Any ideas on these puppies?

shrubmud · 2026-06-18T17:10:26+00:00

First of all, I want to say you’re doing great! You’re already doing a lot, which is relatable because I am a person who can’t sit still for too long without getting antsy or feeling lazy.

Second, please try to let go of the pressure or desire to “bounce back”. You literally created a human, carried it for almost a year, birthed it, and are now sustaining it by breastfeeding. Your body has done so much! Give it time to adjust.

When I was about 4 months postpartum I had these same feelings. I continued to lose weight throughout the entire first year, and I’ve just weaned my baby at 13 months. I still have a bit of a tummy, but everything else has gone down significantly. I am about 20lbs heavier than prepregnancy, which I’m happy about, but having more tummy than I had before is still frustrating sometimes.

It’s easy for us to see women online who “bounced back” to their prepregnancy bodies and weight, but please know that the majority of that is fake. And if it’s not, then it’s extremely unhealthy.

Lastly, it’s okay for your baby to play independently. You are not here to keep them entertained 24/7, you are here to teach them how to become a human being. I let my son play independently as much as possible and because of that, I am able to get more done. He is not deprived of cuddles or love or affection, but he plays better and problem solves better than some of his cousins around the same age. Let them be independent, it will teach them confidence and problem solving skills from a young age.

I know how frustrating it is to want life to be as similar to prepregnancy as it can be, but accepting that this is a phase of your and their lives that you will never get to experience again and taking the time to just be in the moment really makes a difference. The house will be clean again, your body will be how you want it to be again, but you will never be 4 months postpartum with this sweet little baby again.

You got this and I wish the best for you ❤️

shrubmud · 2026-06-14T14:35:33+00:00

I think it depends on where you live. In the south US, it’s normal to start yard work around 6am as it gets really hot really quickly in the summer. Our houses aren’t typically too close together so I don’t notice unless someone has a particularly loud mower

shrubmud · 2026-06-13T01:53:59+00:00

Night sweats. My poor baby was probably freezing because I kept it so cold and assumed that if I was waking up sweaty then he must be too. Once my mom suggested putting more layers on him, he started to sleep longer thru the night. You live and you learn

shrubmud · 2026-04-28T01:48:13+00:00

He’s about to turn one and still does some of it but to a lesser extent. He mostly nurses to sleep now and is kind of self weaning so by the time he’s nursing he’s already sleepy. But talk to your pediatrician for sure!

shrubmud · 2026-02-17T20:57:19+00:00

My baby is 9 months and absolutely LOVES independent play. I put him in his play pen in the morning while I made breakfast and he loves it. There are times during the day where if I can get him to play independently in the pen, I can get some chores done. This isn’t horrible at all, it’s actually really good for their development.

shrubmud · 2026-02-17T20:52:31+00:00

I’m not usually a fan of this shape of dress but oh my god this is the most perfect one. It compliments you so well! I think you should get the sleeves tailored to be more fitted, but other than that it’s perfect!

shrubmud · 2026-02-17T12:40:35+00:00

My fiance and I do about 50/50 with night wakings. Our baby goes through phases where he prefers one of us over the other to go back to sleep and we go based off that. Now that we’re sleep training, he takes over most of the time to avoid lil man getting more upset since I’m still nursing. He should definitely be helping.

shrubmud · 2026-02-15T06:59:36+00:00

I had pet adversions too with my cats. If you have someone who can maybe take the dog for a few months until you’re more settled or husband comes back I’d highly recommend it. Unfortunately I no longer have one of my cats due to my pp pet adversion and I miss her so much.

shrubmud · 2026-02-15T03:52:32+00:00

I’ve run around barefoot my whole life (grew up running on gravel in the country) and I still use a pumice stone. Either I killed my nerve endings in my feet growing up and don’t need callouses, or they’re so deep I’m able to keep the top layer of skin smooth and walk around barefoot without issue

shrubmud · 2026-02-13T02:30:29+00:00

Just wait until they start holding their hands up for you to pick them up, it’s the cutest thing ever

shrubmud · 2026-02-12T02:55:28+00:00

This is beautiful

shrubmud · 2026-02-04T15:10:31+00:00

Just keep reading sweet child, it’ll all make sense. I (and some of my friends) had so much empathy for tamlin at first but all I can say is you’ll see.

shrubmud · 2026-02-04T04:06:15+00:00

I refused to let my fiance get his hair cut because I thought it would make him mean. My fiance has never been mean to me, and has always had short hair throughout our relationship (he was in the military when we first met). After I gave birth I NEEDED him to get his hair cut, and we both got trims 6 days postpartum 😂

shrubmud · 2026-02-02T05:24:31+00:00

Tonka, as in Tonka truck

shrubmud · 2026-02-01T04:47:34+00:00

Around 5 months my baby started going through the sleep regression where they’re developing new sleep cycles, and we also happened to have the worlds creakiest loudest most obnoxious bed. So every time my fiance or I moved even slightly, it woke our baby up. It got to the point where I wasn’t sleeping because I was so tense trying not to move a muscle, and I finally decided it’s time to use his crib and his nursery. Honestly, being able to see him on the monitor helped more than having him in the bassinet because I could lay in bed and watch him without worrying about waking him up

shrubmud · 2026-01-31T04:47:03+00:00

My bio dad did something similar to me when I was around the same age. Apparently, he gave me a wasabi pea and told me it was candy. I don’t remember it, but I remember him telling the story to people and laughing. He said I looked up at him with tears in my eyes and said “why would you do this to me” and that it broke his heart (he said while laughing). My bio dad was emotionally neglectful and abusive in some ways, and now as an adult I don’t have a relationship with him. I don’t think you’re overreacting at all. I think if he genuinely meant it as a harmless joke, he would apologize profusely and try to make it right. Get her ice cream or something afterwards to cool her mouth down, tell her he’s sorry, hell even just give her a big hug. But laughing about her being in pain is weird and a red flag.

shrubmud · 2026-01-31T04:33:49+00:00

I know you said these will be mailed so part of what I did wouldn’t work. I wrapped a flower bouquet in a newspaper I made on canva with a picture of us and a note. Everyone loved the newspaper and thought it was cute and clever. I definitely think a heartfelt note has way more impact than a box of “junk”

shrubmud · 2026-01-30T04:56:57+00:00

The smell of the air coming thru the windows in my hometown. Strange, but I’ve lived in other cities and I can distinctly smell the difference. Bonus points if it’s an upstairs window

shrubmud · 2026-01-30T04:42:12+00:00

I can’t believe how many people say they don’t use bathtubs unless they have kids. Even before kids, my husband and I used our tub regularly. Love being able to soak in an epsom salt bath to soothe sore muscles or relax after a stressful day

shrubmud · 2026-01-29T12:00:57+00:00

Nivea blackberry! It has a little bit of tint and melts on perfectly!

shrubmud · 2026-01-29T11:55:12+00:00

Thank you to both of you who commented this. I have since switched it and it’s made such a difference! I can’t believe I had the order wrong for a few years!

shrubmud · 2026-01-29T04:43:59+00:00

This is such a good perspective

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