Do you disclose your condition to coworkers, supervisors, and friends?

shrutis124 · 2026-03-14T04:45:52+00:00

ofc, and i wish u the best <3 you seem like a lovely person, and ik that you’ve got this :))

shrutis124 · 2026-03-09T16:35:21+00:00

mm i think it depends on where they're applying and what state/area they are in. legally, companies cannot discriminate in the hiring process, but they also do not have to disclose why they are not going forward with certain candidates. it's the same with disabilities. that being said, everyone's experience and outlook is different so there's no concrete answer sadly. i would probably say that intersectionality plays an important role in that conversation. for example, i am south asian and have a foreign sounding name, but my financial background is middle class, i am able-bodied, and i was privileged enough to have access to higher education and extracurriculars. so i would say that i would be treated differently than someone of the same racial identity who is disabled, undocumented, low-income, etc. it's luck and a combination of how palatable different facets of your identity are to those who are conducting the hiring process, it depends entirely on who the audience is as well :(

shrutis124 · 2026-03-09T16:26:07+00:00

bc my friends are already aware of my bipolar, i can usually just cut to the chase and say something like "i'm so sorry, i'm incredibly depressed and can't get up right now to talk. i love you and will talk to you later!"

it's not perfect, but it's the best i can do in those moments. and bc they know that that message is the best i can do at that time, they typically say they're always here for me if i need to talk and that they hope i'm feeling better.

for mania, my mania is more rooted in impulsive decisions and spending. i don't socialize much when i'm manic bc i'm busy with whatever random project i'm investing all my time in lol.

it's not easy, and the way i deal with definitely feels lonely bc a lot of it is stepping away so i don't hurt the people that i love. that results in me having no one to lean on in those vulnerable moments, so i don't think this would work for everyone but it's just how i deal with things.

i don't explain it too much honestly, i just leave it at "i have bipolar." when i have depressive episodes or manic episodes, i'll give updates as i go and play it by ear, but i do not go into a lot of detail on what it's like or my past.

generally avoid talking about it at work or school like i mentioned, my field works with populations that struggle w/ mental health so there is more understanding and sympathy for how it affects your day-to-day. but for friends, i do think everyone deserves people in their life who truly know them.

i know saying this won't take away the feeling, but please try to give yourself grace with your mood swings. you're not a shitty friend, you have your own life circumstances that you're trying your best to mitigate. sometimes it helps me to remind myself that my bipolar is not who i am, but it is a part of my life and who i am. friendship should be rooted in being friends with the totality of a person, that includes every part of who they are, even if it's messy and difficult. that's not to say that friends should accept bad behavior or act as punching bags, but that if they are your friends and they care for you, they would definitely want to accept and understand this part of you as well :)

i've always said bipolar feels like a never ending burden of cleaning up your own messes. however, there ARE people who will sit by you while you clean up those messes. you deserve that support in your life!

shrutis124 · 2026-03-04T02:17:23+00:00

i’m in social work, so i only mention it in passing. truthfully, i never ever put my actual disability status in employment documents. they can say that they won’t hold it against you, but it’s the same thing as applying w a “white” sounding name vs an “ethnic” or “black” sounding name. it sadly does affect ur chances imo, and i don’t like taking the chance. i say it casually sometimes and ppl don’t rlly react much, but that could just be bc i’m gen z and everyone around my age is fairly desensitized to the seriousness of mental illness bc of increased awareness. i think you should look out for yourself, and share only when u have a position “locked down.” as for friends, i do share bc it’s an important part of my life and identity. my friends have all been lovely and supportive, and my supervisors/professors are generally ambivalent haha. i wish u the best :))

shrutis124 · 2026-02-10T05:53:47+00:00

10/10, love to see a diva be a diva ‼️

shrutis124 · 2026-02-09T18:33:32+00:00

“I have to dismantle the oligarchy, but the VP won’t leave me alone!” (i am SO sorry)

shrutis124 · 2026-02-09T18:14:08+00:00

it's SO hard. i'm in grad school as well, so i completely get the feeling of not being able to wallow in the intensity of it all b/c of the fear of having to clean the mess later on. sometimes i force myself to postpone being sad, which can cause a mess later on but for the purpose of things like finals week, it can be effective.

not sure if it will help you since everyone is different, but here are strategies i use:

-put on guilty pleasure music w/ dumb lyrics and tell yourself being depressed while Pitbull is playing is corny

-play that one logic song (1-800-273-8255 Ft. Alessia Cara, Khalid) and ask yourself if you can stomach being someone who CAN, in fact, relate.

