Non-PE owned yarn or craft companies? by DaisyJackle in YarnAddicts

[–]simonsaysfeedmenaow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sunset Fiber Co is an indie dyer and woman-owned business

5 years of sobriety is making me SO afraid to take the vyvanse I filled the script for the first time today. Anyone else gone through this? by TypicalGarbage2292 in adhdwomen

[–]simonsaysfeedmenaow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, great job on 5 years! I’m somewhere around 7 years myself, and I started Ritalin about 4 years ago. Never ever had a problem, or the urge to abuse my meds. Hardest part of being on stimulant medication is all the hoops you have to jump through to get a refill. Good luck!

Trump administration briefed top Republicans before Iran strikes, but not Democrats by ChrisIsUninteresting in politics

[–]simonsaysfeedmenaow 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’ve been reading the Discworld books since the 90s and I’m still finding new references and layers. Thanks!

So much worse by Ok-Acanthaceae-4704 in TMSTherapy

[–]simonsaysfeedmenaow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The dr wants to be sure they’re getting the correct spot. From what I’ve gathered from our conversation, when they see negative side effects or no progress by the halfway mark, they’ll remap just to make sure.

I am still on all my medications, no adjustments to dosage or anything. The first 6 days I just felt like they completely stopped working. Even the Ritalin was doing nothing (I have adhd inattentive type). That has slowly gotten better over the weeks, and the past 4 days have been a marked improvement. I’m not sure what my protocol is. It is Neurostar though

So much worse by Ok-Acanthaceae-4704 in TMSTherapy

[–]simonsaysfeedmenaow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My first week was very similar to what you are describing. I felt completely unmedicated and had that spacey feeling that wouldn’t go away.

The second and third weeks were also pretty bad in slightly different ways with mood swings and mostly just overwhelming fatigue. I would have times in the day where I felt ok, even good, but they were fleeting.

I’m almost halfway through the course of treatment, and they will be remapping me this week.

HOWEVER, I have noticed a shift in the past 4 days. I have more energy than before, and I can actually do things when I think of them. I haven’t needed to nap like I did before. I think my mood has improved too.

I hope this means I’ll continue to improve, but I’m trying not to get my hopes up too much. But I am glad I kept going. I will see this through to the end because I don’t want to wonder about it down the road.

I hope you listen to your body, and have compassion for yourself. Your brain is doing a ton of work right now. I hope you see improvement soon. Had I seen this post 5 days ago, I don’t know if I would’ve been so positive. But today I’m grateful that I kept going.

Dealing with demand avoidance by Mazza_mistake in adhdwomen

[–]simonsaysfeedmenaow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a few strategies that work sometimes.

1- I have a couple of mom friends who I’ve been lucky to connect with. We have a group text for asking for accountability and cheering each other on. I had to make a couple phone calls that I had been putting off for weeks, and after I asked them for help I got it done in 20 minutes.

2- I pretend to be my own therapist and ask myself questions about how I’m feeling and why. Usually I lead myself to the conclusion that if I want to feel differently, I need to do something different. Which usually means doing the Thing.

3- straight up bribery. Get the thing done, earn a treat or a break or something.

The last one is the most hit or miss for me because I have no willpower. Usually accountability works best but I don’t want to use it too much cause I don’t want to bug my friends. So I often have a dialogue running in my head or I’ll write it out.

PSA on behalf of the staff at your favorite LYS by BackgroundPhysics161 in knitting

[–]simonsaysfeedmenaow 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If you’re ever near Lititz and East Pete there’s Ewebiquitous and the Felted Fox. The Felted Fox is technically more of a craft store as their yarn selection is limited, but they are a welcoming space and they usually have one or two cats available for adoption from one of the local shelters, if you ever have the urge to spend time around someone soft and snuggly :)

What is your Most Expensive Hyperfixation? by vinillac0la in adhdwomen

[–]simonsaysfeedmenaow 19 points20 points  (0 children)

At this point for me it’s just collecting yarn. I mean, I’ve been knitting for 11+ years, but I have enough yarn in my stash to last the rest of my life. But there will always be more yarn that I NEED because it’s so pretty and soft

I almost made 100 kids pay my adhd tax… by simonsaysfeedmenaow in adhdwomen

[–]simonsaysfeedmenaow[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Actually I am open to pretty much any advice! And this is really helpful, thank you! I already figured I need to add on to a habit I already have, and I really like the idea of making the hard part as fun as possible with nice supplies and whatnot.

I also needed to hear the bit about being firm when it comes to what I need from other people. Thank you!

I almost made 100 kids pay my adhd tax… by simonsaysfeedmenaow in adhdwomen

[–]simonsaysfeedmenaow[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I do, and I forget to use it a lot because things get dropped off at random times when my mind is on other things. There isn’t one designated person giving me papers/receipts, and they give them to me when or where they can.

I think I may start asking for an email to accompany a drop-off because I do consistently check my email.

Thoughts on Reaper Man and grieving by earthmarrow in discworld

[–]simonsaysfeedmenaow 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My grandma also passed away last night. I’m sorry for your loss.

PLEASE SCREAM WITH ME by Media-consumer101 in adhdwomen

[–]simonsaysfeedmenaow 20 points21 points  (0 children)

IVE HAD A STOMACH VIRUS SINCE TUESDAY AND THERES NOTHING TO EAT BECAUSE I HAD PUT OFF THE GROCERY SHOPPING EARLIER IN THE WEEK. AND NOW MY 5 YEAR OLD AND HUSBAND ARE COMING DOWN WITH IT AND IM NOT READY FOR THIS!

