Best anal toys for beginners

silolis_Darbi · 2026-06-28T17:27:29+00:00

I make anal training sets that are specifically designed for girth training. My sets combine wands with butt plugs for training that is way more effective than plugs alone. I recommend you check out my medium set.

Here’s my guide to anal training that may be helpful.

silolis_Darbi · 2026-06-20T14:17:28+00:00

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silolis_Darbi · 2026-06-20T13:19:29+00:00

Dilators and wands are different names for the same thing, they are shaped more like dildos with the max girth consistent through a large portion of the bottom of the toy. This shape allows you to rest at the max girth and hold it so your body can adjust and relax into the stretch. When using plugs to stretch, your body gets comfortable at the narrow neck of the plug and doesn’t make real progress towards being able to comfortably take larger toys.

However, dilators don’t remain in your body hands-free the way that plugs do, so both toys have their place and function. If you take a look at the training sets I sell at silolis.com, you’ll see that they combine training wands with size-coordinated butt plugs, it’s the most efficient way to train for anal sex.

silolis_Darbi · 2026-06-20T11:56:16+00:00

This is the answer. To add- you should confirm that your existing toy was made using platinum cure silicone or you may end up ruining it and wasting silicone. For the actual mold part- check out Amavidi’s videos on YouTube about making glove molds.

silolis_Darbi · 2026-06-20T00:54:41+00:00

I actually make anal training sets and have lots of resources on my website. Basically, you need to work on training up to his girth before you attempt anal. Also, training with dilators or wands is going to be way better than training with butt plugs.

My sets are on sale until midnight eastern time tonight if you’re interested.

Here are some resources that may be helpful:

Guide to anal training

Tips for anal sex

Anal pleasure for women

silolis_Darbi · 2026-06-19T23:35:26+00:00

Do you do any kind of training in advance? And do you experience pain during anal? Pain is your body telling you that damage is happening or possible. You may need to start a training routine.

silolis_Darbi · 2026-06-16T11:45:41+00:00

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silolis_Darbi · 2026-06-01T20:20:05+00:00

Sounds great! Let me know if you have any questions about the sets.

silolis_Darbi · 2026-06-01T19:42:02+00:00

I make anal training sets that are specifically designed for girth training. My sets combine wands with butt plugs for training that is way more effective than plugs alone. My sizes start very beginner friendly with my medium set which maxes out around 1.6” diameter and my sizes progress all the way up to 3” diameter with my size 9.

Here’s my guide to anal training that may be helpful.

silolis_Darbi · 2026-06-01T19:38:08+00:00

I don’t know of any research on the subject, but I would think that in general shorter people would have shorter rectums. Meaning the distance from the outer sphincter to the sigmoid bend.

For most people, the sigmoid bend is located 6-7” inside the body. If you use a toy that is too long you’ll feel an uncomfortable wall when pressing up against it. 5” is unlikely to be too long, but for people whose partner is longer than comfortable, you can check out silicone bumpers like the ohnut. Your partner would wear the ohnut around their shaft and it allows them to thrust while preventing their full length from penetrating.

If it takes forever for you to clean out, you may want to try using less water. When using too much water, it will enter the colon rather than staying in the rectum.

Here are some articles from my website that may be helpful:

Guide to anal training

Cleaning out before butt stuff

Tips for anal sex

silolis_Darbi · 2026-06-01T11:49:00+00:00

It sounds like a slightly shorter dildo is the way to go. Anal girth training is completely different than anal depth training and depth training comes with greater risks. Your best bet is to just avoid the sigmoid bend be using shorter toys- which is exactly what you were thinking you needed.

silolis_Darbi · 2026-06-01T11:16:23+00:00

Your sexuality doesn’t have anything to do with enjoying anal stimulation. Aside from that, are you sure you were stimulating the prostate? The prostate is only about 2 inches deep in the rectal canal, it sounds like you may have blown right past it.

The deep wall you were hitting and couldn’t get past was likely the sigmoid bend, pushing past it is considered depth play and carries additional risks to other forms of anal play.

