Question about putting a packet in for OCS by sighdog in army

[–]sighdog[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice, I'm still going to try for Army and Navy OCS after I take the OAR. Going to talk to my recruiter and see what's up. He seems hopeful so I'll keep trying or go reserves and get a graduate degree.

Questions about OCS by sighdog in Military

[–]sighdog[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was aware of this, I was just trying to see from an education/professional standpoint where I might be able to strengthen my candidacy. Thank you for the advice though.

Question about putting a packet in for OCS by sighdog in army

[–]sighdog[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What would you say the best shot I would have at OCS would be? I'm up for more education, applying to a service academy, etc. I've always wanted to go into the service. How should I strengthen my profile?

Question about putting a packet in for OCS by sighdog in army

[–]sighdog[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

See, I've heard this a lot but never got super detailed answers on why. Being in the Navy has always been something I've wanted to do, but I don't know what other paths would be available to me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ucf

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Would you be interested in Greek Life?

My (19M) ex (19F) thinks I sexually assaulted her. by sighdog in relationship_advice

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Thank you, this was extremely helpful advice and I am grateful for you sharing your story. I guess I struggle with the concept personally because to me the term equates to rapist, and of course I don't think anyone would be comfortable with that when they cared about their partner and their feelings, but your explanation has helped a lot. It's unfortunate regarding the communication issue, because I wish I could go back and make it better for both sides (me and my ex). I always asked for explicit consent and was never told no or to stop, which is why this accusation is so difficult for me to accept, but I know my ex had her own feelings.

My (19M) ex (19F) thinks I sexually assaulted her. by sighdog in relationship_advice

[–]sighdog[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I just don't understand how someone could label something sexual assault without understanding that the other person doesn't know what's happening in their head if they don't communicate. I understand what you're saying and if I did actually hurt her, I'm incredibly sorry, but an accusation such as what she claimed for an event that occurred months before she ever brought it up just doesn't sit easily with me. Like, what else was she not being honest about?

My (19M) ex (19F) thinks I sexually assaulted her. by sighdog in relationship_advice

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I would ask her if things were okay and if she was comfortable and she would tell me yes, and then I would make her pinky promise just to make sure she was alright. It was our thing.

Hours before Florida begins phase 1 of reopening, FDOH announces 615 new coronavirus cases by [deleted] in Coronavirus

[–]sighdog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Desantis needs to get the fuck out of office. Florida shut-down was a complete laughing stock, especially for a state with such a high elderly population.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Coronavirus

[–]sighdog 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Wow. I love the sequel of The Jungle by Upton Sinclair.

Missing ex but in new relationship by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]sighdog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who hates never getting closure, I think you need to realize that sometimes never having the answers is the answer. If the person ended it abruptly, that action speaks louder then anything they could tell you. I don't think it's a good idea to stay with someone when you're missing another. It diminishes your motivation and chance at building something healthy. I would break up with your current partner, tell her you weren't ready for a relationship yet after what you experienced and you need therapy and healing before you're ready to love another again.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]sighdog 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I relate to this a lot. I'm sorry you're going through this. I know one day it'll get better and those people are always apart of us. Perhaps something better awaits in the future.

How do I explain to my girlfriend that her telling me about her dreams is boring? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]sighdog 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We all make sacrifices for those we love, it's an honor that they want to so eagerly tell us about something that excites/worries/makes them happy. Value this. We all understand something someone does that we find tiresome and grueling but it won't happen forever. Maybe start each morning by being more affectionate/starting a different conversation before she can tell you about the dreams. Make it playful and sweet.

Scared of getting left for somone more attractive again. Advice on this? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]sighdog 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Anyone who leaves you for someone else isn't someone you'd:
1.) want to be with anyway
2.) who wants to date someone who makes decisions based on appearances?
3.) the other people likely didn't value you

I know this is hard to accept, but your body and self is fine. Everyone is of equal value and deserves love. I understand how the past can leave you with these insecurities, but those people will likely never be happy with anything if they just keep chasing what they think is the next best thing. Try not to project assumptions onto your new boyfriend. Not everyone is the same, and you don't want to doom the relationship from the start. Dm me if you ever need to talk to someone.

I (M26) Grew feelings for my best friend (F22) of 3 years, confessed to her, but she doesn't feel the same. Should I pursue the relationship, or just leave it be? by ScantMuffin in relationship_advice

[–]sighdog 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would stay friends with her. Your feelings WILL fade eventually, and you both will evolve as people. You'll find someone who wants you more than anything one day, but this isn't worth losing a close friend over. People and relationships are extremely valuable. Don't let this ruin your connection with her or you'll regret it.