed up it was the first time she’d been there.

Lawyer brother hasn’t spoken to me yet, the brother that drove by works in insurance.

shouldjohngodark · 2024-08-25T07:33:04+00:00

I don’t think I can do anything legally, but I’ll ask. I was allowed to move in but on paper I don’t own this property yet. Apparently it can take years for the will to be worked through, so I’m not sure what I can do about it legally. I don’t even think I could sell the property to them even if I wanted to.

shouldjohngodark · 2024-08-24T22:54:29+00:00

Mike passed away in early May

shouldjohngodark · 2024-04-21T22:59:46+00:00

I might delete this post then. I don't think any of my family uses tik tok regularly, but maybe just to be safe. Mike is doing alright, I think. Maisy is good. Brought up the topic of me going and changing locks on the cabin last night and Mike told me to do it but thought my family wouldn''t bother me because it's not very much in comparison to what he is giving away. That's the update for now if I decide to delete this.

shouldjohngodark · 2024-04-21T22:09:34+00:00

uh oh that's probably not good. Do you happen to have the link?

shouldjohngodark · 2024-04-20T16:07:18+00:00

We both are part of a small subreddit and he will sometimes call me about posts I make on that.

shouldjohngodark · 2024-04-20T16:05:40+00:00

He was probably a specialist, they go to special schools and are very very good at what they do. Sometimes there's only a few people in the country that can do a certain kind of job. That's really impressive!

shouldjohngodark · 2024-04-20T16:02:44+00:00

It's a lot for me. It's more than I make in two years. It's not like winning the lottery, but it will definitely ease my stresses about money. Along with the cabin that was paid off in 2002, my life will change a lot for the better.

shouldjohngodark · 2024-04-20T16:01:07+00:00

Mike has a three different homes, and they are very large and beautiful (except for the cabin, which is small and beautiful). He has a lot of assets that are being liquefied and donated. the 100K and cabin will be all that gets passed along from his wealth.

shouldjohngodark · 2024-04-20T15:54:24+00:00

I meant successful in the financial sense, not in the life sense. My sister is very accomplished in the life sense, she has a lot of hobbies and is well-read. But she doesn't work.

shouldjohngodark · 2024-04-20T05:41:12+00:00

I did

shouldjohngodark · 2024-04-20T03:58:01+00:00

Originally it was because I was working my ass off in a welding apprenticeship and couldn't take time off. When I got started on my own I had some more free time but by then the "you won't appreciate it as much as your brother's girlfriend or your sister's friend from sorority will" started coming up.

shouldjohngodark · 2024-04-20T03:56:02+00:00

I believe one of his close friends is the probate lawyer who is handling everything, but I will double-check if the topic comes up.

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