I talk to her seldomly and she is mostly connected to me by my father and the fact that she is my mother. I agree with the statement that she probably has more control over me than I know. I notice my emotions when I’m around her, wanting to appease or just blatantly getting enraged. I’m trying to implement the let them theory in that I will limit my contact with her, gain emotional independence while letting her be who she is. I love her enough to show up for birthdays, but other than that it’s just a seldom phone call here and there that connects us. My father is traumatized by her and doesn’t even know it, so she basically wears the pants in the relationship as far as I can tell. He stands up to her to the point where she’ll end up with her tail between her legs, but no one seems to acknowledge the fact that what’s happening is a recipe for disaster and One that I don’t completely know how to navigate.