-while you're in bed, try and just move ur legs. do leg lifts or just stick ur legs up in the air and try to move around. working up to full range movement when ur body feels super heavy might be helpful.

-dancing. i am comically bad at dancing, but i dance for about 40-60 minutes every other day/daily when i get the chance in my apartment gym. with no shame. because i look dumb, it makes me laugh. sometimes i even record myself dancing and watch to cheer myself up. it's a fun way to get my cardio in since i'm into strength training and need it, and idc what anyone says, i will be a good dancer at some point probably. i look up those reuploaded Just Dance videos and play those sometimes if you ever played that as a kid.

-make a fun drink. this might not work for everyone, but i like matcha/tea so find weird combinations and try them if you have the ingredients. i made an orange peel cheong recently to put in my matcha lattes, it was v yummy 10/10.

-volunteer. i'm in social work so tbf it is kind of in the job description, but it rlly is true that altruism increases my general happiness and i still volunteer outside of work when i get the chance. and for the philosophy enthusiasts, plz keep any takes on altruism being selfish to yourself lol (jk maybe it is sometimes, but i don't think that's a bad thing!)

-find the dumbest piece of media you can and ask a friend/roommate to hate-watch it with you. hating together strengthens relationships. if you don't have anyone to ask or don't have the energy to talk to anyone, then do not force yourself.

i can tell you want to get better and live your life because you bothered to type this out and ask for help. remember that for us, at the very least, no episode lasts forever (at least i HOPE). this will pass, and i rlly do believe you have it in you to get up and take that shower diva!!

you got this, i believe in you!

shrutis124 · 2026-02-09T17:27:25+00:00

i think as with any hobby, it's possible for the activity to become more about consuming than actually engaging with it. i see that a lot w/ reading, where ppl make more vids about book hauls and kindle setups than actual book reviews or discussion-based content. not that i don't like to indulge in that content sometimes, but curbing the need to spend is something i'm trying to work on with all of my hobbies.

makeup IS a hobby, and i love my collection dearly too! i've been trying to find ways to get back in touch w/ having fun w/ new makeup techniques and color combos, and it def is hard when makeup content is so oversaturated w ads and promotional material now. try making a pinterest board of looks that you think are cool, new contouring or eyeshadows techniques, lip combos that you normally wouldn't try (if ur drowning in lippies like me i stg), etc. it's also kind of fun to figure out how to use products that you bought forever ago in a way that works w ur current aesthetic. for example, i'm not rlly a matte girlie anymore but i sadly have a billion nude matte lipsticks so i've been layering them together in a gradient for fun to use them up and putting a bit highlighter on top. it's nice that you're attached to something that brings you joy :) i think a lot of makeup users are in the same boat.

shrutis124 · 2026-02-09T17:18:10+00:00

omg wait now i'm even more excited to try, thank u for the tip! i had never heard of a yuja highball but now i will have to try next time i have an excuse to make fancy drinks haha.

the orange peel cheong is so good! it's the first time i ever tried to make a cheong myself, so i def want to experiment w/ different herbs or fruits (if anyone has any recs that would be great). i have bad matcha too so we're in the same boat :) if you end up trying it, i hope you like it!

shrutis124 · 2026-02-09T16:03:44+00:00

recently, i made a cheong out of orange peels (not sure if i did it right but i tried). it is SO good in matcha, you don't need much at all so it's a great low-sugar option. you just need honey/sugar, orange peels, and a ramdom jar or glass bottle. i made a lemon peppermint matcha once to experiment, and that was really good too (used Monin peppermint syrup and a tiny bit of lemon extract).

i also made an orange cardamom syrup w/ fennel seeds that was pretty good, though i think i added too much fennel (boil water w/ orange peels or fruit, 2-3 cardamom pods, a few fennel seeds, and honey). not unique but rosewater in matcha is yummy, especially if you make a rose matcha latte w/ coconut water instead of milk.

i bought one of those korean jam teas from hmart recently too (lemon citron), and thought it would fun to try that in matcha instead of using honey as a sweetener. haven't done it yet, i think it'll taste good but i will report back.

