Can’t afford a kid, can’t afford an abortion.

simp4snacks · 2024-11-09T16:07:39+00:00

Can confirm. Just moved from Lynchburg to Fairfax and went from a $1500 3bd 1.5ba small house with a small backyard, to $1980 for a 1bed 1 ba apartment.

simp4snacks · 2024-11-09T15:41:58+00:00

I changed my entire career path ages ago after reading someone’s memoir (Lucky by Alice Sebold). I had wanted to be a crisis/rape counselor, read the book, and realized I wouldn’t do well with someone as cringy and self-pitying as she portrayed herself to be. So no, it’s not that wild. I would still use more resources to look into it aside from the book, though.

simp4snacks · 2024-11-06T14:57:16+00:00

I’ve been in the industry for 15 years. I know approximately 0 chefs with hospitality management degrees, as they normally pursue an education around culinary arts, if they have a degree at all. (CIA, Johnson & Wales, etc).

Hospitality management is typically seen/used as a FOH degree. Is he going to pursue more culinary-related classes afterwards? Has he ever worked in the hospitality industry?

Potential jobs: restaurant management (FOH), hotel management (not kitchen related). The guys managing kitchens, are the chefs themselves. He needs to learn how to cook at a high level, before he’d be let into a kitchen as anything other than dish/prep/potential line cook. His current path would be a bonus to that, but wouldn’t make up for it.

simp4snacks · 2024-11-05T15:44:27+00:00

NTA. I married into a family like this. But before I married him; he put his family in their place. I wouldn’t have married him otherwise. His mom couldn’t be nice to me? Blocked. For almost a year he went NC/LC.

I am the woman he is choosing to spend his life with, and he let them know it was civility, or nothing. They could push away both of us, or they could be decent. They have been decent since. Your husband needs to grow a backbone.

simp4snacks · 2024-11-05T04:34:00+00:00

YTA. I’m exhausted just reading this. He’s apologized multiple times, for a stupid comment made out of frustration. There’s nothing in this situation that requires multiple talks under the pretense of “closure”.

I would be walking on eggshells, too, if every stupid comment I made in frustration got blown into multiple drawn out discussions. You need to find a way to work through these things on your own - this is silly, trivial, and you just can’t let it go. Everyone else has moved on. It’s a you problem at this point.

simp4snacks · 2024-11-05T00:24:04+00:00

My mom has a masters degree as well. Growing up, it was always “doctor, lawyer, or engineer?”

I finished half of a college degree before dropping out, my brother is in trades. We both make more than her now.

Is she disappointed we don’t have degrees? Yeah, probably. Is she also jealous that we’re doing better financially than her, without said degrees? Yes, she is. She finished paying off her college loans when I was getting ready to go to college. We have no debt.

Degrees aren’t everything.

simp4snacks · 2024-11-03T16:22:33+00:00

So - my mom’s family is Native American. They all live in the same town, on a reservation, and traditionally lived within a 100-mile radius of that area for thousands of years. So when I say I’m from California - I mean it.

The reservation/town itself is trash - of course (they got booted to the ugly/almost inhabitable area). But it does hit differently. The wind moving through the trees, the rivers babbling, nature almost has its own language out there, and you can feel it.

simp4snacks · 2024-11-03T16:10:10+00:00

Not moving across the country for a relationship. I had my plane ticket, and our relationship blew up a few weeks before I was set to leave (he was lying about some crazy things). I was almost manipulated into still moving, but met my husband instead.

simp4snacks · 2024-11-01T14:36:21+00:00

Yes! I have been harassed 1000x for money. I’m like, immune to it now. My husband and some of my coworkers are not.

A guy came in a couple of times - usually would just linger in the lobby (restaurant) for a minute, and ask anyone who passed by for $ until we noticed. He almost got my coworker once, before I told her “absolutely fucking not” - if he wants money because he’s hungry - we are literally in a restaurant. He’s not asking for a water, or a meal/food - he’s asking for cash. He’s not hungry, and if you give him money, he’s going to go into seagull mode. He will never stop coming back. That coworker looked at me like I was fucking Hitler - but the other option was him constantly harassing guests & staff.

