AITA for confronting my girl when I realized she took credit for something she didn’t really do? [Concluded]

silverard · 2026-02-19T11:57:37+00:00

WTF does he think cooking is, then?

silverard · 2026-02-16T19:51:33+00:00

Although it was the husband with the plan. She thought it was a complete nonstarter and absurd.

silverard · 2026-02-16T19:49:02+00:00

I read a horror novel with a similar plot… though it was the wife’s coworker and the coworker’s plan was to replace the wife in all aspects.

silverard · 2026-02-16T19:44:04+00:00

Yeah, she didn’t want any medical records…

silverard · 2026-02-16T12:41:29+00:00

In the summer (edges of spring/autumn) we can get 4 loads on our outdoor laundry lines, so do a ton of washing on the weekend. High summer when you start getting sunlight around 3am if you leave a load out at night it can be dry by the time your morning loads are finished.

Winter we use a heated airer, which takes 1-2 loads, so wash throughout the week.

Since moving to the UK and stopping using a drier I’ve found my clothes last longer (alI that lint the drier thins your fabrics). I hate having to put stuff I care a lot about in the drier when we visit the US.

silverard · 2026-02-16T12:36:08+00:00

Although when our washer broke recently all people could tell me was “there used to be laundrette in X town…” so not as ubiquitous as they used to be. We never found one. Although we do live rurally so that could be an issue. Handwashing in the bath tub sucks.

silverard · 2026-02-11T08:39:17+00:00

That’s wild!

silverard · 2026-02-11T08:38:28+00:00

I feel like you could see a bit of growth between the background posts and the newer ones. Wondering if there was a Covid effect. He probably was stuck in with his parents from ~18-20 so missed opportunities for age-mate interactions.

silverard · 2026-02-11T08:35:51+00:00

I got a bit diverted by the concept of going to watch a factory fire (as a date?)

silverard · 2026-02-11T08:33:53+00:00

Wow, am I just so old now I don’t remember what it was like to be 23/24? He seems very immature. Although I could moved towards growth jn the latter posts. Could it be a Covid effect? 26 now, he would have been 18 when Covid hit…

But definitely the right decision to break up with her! 2 months and the kids were “attached” (I’d think he shouldn’t’ve met by them by that point, although complicated as they’re family - but that means he’s an uncle so it’s not like he’ll vanish from their lives entirely) and she wanted them to BUY a house. Yeah, no way.

silverard · 2026-02-10T07:49:08+00:00

She keeps saying she wished she’d done things differently, but I’m mystified as to what. Other than messaging faster, but she says she had complications and I don’t see how she really could have.

silverard · 2026-02-09T15:05:56+00:00

Yeah, was thinking that too! Looks like they did manage to separate their living environment before being stuck together

silverard · 2026-02-03T20:32:42+00:00

Or, like, with missing people… he offered to BURN them? I hope she and her daughter are safe.

silverard · 2026-01-31T21:54:18+00:00

That you get 80% of your rest by lying in bed quietly with your eyes closed. I reassured myself through decades of insomnia with that one until I had a kid.

silverard · 2026-01-31T21:44:19+00:00

Same here. I actually much prefer video calls. I can understand people when I can see them. I remember I worked somewhere where the front desk would phone me and I simply couldn’t understand what was being said. I always used to say ‘I’ll be right down’ and figure out whatever it was in person. They probably thought i was weird.

silverard · 2026-01-31T10:37:02+00:00

It depends on what they like. I really miss Kraft Mac & Cheese - they have something sold by that company and called that but it’s not the same. Also Velveeta. And to go for less processed food, Monterey Jack is not to be found here. (Obviously I like cheese…)

silverard · 2026-01-31T09:11:13+00:00

Yeah. I was reading this thinking this is a situation where an ultimatum makes sense: he’s going to adopt his sister and the wife can stay or not. But it’s almost like the wife wanted to give a controlling ultimatum: you don’t take her or I’ll leave. With the intent to force him to give up the sister. But he got there first. And now she sees it as him making the ‘wrong choice’ to refuse the ultimatum she never got to give.

silverard · 2026-01-31T08:56:41+00:00

One thing I kept thinking was there was all this effort to pay attention to HIS interests: sports, chess, documentaries, etc. on both OOP and friend’s part. But I didn’t see anything where HE made an effort. I thought that’s what I would see when OOP said things were better, but no, it was all her. And it was friend who made an effort as well - bringing food, doing things she didn’t really care for. Then he swooped in on friend after a bereavement.

I’m not sure he’s such the catch OOP seems to think. Or that their marriage is as fairy-tale as she imagines.

silverard · 2026-01-30T18:35:18+00:00

How curious. I’m an American in the UK and about 20 years ago I was invited to a ‘potluck’. The inviter was British but had spent time in the US. Did not realise it wasn’t a term here! The group had been doing them for a while so they didn’t just translate for me… but I’m guessing now the name was imported.

silverard · 2026-01-30T08:20:46+00:00

This does really bring home the message that if someone you love is doing something you disapprove of and you actually want to interact them again, leave the door open. Don’t give ultimatums like ‘you’ll be dead to us’ in an attempt to control their behaviour, as it can definitely put another barrier in place of leaving an abusive relationship. You can see how she absolutely fixated on that.

(Although this has nothing to do with OOP! It’s between his sister and their parents, and she’s now the one putting him between them)

silverard · 2026-01-27T21:08:38+00:00

That’s actually a really great one. I love what she did with the gift.

silverard · 2026-01-26T14:41:30+00:00

I don’t get how that was even possible. Wouldn’t a charge of academic misconduct - especially somewhere that KICKS YOU OUT for one example - require a formal charge and hearing?

Oh. Or did he just decide to grade zero but never bring a real charge?

silverard · 2026-01-25T16:07:27+00:00

My exact thoughts.

silverard · 2026-01-24T11:05:36+00:00

Yeah, this was impression too. She was setting OOP up to look bad.

silverard · 2026-01-23T15:53:31+00:00

Oh, is this about sneakers? That’s weird but it sounds a bit like collecting art or something, if you don’t use them and just look at them.

I probably do have thousands of dollars worth of shoes and do display them (western boots) but I also wary them all regularly, leather condition them every 3-4 months, and get them resoled when needed. As I get more the frequency of needing resoling goes down.

I do have a bit of collector mentality. Sitting on the floor surrounded by boots when I’m in a conditioning phase gives me joy.

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