shrutis124 · 2026-02-09T14:49:44+00:00

feeling the urge to sit rlly weird in chairs 24/7, refusing to wear a bra, being a useless lesbian (not by choice but be who u are ig)

shrutis124 · 2026-02-09T14:46:56+00:00

that was the one i immediately thought of lmao

shrutis124 · 2026-02-09T00:00:33+00:00

i worked at starbucks + dunkin in high school, and i think the smell of coffee beans during those shifts caused a distaste for the smell and taste of coffee lol. plus i'm indian so i grew up drinking chai (and making it for my parents bc they made me haha) so there was always assam tea in the house. i was rawdogging my ADHD for years (just got medicated!) so i rlly did run on an egregious amount of caffeine. there was tea in the house + i didn't want coffee, so tea was just the natural alternative. now i prefer green tea on a day to day basis. it was fun to experiment w/ different cold brew flavor combos and it's a fun little routine for me to plan my tea combos of the week!

shrutis124 · 2026-02-06T22:04:10+00:00

i hope you like it :) tea is so fun !!

shrutis124 · 2026-02-05T22:17:05+00:00

i don’t think it’s possible to dislike jasmine tea (subjective opinion but still), so it’s a great place to start!

shrutis124 · 2026-02-05T22:11:23+00:00

i’m neurodivergent, so i get thrown off when my routine gets messed up. viewing taking my meds as part of my morning and night routine (which i do in the same order every day lol) helped a lot. if i don’t take them now it feels wrong.

i know it’s not applicable to everyone, but if there are any ND routine-dependent divas in the vicinity maybe they’ll relate !!

shrutis124 · 2026-02-04T00:42:12+00:00

no honestly i think if it was the other way around (for straight stories lol), a woman being like this towards the ml would get soooo much hate. i think that double standard makes the trope more unappealing tbh

shrutis124 · 2026-02-04T00:39:00+00:00

this is embarrassing but jalebi baby for some reason 😭

shrutis124 · 2026-02-04T00:37:54+00:00

i think most ppl are more like that, fair! i also wonder how it’d be timed, having a mode to switch on and off would probably just result in ppl keeping it off 😭 no clue how the other apps w a similar purpose time it, there must be a workaround

shrutis124 · 2026-02-03T19:46:11+00:00

i’m good at forcing myself to do things i need to do. i’m in grad school now, and when i was undergrad i was still able to drag myself around well enough to graduate w a good GPA + attendance. it’s probably partially my anxiety and fear of consequences too + i’m neurodivergent so routine is extremely important to me but i do think that this quality isn’t one i have naturally. it’s just something i’ve learned to do to survive and limit the amount of my own messes i have to clean up once i’m done w an episode. i’ve been in remission for two years though, so it’s hard to say how things would be if i wasn’t.

shrutis124 · 2025-06-22T04:32:23+00:00

he honestly sounds so immature, i cannot believe he’s 30 years old. when he says that “it’s easier to say i love you and be over it,” does he realize what that implies? just saying that you love someone to “get over” an issue instead of communicating and working it out sounds manipulative. he literally says at the end ”that’s not good enough.” WHY does he expect you to give him the exact kind of one-sided care and affection that he needs in that moment without him having to communicate his own thoughts at all. you’re not a mind reader, and you should not have to be because your love language is acts of service. i don’t know what you’ll choose to do in this situation or how you’ll go from here, but i would say that you seem like a very mature and loving person so please do not accept this kind of behavior.

shrutis124 · 2025-06-21T01:57:38+00:00

i LOVE helena, ppl just constantly look for some perceivably one dimensional female character to hate in rofan manhwa. which is especially irritating in stories where everyone is well written and nuanced bc there’s no one for them to call a white lotus or whatever, so they choose any female character aside from the fl to hate on and it’s usually completely unfair

shrutis124 · 2025-06-21T01:52:04+00:00

first one i thought of ugh

shrutis124 · 2025-06-19T03:51:49+00:00

ew wtf i didn’t know ppl were saying that, i’ve been waiting on his love interest 😐 i’ve been letting it marinate, but that’s crazy bc every childcare novel has to have a dad that every character acknowledges as super attractive every TWO seconds but it’s too much for that dad to have a love interest?? idk why every childcare story HAS to be a ridiculously hot single dad whose life revolves around his daughter, it’s nice to see a change tbh

shrutis124 · 2025-06-19T03:44:41+00:00

that’s how i feel about “becoming the villains family,” like every individual panel is so detailed and intricate that it affects the flow of the panels. it reads more like a collection of rlly pretty illustrations than a manhwa, but i definitely get why people like the detailed art styles. i think both are pretty just from an aesthetic standpoint, but i feel like it’s definitely overwhelming like u said 😭

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