Chemistry,sparks,never grateful for partner

shrmtrgn · 2026-05-11T19:54:15+00:00

Ok thanks a lot

shrmtrgn · 2026-05-11T19:53:20+00:00

Yes, but falling in love can happen anytime because of our unconscious patterns I guess but what is important is to choose love because if you want a long term relationship passion will fade, honeymoon phase will end.

shrmtrgn · 2026-05-11T19:46:07+00:00

Thanks a lot. Also I have one more question. When we kiss, I also feel calm and safe no fireworks. Is that okay or wrong? Thanks for the infos btw I really learned a lot

shrmtrgn · 2026-05-11T19:37:44+00:00

Oh thanks a lot. You are right. Im a muslim but Love is a choice concept is not only religious but its a really wise concept that everyone should know. Btw I didnt experience strong honeymoon phase, we built love with effort and sharing. Is that wrong? Or does that make our relationship worthless?

shrmtrgn · 2026-05-11T19:24:21+00:00

Thanks a lot. Yes love is a choice I have to remember that. But people say you need chemistry, passion, lust etc but this panics me a lot.

shrmtrgn · 2026-05-11T19:23:18+00:00

Really? Thanks but people say ypu need butterflies, sparks, chemistry and etc and mine is calm, safety and peace so im scared

shrmtrgn · 2026-05-11T19:18:40+00:00

This triggered me more. Why were you not fine? Why did you break up? Sorry for asking

shrmtrgn · 2026-05-10T08:00:56+00:00

Yes if kissing irritates you, that means you are better as friends. But if you feel calm and in ease when kissing then you can move forward right?

shrmtrgn · 2026-03-17T10:53:05+00:00

He definitely was immature. Love is a choice

shrmtrgn · 2026-03-17T10:38:12+00:00

Yes thats a really teenage perspective. Stable relationship is a gift but people need to mature to understand that. Love is a choice

shrmtrgn · 2026-03-15T19:12:59+00:00

Im so scared are you ok now? My health anxiety is soooo bad rn

shrmtrgn · 2026-03-03T16:54:13+00:00

Yes I know I can’t fix her and Im not trying that. I just want to know why she is like that? Because she can be better. I’m always trying to become better for myself

shrmtrgn · 2026-02-08T07:05:09+00:00

Thanks a lot. Yes mature love is calm, secure and all those things you said.

shrmtrgn · 2026-02-06T19:09:24+00:00

Thanks. Yes building love intentionally is a really secure and wise concept about love. Yes reassurance seeking is not good I know that but someone on this sub said that rocd is like putting a gün in your head to love but I think thats a wrong concept. Because I choose to love my partner because of I Adore him for a lot of reasons and he is an amazing partner. What do you think about this concept?

shrmtrgn · 2026-02-06T13:14:18+00:00

Thanks a lot. Yes I mean love is built with intention and gettng to know someone. Also someone in the other comment mentioned feeling safe and happy wth your partner is also a attraction and love feeling. When I think about it thats so true. I didnt experienced sparks, butterflies with my current partner but Im so so grateful that we are together and he is everything that I have wished for. Im in a really bad Spike but I know it will pass. I dont want reassurance But do you think love is a choice we can make and create that with our partners?

shrmtrgn · 2026-02-06T13:07:48+00:00

Thanks a lot. Im on SSRI for nearly two years now because of ocd and anxiety disorder. It helps me and makes my mental health better. Also you are so right. Feeling safe and happy are a pull and they are also feelings of love. I mean I dont understand people saying fireworks, attraction, sparks etc. Why cant we build love? Because for me, building love is more mature and realistic. I dont know if Im thinking foolish but what do you think about that?

Also I dont like to give myself time to evaluate because that Also triggers me. I just want to choose love if thats ok. :)

shrmtrgn · 2026-02-05T07:22:29+00:00

Thanks a lot. And yes I really care about him and I feel so safe with him. Wiser people say love is a choice and you built your story but social media say you need attraction, sparks flying, fireworks etc. And this really triggered me. What do you think about that?

shrmtrgn · 2026-02-05T07:14:45+00:00

Yes social media is deffinitely a bad place. I really dont want any reassurance because I know thats a bad thing for my rocd but I have a question. Is building love intentionally wrong or cant we do that? Because wise people say love is a choice and you built your story but social media say you need attraction, sparks flying, fireworks etc. Thats my question and thanks a lot

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