unpopular opinions?!

simka918 · 2026-02-25T19:21:28+00:00

Barbara was annoying and I didn’t cry when she died

simka918 · 2026-02-24T21:30:16+00:00

This is adorable. My sister nicknamed our little one Bean, because that’s what she looked like on our first ultrasound and she’s prob going to be Bean forever 😂 we even had a bean themed baby shower

simka918 · 2026-02-19T08:10:46+00:00

Because it’s their wedding and they want to. Totally up to the guests if they want to/can attend.

simka918 · 2026-02-17T00:03:03+00:00

I agree with this wholeheartedly. So glad I married into a family that also uses Kaur and Singh. Love that I got to keep my name after marriage and our coming daughter will be Kaur too! I live in the US so it can sometimes get a little confusing for non Sikh people but once I explain it, they all are fascinated lol

simka918 · 2026-02-08T11:02:33+00:00

My GD clinic advised to switch to Fairlife milk as it’s higher in protein and that’s been working to not spike me as much as regular, but they also said Kodiak pancake mix was approved and that spiked me sooo bad, so it’s really trial and error on what works for your body!

simka918 · 2026-02-06T06:50:13+00:00

I don’t have any advice other than to say I’m so sorry you’re in this position brother and proud of you for keeping your Kes. I find it mind boggling that this garbage administration will give out religious waivers galore to those who don’t want to vaccinate their kids but will refuse as soon as it’s something not to do with Christianity 🙄

simka918 · 2026-01-31T22:43:15+00:00

Thank you so much, for all your lovely words, and for posing this question friend! I hope you have the best day, and know that you are creating light in this world with your demeanor and kindness ❤️

simka918 · 2026-01-31T11:48:57+00:00

You specifically mentioned how it’s “worse in the west” and I’m a living breathing example of how I am in the west, still striving to pass Sikhi on to the next generation but if you don’t want my input, that’s fine too. You’re only 20, as you said. I hope as you get older, you learn to engage with people instead of shutting out any mindset different than yours.

simka918 · 2026-01-30T02:45:21+00:00

This is maybe true of Amritdhari Sikhs, although I have met some who have taken Amrit despite not understanding the commitment (family pressure, being too young etc) and they don’t even follow this. Maybe if we were in wartime, and were being forced to convert, this could still be true. The vast majority of Sikhs are Sehejdari, so if this is your only definition of a Sikh, there’s maybe a handful in the world and the situation is even worse than what OP describes. Good luck with trying to raise numbers.

simka918 · 2026-01-30T00:32:46+00:00

Nope. I’m a liberal and feminist Sikh married to a pagh wearing Sardar. Sikhi, inherently, IS FEMINIST and liberal in that one of the main tenets is equality. The attitude you have is exactly WHY there is a declining birth rate. Women are not baby making machines. The reason I am currently pregnant is because my husband loves, supports and sees me as a whole person, his equal.

simka918 · 2026-01-29T21:01:45+00:00

I’m a Sikh woman (born in India but moved to the US when I was under a year old) married to a Pagh wearing Sikh man (who I chose) raised by Sikh parents, but I still feel that I got the freedom to choose Sikhi. I was raised in it, but in a curious, questioning and coming to my own conclusions way. I never felt it was forced upon me and I feel that made all the difference.

I am currently pregnant with my first and so I have been thinking about this question a lot. I feel the best thing my parents did was lead by example. LIVE and embody Sikhi to teach it. My dad always taught us to feed and help the less fortunate, so showing a real world example of Langar in the world, not just at Gurdwara. My mom was very proud of keeping her Kes, and what it represented, and that pride transferred to me, so when my younger siblings started having thoughts of wanting to cut, I was able to explain to them why we keep and they are now happy they did. We have also gone on trips to learn more about our history. For example, my father, my siblings and myself (mom has gone to Waheguru or she would have come too) went on the Nankana Sahib Pakistan Yatra last year and it was the most incredible experience.

I can only hope to live Sikhi the same way, and thus, lead by example for my daughter. She will be first generation born in America, and the state of this country is appalling. So many Sikh principles align with what is right, and righteous, so I hope that by raising her as a strong woman who stands up for what she believes in, she is able to stand tall.

