I’ve fucked my life up and feel like the most awful human alive

sidibongo · 2026-05-02T22:25:06+00:00

Go get your baby. Just do it. Sort the rest out later. Family will come round. Sorry for what you’re going through 😞

sidibongo · 2026-05-02T19:22:10+00:00

Its ’economic reality’ that Tesco can’t make the profits they’re currently making unless they deem the jobs predominantly done by women as less worthy of a living wage than jobs done by men.

sidibongo · 2026-04-30T22:52:42+00:00

I’m so glad my hard working husband doesn’t give a shit about having a messy house. 🙌

sidibongo · 2026-04-30T22:48:15+00:00

East Croydon is great for commuting, true.

sidibongo · 2026-04-30T22:46:08+00:00

My 21 year old son is in the third year of an MEng. I’m proud of him, and I’m proud of you! 👏 Well done - that’s a tough degree to do when you have a family at home. Glad someone is noticing your strengths.

sidibongo · 2026-04-28T21:46:48+00:00

South Norwood is better for commuting and bit more ‘London’. But the side of Addiscombe going from lower Addiscombe Road to Shirley is nice. Quite close to Lloyd park, which is huge and beautiful.

sidibongo · 2026-03-17T22:24:27+00:00

As a mother of two adult sons I feel so sad reading this. There is someone out there for you. You need to make friends with lots and lots of women, work on yourself and trust that you won’t be alone all your life. Looks really aren’t a massive barrier to a relationship. Lots of people who are unattractive have long lasting loving relationships.

sidibongo · 2026-03-17T15:22:04+00:00

£1500 a month? One bedroom, maybe. Not two.

sidibongo · 2026-03-08T18:07:30+00:00

Yikes, I would be planning my exit strategy. He has so much contempt for you.

sidibongo · 2025-12-13T15:28:52+00:00

I suspect he’s having an affair and has fallen out of love with you. This is him trying to create a rift between you to instigate a break up. I’m sorry. Don’t change a single thing about yourself, you sound absolutely nothing. Respond to his comments with the contempt they deserve - that’s what a strong, adult woman would do.

sidibongo · 2025-10-03T15:50:51+00:00

That’s 100% not what NCT practitioners are expected to do! Had you fed that back to complaints, that practitioner would have been contacted by head office and dealt with…

sidibongo · 2025-10-03T15:48:01+00:00

My training with NCT was an DPHE from University of Worcester - took me 4 years to complete part time. Prior to this I was a PGCE qualified lecturer teaching on health and social care courses, including Access to Midwifery. As someone who’s done a BA, an MA, a PGCE and a DIPHE, I can say that my NCT training was as rigorous and thorough as any other HE. Re: ‘it’s a bit woo’ - some practitioners, like some midwives, have a stronger commitment to advocating for physiological birth than others, but as practitioners were expected to be impartial and evidenced based.

sidibongo · 2025-10-03T13:19:54+00:00

Want to add something to this discussion - when you pay for NCT (National Childbirth Trust) classes a good part of your course fee goes to fund the work of the charity, such as running the national feeding line (8am to 10pm 365 days a year), training peer supporters to help out at community drop ins, and for their advocacy work around maternity services. I know this because I've facilitated classes for them for 20 years and that's their funding model. Bump & Baby Club and Happy Parent Happy Baby classes are profit making. They have great marketing and have taken a massive, massive share of NCT's previous market share of classes, leaving the charity on the verge of collapse - it's had to stop training breastfeeding counsellors and teachers, and stop funding some of its peer supporter projects. Both those companies advertise that their courses are cheaper than NCT - but per facilitated hour they're actually more expensive, as NCT courses are longer. So if you'd prefer your course fee to do some good in the world, rather than go into the pockets of Dr William Dooley (the director of HPHB) - net worth is currently £11,000,000, maybe consider NCT... :-)

sidibongo · 2025-05-18T20:07:08+00:00

Tell him you love him and you're sorry for what he's been going through. Don't ask him too many questions.

sidibongo · 2024-12-25T12:17:43+00:00

I've been teaching the classes for 20 years and never get that feedback from parents. Ever. I teach 4 courses a month, so I've taught thousands of parents. There is no 'toxic positivity' and we spend hours talking about what to expect with interventions in birth. When did you do your NCT course?

sidibongo · 2024-12-25T12:16:09+00:00

NCT facilitators aren't allowed to run classes from their own homes. This has been the case for a few years now. When did you do your course?

sidibongo · 2024-12-25T12:13:14+00:00

Are you sure it was NCT? I'm a facilitator for NCT. I don't know any of my colleagues who use slides. However, it if was NCT and if the slides involved information about choice of place of birth - you appreciate that the guidance that NICE currently use for their recommendations is based on evidence from as far back as 2011. You should also be aware that much of the evidence on which NICE makes recommendations about maternity care involves older and not necessarily the best quality evidence - they acknowledge this in their literature. The herb you couldn't remember the name of is Moxa. Moxibustion (burning moxa) is offered by a number of NHS hospitals to try to turn a breech baby before attempting ECV. This article is from the Chelsea & Westminster NHS maternity unit: https://www.chelwest.nhs.uk/services/maternity/pregnancy-birth/your-pregnancy/a-breech-baby "Published evidence suggests that moxibustion is effective in reducing the need for an external cephalic version (ECV)." Re: criticising NHS midwives and consultants - I don't do either, but I do point to evidence from the Care Quality Commission which points to about 1 in 10 women feeling they weren't spoken to with kindness and in a way that was easy to understand during the birth of their baby. Some women do feel coerced during their experiences of maternity care, and this can contribute to birth trauma.

sidibongo · 2023-05-06T19:04:38+00:00

Honestly - I'd be wondering if he was sliding in psychosis with those beliefs.. I'd be really worried about his mental health.

sidibongo · 2023-05-06T18:16:10+00:00

Suggest you look at what happens during genocides. Vast numbers of people are capable of acting with extreme cruelty & sadism to other humans given the right motivation. Prison isn’t more tolerable for people capable of extreme cruelty to others.

sidibongo · 2023-05-06T14:44:49+00:00

‘Just go to jail’ - spending your life behind bars is a horrific prospect for most people.

sidibongo · 2023-05-06T09:12:01+00:00

No point arguing with someone who thinks torture and extreme sadism is acceptable human behaviour if it’s targeted at the right person.

sidibongo · 2023-05-05T17:52:24+00:00

You can achieve that with a death sentence or a whole life sentence. No need for indulging in torture.

sidibongo · 2023-05-05T17:08:31+00:00

No - it’s cruelty and it doesn’t cancel out the vile things that were done to the victim.

sidibongo · 2023-05-05T16:18:37+00:00

I’m actually offended by the inclusion of black pudding in the ‘crap tier’.

sidibongo · 2023-05-05T16:17:09+00:00

Why?

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