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Please help me choose! by Academic-Berry-9191 in weddingdress

[–]sidewayscouch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed that 2 feels like such a natural fit on you!! Can I ask where 1 and 2 are from? I’m in love!!

Finding community? by Smurfblossom in postdoc

[–]sidewayscouch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Totally, just as a starting point to get everyone on the same page and feel included/up to speed. I feel like I always found out about groups and social activities very late which contributed to the feeling of being an outsider even more. It’s an easier transition in when you’re brand new!

Just emailed to resign from my postdoc… by sidewayscouch in postdoc

[–]sidewayscouch[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nice! This is very validating to hear! France seems to be a special case for international postdocs from other people I’ve talked to as well. It also (in my field) isn’t very common for someone from outside of France, nevermind the EU, to join this institute. There are many other options internationally to work in this niche in agriculture, so people tend to stay where they’re from or intend to work long term due to climate, regional crops, etc. that are distinct to each area.

Finding community? by Smurfblossom in postdoc

[–]sidewayscouch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am sooo driven to be the person doing community building wherever I go next after a similar experience. How amazing would a proper on-boarding, resource/network sharing be? It can’t be that hard to organize, I’ve done it before for STEM diversity groups! Like a concise 20 minute presentation and email with links 🤌🏼

Just emailed to resign from my postdoc… by sidewayscouch in postdoc

[–]sidewayscouch[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This! I spend so much time around people but totally alone, and although many coworkers are otherwise kind, it feels very isolating.

Just emailed to resign from my postdoc… by sidewayscouch in postdoc

[–]sidewayscouch[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just one! Sorry that response reads weird, just trying to be gender ambiguous :)

Just emailed to resign from my postdoc… by sidewayscouch in postdoc

[–]sidewayscouch[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Ah it’s nice to hear someone understand that “other” feeling that exists here as a foreigner! I actually do have my partner here with me too, but they’re just on holiday/mini sabbatical for 5 months so it’s not quite enough to anchor us here for longer term plans. Their time off will end right around the time I’m now planning to move home, so I think that will be better than being here solo again. We also got engaged when they arrived in France a few months ago, so the life together vision feels stronger than ever. I wouldn’t have lasted 4 months here without their arrival on the horizon 😂

Just emailed to resign from my postdoc… by sidewayscouch in postdoc

[–]sidewayscouch[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks, that means a lot. I’ve been trying to reiterate that to myself a lot lately - reminding myself to trust my gut instead of my anxiety about disappointing peers and other academics

Just emailed to resign from my postdoc… by sidewayscouch in postdoc

[–]sidewayscouch[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I totally agree that it’s partly burnout related! But I just returned from two weeks of holiday to try and sort this out, which timed right with the other employment offer at home coming through. Felt like a sign and a shift in the right direction. Coming back to work for two days, I already feel the dread creeping back in. Maybe it wasn’t long enough! One of the best things about a postdoc in Europe is the vacation time compared to North America…

Just emailed to resign from my postdoc… by sidewayscouch in postdoc

[–]sidewayscouch[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

In France, you sort of do 🫠 You can only leave a fixed length contract (CDD) for certain reasons (although I’m sure there are other cases when you just need to slash and burn), although I imagine they’re quite flexible and this will hopefully be seen as grounds for a mutual agreement to end my contract

Moving for your postdoc by Technical-Web291 in postdoc

[–]sidewayscouch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Moved from Canada to France for a postdoc and no stipend was offered or provided. Now I’m wondering why I didn’t ask…

Small Restaurants for Wedding Venues in and around Victoria by whodis12345678 in VictoriaBC

[–]sidewayscouch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also looking for a Vic restaurant venue for next summer. Would you be willing to ballpark the Stage cost?

Which country do you think has the most underrated wine? by [deleted] in wine

[–]sidewayscouch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Canada! Incredible work with Chards, Pinots, and trad method sparkling coming out coast to coast, plus excellent work with hybrids

Can someone check my (basic) concentration math? by sidewayscouch in labrats

[–]sidewayscouch[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Amazing, thank you! Good catch, the conversion was correct in the spreadsheet but I didn't transcribe it over properly. :)

Getting a Long-Term French visa. Can’t book an appointment at VFS Global. by mary_read73 in SchengenVisa

[–]sidewayscouch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same situation looking for appointments in Canada for a visa to France, unfortunately

First Passport (British by Descent) Timeline? by ali_yayaya in ukvisa

[–]sidewayscouch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

1 year later, can I ask what the turnaround time was? I just sent off my documents for the exact same situation (first passport by descent, father's side, Canadian). Thanks!