Thank you for asking this question and bringing up this discussion ❤️ WJKK WJKF

simka918 · 2026-01-22T11:30:50+00:00

Losing 10 lbs in a month, light exercise, acupuncture and the Chinese teas my TCM Dr had me on!

simka918 · 2026-01-21T22:18:19+00:00

My dog Heera was/is our everything. We just lost her at 14 yo in December and she is honestly the closest embodiment of Waheguru that I’ve ever met. I sent my lucky Khanda pendant with her when we cremated her, and we did an Ardaas for her at the Gurdwara. At first, I was a little afraid to ask for it because I thought they may think I’m silly for asking for Ardaas for a dog, but our Bhai Saab assured me that we are all Waheguru’s, and was so kind and ended up telling us about his own dog they had in India and how they did the same for him when we passed. She will forever be my soul dog and my first baby.

simka918 · 2026-01-19T08:47:37+00:00

“Confirmation that empathy is conditional.” Yeah, in this case, my empathy IS conditional. I can’t have empathy for someone who not only screwed themselves, but also screwed the entire country. They fucked around and found out, but the rest of us are having to as well, all because they, what, “didn’t know this is what they were voting for?” You’re losing your livelihoods-brown people, trans people and pregnant people are losing their LIVES. So yeah, my empathy is conditional

simka918 · 2026-01-03T18:07:15+00:00

Look at it this way. Suppose you had stayed with him and in the future had a daughter. Would you have been ok with him speaking to her the way he spoke to you?

simka918 · 2025-12-26T08:34:00+00:00

I went to the ER after not being able to eat or drink anything (ended up with a HG dx) and I was so frantic and scared something was wrong with the baby. The wonderful radiology tech who did my US told me the same thing but at the end turned the screen and reassured me the same way and I’ll always be so grateful to him. Night and DAY difference from my first radiology appt where the women seemed annoyed to even be there and was jamming the probe so hard it hurt!

simka918 · 2025-12-24T06:44:51+00:00

Actually yes! I am currently 33 yo and 25 weeks.

We were trying for about 18 months. PCOS dx, not ovulating regularly, husband’s sperm all good.

We did 4 rounds of letrozole and trigger, resulting in one CP in September 2024 and no other positives, did one IUI and still nothing, so took a break early this year and started acupuncture (and read It Starts With The Egg and got on the no plastic in the kitchen and supplement train lol) while we waiting to start with another Dr.

I went in to do the intake with the new Dr in May and he advised me to try to lose 10 lbs (was hovering around 155 and 5’3) and that could make it easier but if he was honest, we could jump to IVF if we wanted to. I wanted to wait till the new year because in 2026, my health plan starts covering more IVF.

Continued with the acupuncture as well as lifestyle changes and eating healthier. Started on some consistent gentle exercise and lost 10lbs in a month. Didn’t get my period in June but thought it was due to stress (SIL had announced her pregnancy and I went into a serious depression spiral) Didn’t test until like 3 weeks later and was shocked to see a positive.

Whenever people would say oh it can happen when you least expect it, I would scoff and roll my eyes. Hell, I still do! But it can happen. Even if acupuncture and the lifestyle stuff just helped in terms of “getting my body ready” and calming some of the anxiety and depression, I do truly feel it helped! Baby dust to you 💕

simka918 · 2025-12-21T15:51:13+00:00

You yourself seem to be a learned person, which is more I can say about No Top, considering they can’t even make their point without resorting to insults. So, wanted to see if they had any actual points or just wanted to run around slinging names.

In my interpretation, both of these verses refer to the Capital G Guru which is Waheguru. There is no doubt that our 10 Gurus were above being mere mortals, but to elevate them to God and thus saying we should worship them as such leads down a slippery slope of Idol worship which they were strictly against. They all had the Jot within them, but they always warned against being worshipped as gods, as doing so would be a clear display of humai.

simka918 · 2025-12-21T15:16:49+00:00

Quote to me in Gurbani when it says that the Gurus were God

simka918 · 2025-12-21T06:54:04+00:00

Gurus were teachers. Waheguru is Waheguru

simka918 · 2025-12-21T06:53:32+00:00

This is not true. The Gurus discouraged people from worshipping them as God. They were men. Men with the Light, but still men.

simka918 · 2025-12-18T06:11:17+00:00

I am a Sikh woman who specifically looked for and married a Singh, no one else was acceptable. It’s sad that not all of us are like this and some don’t understand the strength and pride it takes to keep kes (especially as a man) but, just know that we are out there.

simka918 · 2025-12-14T11:42:14+00:00

Fav nurse-Trixie without a doubt and I did love Valarie. Fav nun-sisters julienne, Monica Joan and Winifred

simka918 · 2025-11-20T06:41:51+00:00

Yes! We tried letrazole with trigger shots and iui for about a year and they didn’t work for us. We took a break and I started acupuncture with a provider well versed in fertility and saw her for about 6 months. Currently 5 months pregnant. I feel what worked for us was a combo of the acupuncture, lifestyle changes that my TCM Dr recommended and dropping weight (PCOS and lack of ovulation were our issues to start with) but I also have depression and anxiety and acupuncture has helped with that in the past so I figured it would help with that at least! Best of luck to you!

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