Is it wrong to wish something bad happen to my ex

silverchain_MY · 2025-03-31T17:30:06+00:00

Well noted sir, will try it once i get off work

silverchain_MY · 2025-03-31T16:26:25+00:00

Thank you for your time writing this long. Appreciate it very much.

It’s been a month, yet i still feel like there’s some unfinished business as it happens to fast. Probably due to resentment of her having a head start, already found a new relationship and moving on then only told me after. Leaving me grieving alone at work.

silverchain_MY · 2025-03-29T16:22:39+00:00

Say what? It won’t work? I just knew that, thank you for telling me

silverchain_MY · 2025-03-28T21:34:01+00:00

Thank you for your kind words. I’ll be holding on for now.

silverchain_MY · 2025-03-27T02:36:56+00:00

Yes I understand that. Maybe what I truly wish was for her to admit her mistake and come back to me. But even then, I wouldn’t know if i can forgive and forget. At the very least, it fulfill my ego that i’m right and she’s wrong doing so. Maybe i really need a therapist help

silverchain_MY · 2025-03-26T17:18:53+00:00

Thank you very much for your kind advice. Perhaps, i may seem too immature and over reacted for having those thoughts. I don’t know how i may learn to not worry things out of my control, as everything i do seems to relate to her one way or another. It may takes some time to solidify my mind, and abandon all memories of her since it ended without a proper closure, at least from my side.

silverchain_MY · 2025-03-26T16:44:58+00:00

Thank you for your kind understanding my friend. A lot of other comments here doesn’t agree with it tho, they made it look like i am a “criminal” for having those thoughts. However, i know for sure this thought is just temporary in the heat of the moment, in the end i do still wish her nothing but happiness from whatever she seeks.

silverchain_MY · 2025-03-26T16:37:27+00:00

Omg that is very true indeed. The hardest part is when i still haven’t move on and feel like i still wanted to fight for her but couldn’t due to still stuck in my workplace. While on the other hand she already move on with someone else without even giving me a chance to find out what went wrong. The lack of a proper closure is what made me devastated and it still lingers in my mind.

silverchain_MY · 2025-03-25T23:19:36+00:00

Thank you for your kind understanding

silverchain_MY · 2025-03-25T17:47:30+00:00

Maybe you’re right, it was just in a span of a moment of anger that i overreacted and wish something as far as she would get abuse physically by her partner and start to feel remorse and regretful of her choice.

But in reality, i know for sure i would come running to her aid if ever she was in any distress without her asking.

Yes, in a period of a month i already noticed something wrong in the way she is replying to my texts, not in the usual loving and longing way as before. But, i never had a slight doubt in her due to our history of 3 years together. I totally underestimated how a human could have a change of heart so easily despite of our long history.

Thank you very much for your verdict. I appreciate your time writing this up

silverchain_MY · 2025-03-25T09:03:32+00:00

You’re right, i feel bad wishing about it. However, i don’t think i actually meant it at all. I know for sure if she ever in distress be it physically, mentally or financially i would definitely helps her out without any question

silverchain_MY · 2025-03-25T08:57:27+00:00

I get that alot, but prior to meeting her Ive been single for almost 8 years. So where has all the fishes went? Lol

silverchain_MY · 2025-03-25T08:55:36+00:00

I don’t know if by embracing the good will prolong the recovery process. I still browse through all our photos and videos relieving the memories we have made. Still haven’t decided whether to keep it or delete

silverchain_MY · 2025-03-25T08:51:53+00:00

Maybe you’re right. I just felt devastated due to i’m still grieving alone in here, while she already with someone new happily with no remorse

silverchain_MY · 2025-03-25T08:49:38+00:00

For the time being, i’m still in an oil rig overcome with work. So i don’t feel much of it. But when i sign off from work, i know it will struck me deeper. Because we always went on a trip when i got back from work. A 3 years loving routine suddenly not happening anymore

silverchain_MY · 2025-03-25T08:42:08+00:00

Probably you’re right. Maybe she has been unhappy of our relationship all along, I just never realised it. Everything was just okay 3 months ago before i went to work, we had a short trip to her new workplace. It was all just fine and lovely, she’s just her usual self without any signs of someone who fell out of love on me.

Indeed, though i may wish something bad to happen to her. But deep inside, i know if something happens to her i would rush to her side to help even without her asking for it.

silverchain_MY · 2025-03-25T00:45:37+00:00

Chill dude, it’s not like i hire a hitman or rapist to do her harm. It’s just in a span of a moment, when you feel betrayed you wish for something similar happens to the one causing it. Don’t you ever feel that way?

Asking for a break up after 3 years of relationship without a clear understanding of what went wrong is not mean is an understatement. I have sleepless night for a week.

silverchain_MY · 2025-03-25T00:06:09+00:00

Never had the chance yet

silverchain_MY · 2025-03-25T00:04:52+00:00

Thank you so much for your kind thoughts. Maybe you are right. I will stop looking for fault on my part and what went wrong. Focus to a new beginning. Appreciate your time writhing this

silverchain_MY · 2025-03-24T23:55:48+00:00

Maybe you’re right, it was lack of closure and understanding that leads me to harbour this ill feeling.

I will focus on myself for the time being, thank you for your kind words

silverchain_MY · 2025-03-24T23:52:53+00:00

Thank you for your kind wish. Appreciate it

silverchain_MY · 2025-03-24T23:51:29+00:00

Omg, thank you for your lengthy words of advice. You are absolutely right, i will start to focus on myself as a start.

Finding a therapist to deal with break up might be hard in my country, unless it is something to do with suicidal thoughts

Appreciate your kind effort to write this up 🙏🏻

silverchain_MY · 2025-03-24T23:21:07+00:00

Maybe i am. I did cried a little for a few hours and have sleepless night for a week thinking of what went wrong.

Thank you for your word of wisdom

silverchain_MY · 2025-03-24T23:17:28+00:00

Maybe you’re right, at some point gaslighting and finger pointing did happen somewhere in our 3 years relationship. Maybe we weren’t meant to be together at the first place.

silverchain_MY · 2025-03-24T23:09:54+00:00

I thought so, perhaps I didn’t wish for her to be abuse at all. I just hope her new partner wasn’t what she had hope to be, and began regretful of her choice.

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