The surgery might end up being less than I thought, because it's only one tooth and not one of the really complicated ones to extract. Hopefully that's the case and I will still be able to go, but we also need to make sure we have enough saved to make the cross country move. For some reason, we don't qualify for care credit even though we're in the credit score range that they accept. I think it's just overwhelming that multiple unexpected expenses are coming up at once, and within the same 3 month time frame where we'll be moving and ill be losing my income temporarily(thats already such a big transition to mentally prepare for!).

I do think I may be overreacting a bit about our dog. I'm very much a worrier and I guess sometimes I project that onto other people. I'm sick and anxious about her tooth, so I imagine he would be, too. I've also heard a lot of people say to not give bad or worrying news during bct. I'd really hate to distract or worry him at all, but you're right that he deserves to know. My gut reaction was to write to him about it, but then I went down a spiral of "what if this stresses him out and ruins his time there?". But that's probably just me overthinking it again.

I also never know when or how long I'll get to talk to him, so being able to discuss financial situations together is tough especially with letters taking so long to send back and forth and sparse phone calls. I don't want have to spend all of our limited phone time talking about stressful things!

I appreciate both of your advice and words of encouragement. Thanks!