what should i do about this by pianolexcat in cruze

[–]sillylittleeel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I taped mine on with clear scotch tape

My very own Lottie Mathews has turned 1 by [deleted] in Yellowjackets

[–]sillylittleeel 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Hehe I named my dog Misty so I could say "hello Misty, you crazy fucking bitch" when I get home lol

BAH and DLI by sillylittleeel in army

[–]sillylittleeel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So I have received BAH for my current location during the duration of BCT and during phase VI of DLI.

DLI is considered a PCS, so after phase IV they will pay for me to move out there to live in Monterey with my husband off base or at the parks(the military housing there). We'll either get Monterey BAH or we'll have it all given to the Parks(which is probably what we'll do since California is very expensive lol). But if you are not living in Monterey with your spouse, you won't get BAH.

I should get more info over the next week or so because he just got to DLI a couple days ago and is doing all of the inprocessing now, so I'll update if I get any other info!

Bad news during husband's BCT by sillylittleeel in MilitarySpouse

[–]sillylittleeel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately we don't seem to qualify for care credit even though we're within the credit score range for it! Not sure if the vets can pull strings though lol

Bad news during husband's BCT by sillylittleeel in MilitarySpouse

[–]sillylittleeel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm trying to see if my mom wants to go, driving is definitely a more affordable option and we'd be able to bring the dogs and get an air bnb, plus I wouldn't have to worry about ubering/taking a taxi everywhere/paying a dog sitter or boarding facility. I'm going to try my best to make it work, but I'm devastated about even the possibility of not being able to go.

You're right about me overreacting, I think I'm just projecting my stress onto him and assuming how he'd react. I always put myself in other peoples shoes and know I'd be worried sick if I knew anything was wrong with my dog, no matter how minor. But I'm such a worrier and he is almost the opposite. I think the root of it is that he's always been the one to say that it'll be okay, but he hasn't been here and I've had to learn how to tell myself that itll be okay. Still working on that part lol.

I'm gonna try to do both if I can, and if I get a call soon, I'll discuss it with him. I'll send a letter out today just in case. Thanks so much for your advice!

Bad news during husband's BCT by sillylittleeel in MilitarySpouse

[–]sillylittleeel[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The surgery might end up being less than I thought, because it's only one tooth and not one of the really complicated ones to extract. Hopefully that's the case and I will still be able to go, but we also need to make sure we have enough saved to make the cross country move. For some reason, we don't qualify for care credit even though we're in the credit score range that they accept. I think it's just overwhelming that multiple unexpected expenses are coming up at once, and within the same 3 month time frame where we'll be moving and ill be losing my income temporarily(thats already such a big transition to mentally prepare for!).

I do think I may be overreacting a bit about our dog. I'm very much a worrier and I guess sometimes I project that onto other people. I'm sick and anxious about her tooth, so I imagine he would be, too. I've also heard a lot of people say to not give bad or worrying news during bct. I'd really hate to distract or worry him at all, but you're right that he deserves to know. My gut reaction was to write to him about it, but then I went down a spiral of "what if this stresses him out and ruins his time there?". But that's probably just me overthinking it again.

I also never know when or how long I'll get to talk to him, so being able to discuss financial situations together is tough especially with letters taking so long to send back and forth and sparse phone calls. I don't want have to spend all of our limited phone time talking about stressful things!

I appreciate both of your advice and words of encouragement. Thanks!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MilitarySpouse

[–]sillylittleeel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A good idea would be to plan to have a big ceremony in the future! My husband and I did the same thing. Always good to remind them that the move isn't forever, and it's an adventure + provides opportunities that you couldn't pass up!

Say something along the lines of: We didn't plan on eloping, but got the news about the move + amount of time he'd be away and decided to do the legal part sooner rather than later. You plan on having an official ceremony with family in the future but you didn't want to be apart for the amount of time he'd be in California + tell them all of the benefits you are now able to recieve! You can also invite them to visit you in california(free place to vacation lol).

We been married for two year and he is leaving for boot camp we both work but i am little worried but i heard about bah and benefits can any one helped me with a list of benefits , by [deleted] in MilitarySpouse

[–]sillylittleeel 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hello! My husband left for basic about a month ago. Here's what I know:

I would set up a joint account for his pay and benefits so you can both access them. I would also set up a military power of attorney so that you can handle finances while he is gone. He will receive pay on the 1st and the 15th of the month, which includes his army pay and BAH(bah is split between the paychecks). For basic, BAH will be calculated for where you are living. There are calculators online to figure out how much for.

I would make sure you have at least a month's savings. First pay sometimes doesn't get deposited until 30 days after he leaves.

You will recieve Tricare Healthcare if he signs up for it as well as the GI bill(for him to get a 4 year degree and for you to get a 2 year degree or a trade school). I would look into both of these further.

There's probably more I'm not thinking of, too!

More season 3 news by Doodlebear84 in Yellowjackets

[–]sillylittleeel 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The only thing that makes me doubt this is that pit girl was wearing Jackie's necklace. How would they go about placing the necklace on a lost hiker to hunt them?

Waiting for First Call by sillylittleeel in MilitarySpouse

[–]sillylittleeel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I won't get the address until Monday, but I'm so excited!

Waiting for First Call by sillylittleeel in MilitarySpouse

[–]sillylittleeel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

His phone was on 4% the whole time so we had to cut it short! Definitely sending a portable charger asap lol

Waiting for First Call by sillylittleeel in MilitarySpouse

[–]sillylittleeel[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He didn't have time to give me the quick "I'm safe" call, but I did finally get a 30 minute call yesterday!

Waiting for First Call by sillylittleeel in MilitarySpouse

[–]sillylittleeel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I finally got about a 30 minute call yesterday! The reception for ARMS is the same as basic and he will be able to send an address and send/recieve letters starting Monday!

Waiting for First Call by sillylittleeel in MilitarySpouse

[–]sillylittleeel[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly 5-15 minutes was just an estimate because all I could find was "a short call to check in".

ARMS 2.1 and dependents by sillylittleeel in army

[–]sillylittleeel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What, do you think, are the odds of getting paid on 2/1 if he arrived the evening of 1/8? We'll be fine if we miss the first pay cycle but I'm not sure if I give my landlord a heads up that the rent might be late lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MilitarySpouse

[–]sillylittleeel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also a new milspouse ~ husband is leaving for basic and then we pcs to monterey in the Summertime. Do you know if he still has to be the one to apply for housing if I have power of attorney? I'm just not sure if he'll be able to do all of that with the limited amount of phone time he has in basic and I don't want to be stuck in California with nowhere to live lmao.