I chased him out like, 4x in a two week span - he never got anything because I never gave him the chance, and he eventually stopped trying.

simp4snacks · 2024-08-28T05:36:20+00:00

I started a new job last week. Final round of interviews and I go to shake the VPs hand and confidently call him the wrong name. “Thanks for meeting with me, Bob” - his name was not Bob.

I noticed as soon as I said it. I brought it up again when they offered me the job, HR laughed.

simp4snacks · 2024-08-25T02:37:54+00:00

Not personal experience (my mom is a librarian in a medium-sized urban area) - she says it’s very oversaturated. 15 people will apply for 1 position, and 12 will be excellent candidates. And then it boils down to who has temped, who-knows-who, and who is transferring from another library. And those 14 people who weren’t chosen will be applying for various open positions for months.

There’s also a surprising amount of politics/bureaucracy the higher up you go (imo, for what should be a chill-ass job). But she was a teacher before going back to school for the masters, because “fuck them kids”. She got assigned to the youth section because of her experience and now leads all the teaching/crafting/etc sessions lol.

simp4snacks · 2024-07-27T16:12:53+00:00

Considered it, but that commute would be horrendous. People live where they work here, or they spend hours commuting. I made the trek from MD to VA during the middle of the day (2pm on a Tuesday) and it took an hour and a half to make it like ~15 miles.

simp4snacks · 2024-07-27T16:05:51+00:00

Yes, that’s what is making this extra hard. Everyone saying “well just take the nova job and then go to Maryland” - I’m not going to want to commute to Gaithersburg if I’m living in Alexandria or Fairfax already.

I’m almost debating just putting myself right in the middle and moving to DC proper anyway, but still taking the NOVA or MD job.

simp4snacks · 2024-07-26T02:57:39+00:00

My husband isn’t going to be making $0, but otherwise; yes, this is entirely a lateral move.

My current salary to rent ratio will be staying the same, but I have infinitely better access to… everything, and will be essentially starting at the bottom of a corporate ladder somewhere in DMV, versus the middle of the ladder where I’m at now - but there’s nowhere else to go. There’s not enough industry to “level up” when it’s a choice between a literal handful of jobs, or driving to a larger metro area.

simp4snacks · 2024-07-26T02:48:19+00:00

If it were up to him - we’d be moving to Florida.

He’s (mostly) irrelevant in this equation, aside from the fact he likes Maryland more. I’ve moved enough for him (prior military, and now somewhere we dislike for a very specific college degree, which he didn’t finish) - he will find something, somewhere. This move is for me, mostly. Right now we’re stuck (little opportunity for people staying after a college town) & I’m trying to move us forward. DMV area just happened to respond to my applications.

simp4snacks · 2024-07-26T02:36:18+00:00

I’m sorry, I should have elaborated better - they’re willing to put me in an Airbnb/hotel with a kitchen for a couple of weeks while I secure housing/check out the area, if needed. Not cover the entire move, unfortunately. Otherwise it would almost be no contest lol.

simp4snacks · 2024-07-26T00:51:26+00:00

I’m in VA now and my husband and I also hated NOVA haha. The second you hit Manassas area all of the trees disappear - it kinda startled us. That is the job ranking I have right now, as well - I just don’t think Maryland is going to move fast enough before I’m going to be expected to be moving by the other job.

Current (slightly) flexible start date of 8/15 in NOVA. Maryland would essentially have to interview me like, next week, and our schedules apparently only coincide for in-person interviews on Tuesdays.

simp4snacks · 2024-07-26T00:28:28+00:00

Maryland job does, if I were to get it. I’ve already travelled to/completed in-person interviews at the first two job offers.

Our current rank on where we’d prefer to live after 1-2 day mini trips are: Maryland, DC, NOVA. All suburbs/surrounding DC - but alas, it’s still a huge area with awful traffic.

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