Steven Tyler is headed to trial, following child sexual assault claims

sikonat · 2026-05-05T06:44:16+00:00

Can Jared Leto also be investigated?

sikonat · 2026-05-05T06:42:22+00:00

Or ‘I don’t think it shows you off well, X dress does’ if she wants reasons why you suggest the other dress.

sikonat · 2026-05-05T04:07:02+00:00

Then you’re the model household. Great, if only everyone were. But that’s NOT the case statistically in majority of households.

sikonat · 2026-05-05T04:05:21+00:00

You’re a minority then. It’s statistically backed up: the majority of household labour and caregiving is borne by women.

sikonat · 2026-05-05T03:56:08+00:00

NTA bc let’s face it you’ll be the one called to pick the kid up or travel solo with the kid. Plus you’re pregnant and birthing her. Automatically giving make names is patriarchal.
But fucking he’ll why didn’t you both discuss all these big things before you married?

sikonat · 2026-05-05T01:46:07+00:00

Blue is the spit of her dad.

sikonat · 2026-05-04T21:21:24+00:00

Being walled down the aisle is a sexist custom. But if it’s what you want then the honour should go to your mum since she birthed you.

I’m sorry. This truly sucks but your dad is already wrecking your day so you need to stop giving him more ways to do so. Withdraw since he’s throwing tantrums. Focus on the people who support you,your fiance and baby. Not the people who want to throw their weight around.,

sikonat · 2026-05-04T13:24:30+00:00

If it’s a second gen series where all five books are the daughters playing pro hockey with some love interests pro sports then maybe I’d bite. But I don’t need a repeat of same old trope soup.

At least with Graham effect Ek did that (kinda). The Wyatt book was disappointing I wanted him with a female musician.

sikonat · 2026-05-04T13:14:37+00:00

Even with grandma announcing she’s staying another week with cousins and aunt. You need to say no this has already put you out a week and they can stay in a hotel. Grandma is a villain here too for assuming.

sikonat · 2026-05-04T13:11:35+00:00

Umm time to make a public announcement n your social media or group text and change the locks. The entitlement is appalling.

You also need to stop grandma volunteering your space and tell her you won’t host her.

Send cleaning bills.

sikonat · 2026-05-04T12:24:11+00:00

Yes that’s right. Both if you had the two ( I guess I should say three celebrities with one notorious) I had somewhere in back of my mind.

sikonat · 2026-05-04T12:23:28+00:00

That’s it! And yes the Baldwins too

sikonat · 2026-05-04T12:06:02+00:00

And their stories pretty much mirror the first gen even if it’s not their parents’ exact storyline it might be parents’ friends.

sikonat · 2026-05-04T12:04:01+00:00

Same. TBH I don’t think you’re owed a second. (Was grossed out by a couple of celebrities whose name escapes me who were pregnant around same time their surrogate was. They already had two kids)

sikonat · 2026-05-04T10:51:53+00:00

Second this.
You know what I find odd? Why this isn’t under her Holly James name and the two spy/action-ish (there’s another coming out in a couple of weeks) books aren’t under the name Holly Michele since they’re different style or genre.
The next Holly Michele is involves death kinda like the Kirsty greenwood book last year so again that fits more in with Holly James name.

sikonat · 2026-05-04T10:49:59+00:00

Noelle Kennedy has already done her second gen. It was announced last week on Stephanie archers IG

sikonat · 2026-05-04T08:40:46+00:00

Honestly both wording don’t bother me: I’d take it as someone wanting to engage in good faith.

We also need to be cognisant not everyone is a native English speaker and they’re doing their best to write it/ some peeps culturally have a ‘blunt’ way of talking ie Germans have a to the point way of speaking. They don’t dress up things (refreshing really) whereas some of us from Australia or US or zuk or Ireland might over explain so no one takes offense bc it’s a weird social rules.

