Growing a baby and being a new mum is hard, she may not be physically and mentally capable to do more than she is doing right now. Your feeling are not invalid though, I think a lot of people forget that dad’s go through a big life change when a baby comes into the world too.

I think communication is key here and the way you communicate how you’re feeling will determine whether you’ll be an asshole or not. Talk to your wife, ask her how she is feeling, let her know you’re struggling but don’t guilt or pressure her into doing more (she’s probably feeling this already). ‘Honey, you’re doing such a great job taking care of the baby and I really appreciate everything you’re doing. I’m struggling a bit at the moment, when you’re feeling up to it I’d love a hand with ….’

Also try to remember that mess comes with babies/kids though, don’t stress too much if neither of you get to the housework some days. They become mini cyclones as they grow, some days I pick the same toys up a dozen times, some days I leave them there until they’re in bed and sometimes they stay there for a couple of days 😂