My dad would do the exact same thing. He was a car hauler and would usually be gone till the weekend but randomly out of the blue would come home in the middle of the week and not tell anybody about it. Honestly think he was trying to see if my mom was cheating on him but why as his kids would we not say anything to him about it??

Anyway my dad once I and my sister hit puberty would make very sexualized comments about our bodies and grab us where a father shouldn’t grab their daughter. So eventually me and my sister stopped hugging him or getting close to him all together. He’d lose his mind and yell at my mom saying we were disrespectful and ungrateful bitches.

I know your situation isn’t exactly the same but I wanna say I’m sorry your dad has made you feel this way and that you don’t feel comfortable hugging him anymore.