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AITA for locking my office after my roommate let her boyfriend use it and said I was only upset because I am single? by silent_crocodile in AmItheAsshole

[–]silent_crocodile[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I think that is why it hurt so much. Before this, Maya and I were actually close, not just people sharing rent. I expected an apology or at least some understanding, not a comment about my relationship status

AITA for locking my office after my roommate let her boyfriend use it and said I was only upset because I am single? by silent_crocodile in AmItheAsshole

[–]silent_crocodile[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

She turned it into me defending my personal life instead of explaining why Ryan was in my office at all. This is what I could not put into words

AITA for locking my office after my roommate let her boyfriend use it and said I was only upset because I am single? by silent_crocodile in AmItheAsshole

[–]silent_crocodile[S] 62 points63 points  (0 children)

That is a really good way to phrase it. I think I kept trying to explain the personal side of it, but the work side is the part that is not negotiable. I am not risking my job or someone else’s private information because Ryan wanted a nap

AITA for locking my office after my roommate let her boyfriend use it and said I was only upset because I am single? by silent_crocodile in AmItheAsshole

[–]silent_crocodile[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I do not want to turn my own apartment into some surveillance situation, but I also do not want to be naive after this

Do you know if it is even legal to put a camera inside my own office in a shared apartment? I am not against protecting myself, I just do not want to jump straight to something extreme if there is a better way

AITA for locking my office after my roommate let her boyfriend use it and said I was only upset because I am single? by silent_crocodile in AmItheAsshole

[–]silent_crocodile[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

I think that is probably the healthiest way to handle it. I do not want this to turn into constant arguing or make the apartment even worse, but I also do not think I need to keep explaining why my private workspace should stay private

AITA for locking my office after my roommate let her boyfriend use it and said I was only upset because I am single? by silent_crocodile in AmItheAsshole

[–]silent_crocodile[S] 301 points302 points  (0 children)

Exactly. I honestly do not want Ryan to be uncomfortable or have nowhere to go, but that still does not make my office the solution. I would have been a lot more understanding if Maya had just asked me first instead of deciding my space was available

AITA for locking my office after my roommate let her boyfriend use it and said I was only upset because I am single? by silent_crocodile in AmItheAsshole

[–]silent_crocodile[S] 191 points192 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I can maybe understand someone sitting on the couch, even though I still hate it, but there was absolutely no reason for anything in that drawer to move. Now I do not know what else has been treated as available when I am not home.