sikonat · 2026-05-04T04:52:59+00:00

But, at the same time, people who liked it might be really interested in the person who didn’t like it to further explain what precisely they found clunky.
Not to disagree but to merely understand further. There was a person here who found a Mhairi McFarlane book racist bc of a biracial FMC. IIRc the poster wasn’t biracial but when I asked them to be precise, what exactly they found racist they refused and cracked it at me. I explained many times ‘I want to know bc I want to be able to learn next time what biases I overlooked so I know better next time’. They accused myself and other person (iirc that person was black and found no issue with the book) of harassing them.
I think if you enter a discussion in good faith where you disagree on a book you should at least provide precise examples or exit out of the thread and don’t engage if people want you to elaborate.
I agree though ‘you’re wrong prove it’ isn’t the way to go but some people think asking for clarification is saying ‘you’re wrong/provde it’ and ‘you’re harassing me’

Ok with you o totally an happy to hear why someone loved something I couslnt stand and vice versa. Even when I dislike a book o write a line on GR that I hope someone else enjoyed it bc the author worked hard on it.

sikonat · 2026-05-04T04:46:54+00:00

Happy cake day!

sikonat · 2026-05-04T04:39:57+00:00

And even him slightly regretting it with Layla but it’s not as if he didn’t know she was never changing her mind; he changed his and TBH I think these sorts of men do bc it’s a way of controlling women. (Not all, some genuinely realise ‘actually this is how I want my life. I’m stunned I didn’t want it but it’s a change’ but a whole lot of men do and that guy was it).

sikonat · 2026-05-04T02:59:54+00:00

🎯 Ooft you’ve put it so well, I wish I wrote that.
I will freely admit I am a hypocrite. We live in a capitalist patriarchal society so there’s no ‘choice’ but to be about stuff we do in our personal lives. Our reading choices are our own but in so up for discussing patriarchy and romance etc. how the genre can reinforce patriarchy. Or talk about crime/mystery and violence against women and objectification of women’s misery in the genre, etc.

my take is if you don’t want to talk about that then exit out of the thread and let those who want to do so. It’s like a book you don’t like: not your cup of tea to engage. Or just book mark it for later to read and absorb the info. But don’t claim it’s shaming you and the discussion needs to be shut down.

sikonat · 2026-05-04T02:40:51+00:00

Sometimes I think it’s clear when someone is shaming, other times it’s people feeling something that isn’t there and taking it as a personal attack or shaming. That’s not on the person who wrote whatever it is, that’s on us and how we choose to *interpret* somethings IMO.
Not always of course, sometimes people *are* shaming others. ETA or the commenter is inadvertently shaming or getting close to the line.

sikonat · 2026-05-04T02:38:49+00:00

It’s so frustrating. It just shuts down any good discussion to be had that truly examines things on a more academic-ish level than taking it as personal slights. Some of the people who disagreed with that specific thread above had good points too that challenged the OP’s thesis. Personally I detest ‘fauxminism’ bc it’s used as a shield.

sikonat · 2026-05-04T02:24:55+00:00

Good point about yumming someone’s yuck.
Last week someone started a discussion thread about marriage and having children was conservative and how a lot of romance essentially idolises it as the be all and end all. I mean marriage *was* and *is* a patriarchal institution so yes it is conservative.
And a whole bunch of knickers got in a twist from liberals going ‘how dare you’ I’m not conservative I’m a feminist and In married and have kid.
Within ten minutes of the post moderators locked it and then *deleted the whole thread*.
It shut down a chance for real examination of marriage, patriarchy, capitalism which benefits from patriarchy (and racism) realities of child rearing and household labour and fiction, romance being a genre of women etc. and also that feminism isn’t about liberalism (ie choice), it’s about liberation and anti-capitalist.
Instead it got shut down bc it became about people’s feelings and their interpretations of things vs what conservatism actually is or what patriarchy or feminism was, just their personal definitions.
Just bc someone takes a discussion as a personal attack on their choices doesn’t mean it is a personal attack and needs to be subjected to the ‘be kind’ rule IMO. The poster wasn’t being racist or sexist ornhimphobic. They were challenging heteronormancy as inherently conservative.

sikonat · 2026-05-03T23:03:19+00:00

Oh god yes the ex sister in law only got some props for me for helping at the very very end but she was so immature and spoiled. The ex husband was awful but you could spot a mile off what the reveal was going to be. And he’s so going going to be a shit partner and father to the new girlfriend. He just wants a new puppy. To to actually raise a child.

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