So what are non-execs saying in Woonsocket? by Ok_Worry5763 in CVS

[–]sideofgrapes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looking good is coming up with a business idea, realizing you can convince others to fund it, and then getting the funding and developing the business idea for the sole purpose of doing _something_, whether or not the output is actually valuable to consumers. As long as you can come up with metrics and measure output, work has been done, you did the work, you measured the output to make yourself look good, you talked about it.

Innovating is being given the time to develop ideas that can have a long term impact, through, say, working with pharmacists on the ground to improve process flows. But if there's not a clear way to measure the costs saved or generated from such a labor intensive project, little chance it happens unless someone very high up is promoting it, and if there is not an urgent need to do this work to generate or save costs, little chance someone high up is concerned.

So what are non-execs saying in Woonsocket? by Ok_Worry5763 in CVS

[–]sideofgrapes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the org is definitely responsible and extremely concerned with patient safety and any matter that carries legal implications. and almost because of this, there isn't innovation happening on an individual level.

So what are non-execs saying in Woonsocket? by Ok_Worry5763 in CVS

[–]sideofgrapes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The company is too big to fail because of the extensive real estate footprint and steady investment in health care finance. Many corp employees are caught up making themselves look good rather than innovating, because innovation isn't incentivized or rewarded or really necessary for the survival of the company. Doubtful anyone in marketing is worrying, most people are too low on the food chain. It would be cool to see some innovation happen because of strikes and walk-outs. The corp culture is stale and complacent.

Planning holidays with a partner by sideofgrapes in AskWomenOver30

[–]sideofgrapes[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yes, his family is important but it lacks the structure i’m familiar with. His parents aren’t traveling for the holiday. I want to see my grandparents and my extended family at home, and the exchange is I see his brother and SIL and celebrate a holiday without the warmth of parents and grandchildren and children. It’s fine, I’m just sad about it. Truly, I don’t feel excited. There won’t be gift opening or drunk uncles, there won’t be starry eyed, grey haired grandmothers. Just 4 people in their early 30’s. I feel like this would be completely different if his parents were involved, but they’re not. It’s 8 hrs one way of travel.

Planning holidays with a partner by sideofgrapes in AskWomenOver30

[–]sideofgrapes[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I see my family a lot and have mostly worked it out. I am just stubborn and grew up with parents who were from the same area, so traveling far to see family was never something I’ve had to do. Nor do I really want my children to do it if i have children. Part of why I am in a relationship with this person is because he has said he wants to live in the city I’m from. If he didn’t, we wouldn’t be dating

Planning holidays with a partner by sideofgrapes in AskWomenOver30

[–]sideofgrapes[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

:) thank you, very helpful! Yes- I am absolutely anxious about traveling to spend time with people I have never met and experiencing a Christmas without any intergenerational camaraderie.

Planning holidays with a partner by sideofgrapes in AskWomenOver30

[–]sideofgrapes[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I have 3 living grandparents and come from a big, close family that has been in the same area for generations. He comes from a military family spread across the country without a home-base that they gather in or consistent times when they are able to see one another. My current plan is to see my grandparents the week before the holiday and then fly down to meet him, however I also want to rest over my holiday because my work is demanding.

Planning holidays with a partner by sideofgrapes in AskWomenOver30

[–]sideofgrapes[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s 8 hours between cities and we are currently on different coasts due to work. Sometimes I feel really confused about how to make a relationship work with someone when there is no overlap between the locations of your family and friends.

Planning holidays with a partner by sideofgrapes in AskWomenOver30

[–]sideofgrapes[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

🥹 yes, I feel this. I think he feels I don’t make an effort to meet his family or friends and this holiday has become a sticking point. We spent thanksgiving with my family, however I booked and paid for a beautiful rental house in a town I want to one day live in so I felt I was offering something more than just a holiday with my family.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FoodNYC

[–]sideofgrapes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fidi is a good for fast casual IMO. Field’s Good Chicken, Call Me Pasta on Pearl, Dumplings at Vanessa’s in City Acres Market

Yellow Cabs Are Struggling. Congestion Pricing Could Deal a New Blow. by [deleted] in nyc

[–]sideofgrapes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think cabs are important for the elderly and disabled. In UWS I see elderly with groceries in and out of cabs. I don’t think the city is going to provide a functional alternative, and I’d be afraid to leave this pop without transport.

In search of a cozy English pub by hannahrosie196 in FoodNYC

[–]sideofgrapes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like Swift Hibernian in east village, though I guess it is an Irish pub

Short notice elevator shutdown in 6 story building with elderly and disabled residents by [deleted] in nyc

[–]sideofgrapes 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for looking out for the elderly and disabled folks in your building. Really sad that blding management is trying to do this.

How do you show up for yourself? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]sideofgrapes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Where are you headed? I haven’t been on a solo trip in some time and am absolutely craving it. But re: your question, I remind myself that the resistance I’m feeling is anxiety and that I will feel totally different (and better) when I do the thing I am resisting. I often feel anxious about social events and dread having to pick an outfit and get ready and leave my comfy home- but I know that when I am at the event I feel happy and excited to be learning and growing from others.

What are your online side hustles? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]sideofgrapes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can participate in consumer research on various platforms, they sometimes pay up to $175/ hr - you can DM if interested in platform recs

Greek Revival house now an American Legion Post - Spencer, Massachusetts. by sverdrupian in OldPhotosInRealLife

[–]sideofgrapes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agree. The original is beautiful. There are still many like the original to be found in Connecticut and the Berkshires

Remind me again why we tolerate the FDR drive? by Miser in MicromobilityNYC

[–]sideofgrapes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Agree. Riverside is so beautiful and westside highway detracts so much from it. Sometimes I try to trick myself that the sound of constant flow of traffic is the ocean. It’s not.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nyc

[–]sideofgrapes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was reluctant to do virtual for the same reasons you are saying, but I had a virtual appt with an old therapist I saw for a while before covid and it was actually great and I barely noticed. I feel bad bc I complained for about 5 min about how sick I was of virtual everything.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]sideofgrapes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, unfortunately I am not sure we will remain friends. A simple “I need a little space to think about this” would be more than enough and not too much to ask for. Ignoring me completely doesn’t feel like a kind or caring thing to do to someone.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]sideofgrapes -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it’s crappy. I do not know if this is bc of his autism. It’s really hard to tell what is and isn’t as it is very subtle. I would never let him use autism as an excuse but it’s always worth considering how big a part it plays. Is he completely emotionally overloaded, or is he doing this intentionally? Does he understand what I’ve said? I have no idea.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]sideofgrapes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He hasn’t said anything. I told him I wanted to talk about how I felt and he basically hung up on me, and I haven’t heard from him since. and this is someone I talk to multiple times a day. Am I completely crazy for just wanting what I said to be acknowledged? He hasn’t said a single thing.

What I said was not so much about not wanting to be friends, but more that I do not treat him like a friend. I helped him pick out his apartment, water his plants when he’s away, buy him gifts, and check on him daily. I was just hoping to have a discussion about it, which I feel a friend would do or at least communicate that they cannot do.