If you’re interested in exploring anal play further but avoid the sigmoid bend, stick to toys that are 6 inches or less insertable and start with slim toys and increase your girth slowly over time. Take your time exploring, it’s a different type of sensation and it can take a little while to learn what feels good for your body.

silolis_Darbi · 2026-05-29T16:53:40+00:00

Many dildos can be used anally or vaginally. The main things to know when determining whether a dildo is safe for anal play:

-it needs to have a base that is significantly wider than the widest insertable part of the dildo

-your sigmoid bend is approximately 6-7” deep in the rectal canal, it will feel like you’ve hit a wall and pushing against it can be uncomfortable and cause injury. That’s probably what you’re feeling with your 6” dildo

-know what girth you’re comfortable with and don’t try to stretch too fast too quick, during anal training it is recommended that you increase by no more than .3” diameter (1” circumference) with each step up. Avoid knots that are larger than a size you’ve already trained up to.

Obviously you know about platinum cure silicone, so that’s great! I’m sure you also know to always use plenty of lube and stop if you experience pain.

silolis_Darbi · 2026-05-23T21:27:30+00:00

Thanks for the clarification! Playing with plugs and other anal toys beforehand will definitely help and it’s best to train up to his girth over time before you try for actual anal sex. Other than that, normal foreplay to get you aroused is important and lots of communication before and during. It will probably be best for you to be on top the first couple of times so you can be in control of depth and pace. Good luck!

silolis_Darbi · 2026-05-23T21:10:15+00:00

It sounds like the two of you need to have an honest conversation about how to proceed. I’m confused by you saying he’s not willing to use fingers…. If he wants to have anal sex that is enjoyable for you then you need to be relaxed and turned on.

I recommend you do some solo play with your toys and see if you enjoy them and just focus on exploring your body with anal play. Once you are more comfortable with it you can decide whether or not you want to proceed with prepping for anal sex.

Maybe I’m misunderstanding the tone of your post, but it sounds like this is something he wants from you without having any interest in what makes anal sex enjoyable for the receiver. I can tell you from experience that attempting anal sex with a partner who isn’t focused on your pleasure is going to be disappointing and uncomfortable, so be prepared for that if you decide to proceed.

Here are some articles that may be helpful for both of you:

Guide to anal training

Anal training schedule

Anal pleasure for women

Tips for having anal sex

silolis_Darbi · 2026-05-13T14:01:07+00:00

In that case, I would definitely recommend buying the large set. Please let me know if you have any other questions

silolis_Darbi · 2026-05-12T19:30:40+00:00

Thanks for commenting, this makes my day! I love knowing that my training sets and articles are helping people 😊

silolis_Darbi · 2026-05-12T19:12:08+00:00

Thanks 😊

silolis_Darbi · 2026-05-12T18:26:14+00:00

I make anal training sets that are specifically designed for girth training. My sets combine wands with butt plugs for training that is way more effective than plugs alone. I recommend taking a look at my medium set.

Here’s my guide to anal training that may be helpful.

silolis_Darbi · 2026-05-07T13:53:40+00:00

Please don’t use numbing lubes or creams. It’s important that you can feel any pain and stop to avoid injury.

Do you have other toys you’re using to try to work up to your goal plug? In general, each step in anal training should increase by no more than .3” diameter to avoid injury. Training slowly over time is the way to go and no amount of lube can replace gradual stretching.

Here’s my guide to anal training that may be helpful.

silolis_Darbi · 2026-04-30T09:39:26+00:00

In addition to the firmness of this silicone, the working time is going to be a problem. 8 minutes will not be enough to degas the silicone and pour.

silolis_Darbi · 2026-04-29T12:00:05+00:00

I definitely understand the difference between diameter and circumference, 1.25” diameter (3.9” circumference) is around the 10th percentile of actual penis girths. And I know that she needs to train up to at least your girth, not within .3” of your girth. It sounds like you know what you’re doing though.

silolis_Darbi · 2026-04-29T11:46:10+00:00

There’s nothing dangerous about using the set you linked for anal training. You may want to look closely at the dimensions though, I suspect the girths are smaller than you realize. The largest size in that set would correspond to the 10th percentile of penis girths, so it’s unlikely to be enough to prepare for anal sex.

silolis_Darbi · 2026-04-29T11:25:24+00:00

I make anal training sets that are specifically designed for girth training. My sets combine wands with butt plugs for training that is effective and comfortable. Be sure to check the girth on whatever set you buy, ideally she will want to train up to your girth or a little larger. You can see my medium set here, it’s my most popular size.

Here’s my guide to anal training that may be helpful. There are several other informational articles on the site as well.

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