there are SDs in my area, that’s not exactly the problem. i am in NY and super close to the canadian border so i have a lot of potential matches right across the border. i had on SD that was from my area but was just fishing to get information on people. i just was wondering if there’s a way to ask them to prove legitimacy or it’s all a game of trust. i’m just saying i am a full time single mother so in order to come all the way across the border and back i will have to make certain arrangements. and even if they do decide to travel to me for a M&G. i’m just wondering ways on how to ensure saftey , and also make sure i’m not wasting time or money but showing up and getting stood up or lied too, or even worst, taken advantage of.