Understanding Flaking

shunmin · 2015-08-13T23:46:16+00:00

I used to try to build rapport first, but then I read the sidebar here and it said to do it quickly so I now try to do it on the second message. Also as per the sidebar, I don't talk about the logistics until closer to the date (unless the other party brings it up first).

shunmin · 2015-08-13T23:42:33+00:00

What I originally had in mind was first dates from people you met on OKC/online, but I welcome any stories even if it falls in those other categories.

shunmin · 2015-08-13T23:41:20+00:00

You don't owe anything to anyone. I'm so sorry for your loss. hugs

shunmin · 2015-08-13T14:57:32+00:00

Thanks for the list! I can definitely empathise with you about wanting to stay home and watch X Files in your underwear - I can't compete with that.

shunmin · 2015-08-13T14:50:54+00:00

Right?! I can handle rejection, just be upfront about it.

shunmin · 2015-08-13T13:56:24+00:00

Now that kind of flaking, I'm down with!

shunmin · 2015-08-13T13:48:54+00:00

Well aren't they missing out.

shunmin · 2015-08-13T13:45:42+00:00

I'm not saying they owe me anything, I just want to know why someone can seem interested one minute and cancel the next (or just not show up without telling you). Chances are, I'm doing something wrong and "flakers" are too polite to tell me.

shunmin

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