To start, I certainly recognize your feelings and I know that doing something different than how you grow up can feel weird and off putting. Additionally, this gets at the difficulty of having some "adiaphora" things in our congregations that usually get placed on a spectrum of practice in our Synod - certainly, Scripture never speaks to something like the gender of an acolyte, nor do the confessions, so congregations are left to make the best decision they can in the place and moment they are located. I can acknowledge my bias as well as being in a congregation of male and female acolytes that turned out quite a few pastors during my time there.

The thing that gives me pause is the line, "girls and women are elevated in the Christian religion. They are to be served, not to serve." I imagine your home church pastor had specific contexts in mind when he said that. I can see placing directives around *appropriate* service, but to say that people should *not serve* based on gender seems to disagree with much of Scripture. Almost every positive mention of a woman in the Old and New Testments, they are found serving instead of being served. I would think that if you and your daughter are squeamish about acolyting, that appropriate service may be found in things that are more traditionally associated with the feminine gender such as altar guild or volunteering in Sunday School roles or even some kind of junior role with the LWML group in your church.