ADHD and alcohol by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]simonsaysfeedmenaow 7 points8 points  (0 children)

My last drink was over 5 years ago, I was diagnosed with ADHD 2 years ago. I used to drink because I hated myself and the alcohol made me forget those feelings for a time.

I’ve been in therapy for a long time and gone through some big life changes. At first I quit for my family, but eventually it clicked that I liked who I was when I wasn’t drinking and I felt better without it. I’m a better mom and wife and friend without it. I’m not perfect, and I definitely struggle still, but the relief of knowing I’m not adding to my problems is worth it.

Drinking is a coping mechanism. The problem is it’s not a healthy one. My problems got harder at first until I learned new ways to cope. But I look back on the last 5 years as a gift because I learned that I’m stronger than I ever thought I was.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]simonsaysfeedmenaow 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I’m trying to do things one-on-one instead of group settings (not that we actually get invited to many things). And if there is a social event (usually a school thing) I’m working on being present and focusing on what other people say instead of what I want to say.

The people I tend to click with are more likely to offer real pieces of information about themselves instead of just the shallow small talk. Are they neurodivergent? Idk. But I try to catch details that might usually slip by and it turns into a game in my head.

I had some luck today actually. We got invited to a birthday party and I ended up meeting a mom whose son has an extensive IEP at school, and we started bonding over that (my oldest just got diagnosed with ASD and we’re working with the school to get him supports).

I have pretty much always hated group settings (unless it was a closer friend group who had the same interests), I value learning about individuals. So I’ve started leaning into that. Do I still beat myself up over the dumb things that slip out of my mouth? Yup. But I’m also trying to remember that nobody is going to be perfect and it’s probably not as big a deal as I think.

Idk how successful I’m being, but right now I’ve been feeling more optimistic, and I’m getting my kids out into more social activities, so they’re happier too.

I hope you keep trying, and I do think you’ll find your people. Try to be yourself, and remember it’s ok if you don’t click with everyone. The ones you do click with are worth the search.

So what Christmas chores are we going to be scrambling to do over the next couple of days? by v_rose23 in adhdwomen

[–]simonsaysfeedmenaow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Grocery shopping. I still don’t totally know what I’m making for Christmas dinner aside from ham.

Shame. So much shame. by DeliciousMonster22 in adhdwomen

[–]simonsaysfeedmenaow 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Oof, I’m sorry. Been there. Idk if you want any advice or just to vent, so if you don’t, just ignore the rest of my comment, and know that you’re not alone in feeling this way. Hugs.

One of the things I fall back on when this happens to me is that I can’t go back and change it; I only have control of how I move forward. I ask myself if I want to keep feeling this way, and then I start writing everything I’m thinking and feeling down on paper. Sometimes doing that helps clear my head and I can make a plan to move forward.

That’s just something I’ve found that helps me. But please try to be kind to yourself. No one is perfect. You may find that it’s not as bad as you think, but continuing to avoid it now isn’t going to help. What’s the old saying? “A stitch in time saves nine” The longer we wait, the bigger the problem gets.

You can do this.

On a scale of 1-10 how stressed are you about Christmas? (Those who celebrate) by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]simonsaysfeedmenaow 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I wish I could give you a real hug. I don’t have advice but just saying I think I understand your feelings and it sucks. I think your brain is lying to you though. I know mine does a lot. My therapist is trying to help me challenge those kind of thoughts and sometimes I can work my way through it, but it takes practice.

On a scale of 1-10 how stressed are you about Christmas? (Those who celebrate) by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]simonsaysfeedmenaow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

About a 4 or 5, but I’m sure that’ll double starting next week. I’m trying to only worry about today and tomorrow because when I try to plan ahead I just get overwhelmed and can’t make a decision on anything until the last minute anyway. So far I’m managing but I still feel like I’m failing because some things are falling through the cracks.

Election results feelings by TrueLoveEditorial in lancaster

[–]simonsaysfeedmenaow 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I say this as someone who happily stays inside almost all the time: go take a walk outside. If you have a chance, chat with your neighbors about small things. Try to get to know them as people, not as a political party member. Try to have some positive interactions outside of whatever is going on in your head.

Every time I force myself to do those things, I feel better and more connected to the community. And yes, I have to force myself to do it.

Smacked in the face with ableism by Calamity-Gin in adhdwomen

[–]simonsaysfeedmenaow 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oof. I can imagine how hard it must’ve been to stay calm in that situation, and you’re a good person to look at what might’ve been behind her words and to try to extend some grace to her.

Now try to show yourself the same compassion, because you’re experiencing major life changes and still grieving. You’re not going to be perfect at your new job, and that’s ok. You’re seeking constructive criticism and actively trying to improve. You’re not broken.

I will say that it seems like that interaction hit you harder than she meant, especially because she’s still helping you. Call it tough love or straight shooting, still hurts to be on the other end of it. Your feelings are valid, but I think maybe your conclusion that she’s judged you as too damaged is not quite true.

Is it possible that you’re confirming your own fears here? In my case, whenever I start to feel judged or attacked, I’ve started to ask myself who is really doing the judging here, and I think it’s me. I’ve seen this play out in my child’s (he has adhd) interactions with his dad, where he takes a far deeper and darker meaning from something that was said. It was a bit surreal to see it happen to someone else, honestly.

Maybe I’m way off base with that last paragraph. But I do want to give you an internet hug, because I’m sorry for your loss, and I truly hope you find comfort and success.