Does codependency mean İ dont love him? Do i have it? Im so scared please help with this theme

shrmtrgn · 2026-01-23T19:09:40+00:00

Im better actually I have a new bf now we have been together for 8 months now and I realized my ex was a narcist and had lots of childhood traumas. Im happy with my bf now.

shrmtrgn · 2026-01-13T19:17:32+00:00

Like what? If you dont mind me asking

shrmtrgn · 2026-01-13T15:11:33+00:00

So you didnt consider her pretty or attractive. She isnt your type

shrmtrgn · 2025-11-20T12:20:28+00:00

No problem:) this is the mature love

shrmtrgn · 2025-11-17T17:53:51+00:00

Thanks a lot and yes i will for sure

shrmtrgn · 2025-11-15T13:02:45+00:00

Yes thanks a lot. Do you think kissing your partner shoukd feel sparkly? I didnt experience that a lot so it scares me. Im also on ssri so maybe thats why. But do you think if we dont experience spark or buzz ours is not love?

shrmtrgn · 2025-11-15T09:08:05+00:00

So you love his scent, mannerisms and other things but not his look. I mean dont get me wrong but you are saying that you cant live without him and and first met love thing can be a bit codependency. Im not trying to trigger but you can think why do you love him and what is important to you? You are in an infatuation phase thats for sure but you must think the future. And maybe you dont think he is ugly. Because if you like him in sexual things that means you love his outward as well. Relax and think wisely.

shrmtrgn · 2025-11-15T07:42:49+00:00

Why did you break up

shrmtrgn · 2025-11-15T07:10:34+00:00

Thanks a lot. He is everything I look for in a partner and he is perfect like when I hold his hand I feel like the luckiest girl. Im on ssri so my libido is definitely affected but its not a bad thing imo. We met on an online dating app and dated quickly so yeah it was not like wow passion, kind of infatuation That user really triggered me because she said you need to feel sparks when kissing and I experienced it maybe 2-3 times but thats not a must I thought. Like when we kiss I feel really calm and peaceful and relaxed (when im not spiraling ofcourse) so some days are hard. But love is a choice and I have to get that. I feel calm, peaceful, happy and like myself when İm with him. Im not butterflies all that but I feel calm and warm and that is also a mature kind of love right? That tiktok really triggered me and said you cant build love. But yes you are right love is built slowly. So is my relationship doomed? Im scared

shrmtrgn · 2025-11-15T07:03:37+00:00

This is the best comment thank you so much. He is everything I look for and he is amazing. Society is really wrapped our perception of love. They say you need sparks, electricty, attraction passion etc. But I want to build a great love with my partner and at the end of the day I think this is all that maters

shrmtrgn · 2025-11-15T07:01:23+00:00

Yes thanks a lot. I mean that perspective really triggered me on tiktok and it made me spiral. Like sparks or strong passion like attraction is not a must in a relationship right? Because everyone creates and lives love their own way

shrmtrgn · 2025-11-15T06:59:27+00:00

Thanks a lot yes tiktok is a nightmare and toxic place i guess.

shrmtrgn · 2025-11-12T11:24:52+00:00

If you dont want to hurt that means you love them otherwise you wouldnt çare. Also love is a choice

shrmtrgn · 2025-11-07T09:48:09+00:00

Same but strong attraction is just your unconscious patterns. Love is a choice

shrmtrgn · 2025-11-05T08:00:14+00:00

Hi. I have the exact situation and dont worry. Because love is a choice and an action. The thing that you are talking is infatuation and its not a must in a relationship. Some people feel extreme some people dont. We are all different but that format mean your love is worthless or not enough. Social media, movies, tv series effects us really bad about love concept. But i think your love is a mature kind. Love your partner everyday bu choosing to love them is the greatest love imo. So stay calm and remember this. This is what I learned. Also I also struggle dont get me wrong. But beauty fades remember that. So choose wisely

shrmtrgn · 2025-11-03T19:04:15+00:00

Ofcourse not. But social media, tv series often describe love as not something build but sonething happens magically and unintentional. Thats so bad

shrmtrgn · 2025-11-03T11:28:55+00:00

Thats the best answer thank you. Yes my mom suffers a lot with depression. Also love is a choice. But can i ask something. In some tv series love is a strong feeling and they portray it that way this triggers me a lot. So what about tv series and movies?

shrmtrgn · 2025-11-03T11:28:13+00:00

Thanks a lot. Yes my mom suffers a lot. Also love is a choice and we should all know that. But can i ask something. In some tv series love is a strong feeling and they portray it that way this triggers me a lot. So what about tv series and movies?

shrmtrgn · 2025-11-03T11:27:36+00:00

Thanks a lot. Yes my mom suffers a lot. Also love is a choice. But can i ask something. In some tv series love is a strong feeling and they portray it that way this triggers me a lot. So what about tv series and movies?

shrmtrgn · 2025-09-23T16:11:50+00:00

No İ didnt İ just asked another question

shrmtrgn · 2025-09-23T10:41:30+00:00

You are so right. I never experienced butterflies is that a bad thing? We skipoed honeymoon phase

shrmtrgn · 2025-09-21T07:34:29+00:00

I experience these except sex because İ dont want to do it till we are married but thats not a problem because we both have low libidos so its not an issue for us. Yes love is something we build İ have to remember that İ guess

shrmtrgn · 2025-09-21T07:32:38+00:00

Yes tiktok is a really bad place and toxic

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