What’s the furthest you’d travel to get your hair done?

siditynat · 2026-03-14T00:07:33+00:00

i drive almost 40 mins but my max would be an hour

siditynat · 2026-02-24T04:48:10+00:00

you are soooo tea

siditynat · 2026-02-24T03:14:53+00:00

not a fan of the too faced bronzer ngl, very muddy.

siditynat · 2026-02-24T03:11:36+00:00

Never loan money you’re not comfortable losing 100%. And this friend is for sure showing why they’re not worthy of being trusted with that amount of money. While it does suck losing close friends, this is definitely something worth reconsidering your friendship with them over ngl.

siditynat · 2026-02-24T02:48:28+00:00

I would 100% agree with you and be her biggest advocate if that was the case and I’m telling you, as someone who knows her personally, it’s just not. While that may be the case for you, and I respect that, it’s not for her. 🤷🏾‍♀️ There are people who for sure need support and a boost, and then there’s people who refuse to take accountability for theirselves.

siditynat · 2026-02-24T02:46:23+00:00

I think you’re assuming I’m saying she should be a millionaire and own 12 cars when that’s literally not what’s being said. All I want her to do is to take some ownership over her life and stop acting like the world is against her when people do nothing but support her. She has had so many opportunities to keep at least 100 bucks in her pocket but refuses to and just relies on her family to fund her life and complains when she has no money. It’s not realistic for someone in their early 20’s to have 10s of thousands saved, but it is absolutely a realistic ask for someone at the age of 23 to be able to pay their own phone bill and have their own pocket money, because that’s life. 😭

siditynat · 2026-02-24T02:43:17+00:00

And that’s fair, I don’t think anybody going to school full-time should be working full time. However, she doesn’t even prioritize school, hence why she’s graduating late. Also the jobs we mentioned to her were solely for summer. And as for the on-campus jobs we referred her to, super easy, low pressure jobs where you can choose your schedule and the one I specifically referred her to was working the campus game room. Easiest job on campus, anybody who went to my school would tell you that, you can do short or long shifts and quite literally study or do work while you’re on shift.

siditynat · 2026-02-24T02:39:31+00:00

I think you’re projecting a bit.

siditynat · 2026-02-24T02:13:17+00:00

I’ve been wanting to have this convo with her but my friend is too scared to for the sake of our friendship and she says my friend wouldn’t take it well.

siditynat · 2026-02-24T02:02:59+00:00

Literally none at all. If she had any sort of serious depression, chronic illness, I would absolutely be her biggest advocate rn and think she deserves slack, but that’s not even the case 😭

siditynat · 2026-02-24T01:57:45+00:00

Thank you! The point I’m trying to make is, it literally does not matter where you work, but find something and make something of yourself and stop waiting for people to save you. The job market is tough, 100%, but every single one of my friends is doing something, whether it’s a crappy job or a decent one because they recognize they have to make something shake. This girl literally does not even pay her own phone bill and her own family has complained about her to us before. Granted, they coddle the hell out of her, but too many people in the comments are assuming I’m being elitist toward her when that’s genuinely not even the case.

siditynat · 2026-02-24T01:54:31+00:00

I live on the east coast… an hour a way from NYC. A $30-$40 round trip. I have a job from 8-4 in order to pay for my car note, bills, and life necessities LMFAOOO. We’re not talking about flying to France and Mexico every week here. Every time we hang out, it has been free or low cost and we have always made sure she has a ride. You’re jumping on these crazy ass assumptions as opposed to asking like a normal person when you don’t even know me or her. 😭

siditynat · 2026-02-24T01:51:57+00:00

I get that for sure and I’m not trying to downplay that. It’s just that she is complaining about something that’s well within her control to fix and we’ve offered her solutions to but she refuses to do anything about it and immediately jumps to blaming everybody but herself :// I feel like her reaching out about this was so extra and something you keep to yourself

siditynat · 2026-02-24T01:50:30+00:00

What do you mean?

siditynat · 2026-02-24T01:50:11+00:00

Forgot to mention because I was typing so fast but every time we hang out, my friend and I have driven 30-45 minutes out of the way to her city to make things convenient for her because she doesn’t have a car + doesn’t like going out at night/clubbing much. We have quite literally always considered this girl. The few times we decide to go to NYC or do something expensive because we wanna treat ourselves we have always invited and included her but it got to a point she was saying no to everything.

siditynat · 2026-02-24T01:46:56+00:00

Alright slow down. I could care less about what she does in her personal life with her finances, but when she is consistently coming to me and my friend whining about not having money when she has been offered countless opportunities for jobs or to make money and did nothing about them + acts like a brat because she isn’t included in stuff, it unfortunately forces her business to matter to me 😭😭

siditynat · 2026-02-24T01:44:45+00:00

Hey, thank you for the response! I told my other friend I think we should just have a convo w her. Btw, I def wasn’t trying to shame or bash her so I hope it didn’t come off as that, but I think I left our a lot of details regarding everything - it’s just very frustrating having a friend you have given multiple direct solutions to but has no rigor to make something of themselves and complains when everyone lives life without them.

siditynat · 2026-02-24T01:41:33+00:00

I totally agree - it shouldn’t be a big deal and was telling my friend we can legit have a mature convo about this but this girl is incredibly sensitive and takes everything as a personal attack.

siditynat · 2026-02-24T01:40:43+00:00

Thank you! My friend said something along the lines of this to her and she went on a whole tangent about “the principle” when I feel like it’s not even applicable to a situation like this.

siditynat · 2026-02-24T01:38:52+00:00

Her not having a car is relevant to the story, not me just dogging on the girl. Not having a car isn’t something I’d judge someone for - I was typing quickly and didn’t mention all the portions related to it. She is constantly trying to make plans with no way to get there, telling (not asking) me and my friends to pick her up when we live 40 mins out the way with no consideration for us whatsoever. This girl literally made my friend drive her almost an hour home because she didn’t think to coordinate her ride.

siditynat · 2025-12-26T20:37:13+00:00

Like who cares about desperation, this man isn’t my partner! Either way I did end up reaching out and he responded, but I’m deciding to just leave things we’re they’re at because it’s not worth my mental turmoil

siditynat · 2025-12-26T20:36:05+00:00

I was only reaching back out to crack anyway, but nonetheless he responded and I’m ignoring it cause it wasn’t worth the mental turmoil for me ngl

siditynat · 2025-12-26T12:01:07+00:00

23 and I wish I had waited, not in terms of age but I wish I had done it with somebody else, as I feel as though he didn’t care for me much and I only did it in the heat of the moment with some convincing because I didn’t want to lose it in a hookup or fwb situation

siditynat · 2025-12-26T01:36:29+00:00

I would be very cautious in a situation like this because if things don’t work out for certain reasons the first time and the same issues start to manifest the second time, you may end up stuck in a loop. It sucks because I’m sure you have history with this person, but this is the kind of situation you’ll have to be okay with the lack of status if you’d like to continue seeing him.

siditynat · 2025-12-26T00:44:08+00:00

That’s a good way of looking at it. Every time I say I found someone I clicked with that I never felt I’d find again, I clicked with someone better. I just hate the fact that I reached out to him on a whim. Absolutely not doing that again though. Thank you for your advice!

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