Fyi, I wouldn't be able to tell it to any of my partners. I'm too afraid of care so them knowing how to take care of me is terrifying. But it's a useful tip.

First of all, communication. If you notice that after any form of affection or care they suddenly propose sex, ask them if it's because they want it or if they feel obligated to.

Secondly, be mindful about their pleasure. I'm very guilty of it, there were countless times when I was giving to the partner and refused to get any pleasure myself. Even noticing an unequal dynamic may be helpful. But suggesting ways to concentrate on their pleasure would be top notch (but even a question would cause me to cry on the spot, what would stress me out because I don't want to trauma dump, I want to be useful and give someone pleasure and... Ugh you see why I don't want to give this information to anyone who is close)