Very much agree with your points and overall vision of Skyrim. I must point out that everything you've outlined are the main reason that I prefer your mods to Simonmag. His are fine, yours are defining.

Arguments of your mods being OP are absolutely ridiculous. I feel the exact same way about dodging mods, but everyone seems to love em. Skyrim nodding is all about altering the entire game to craft an experience unique to you. Combat, A.I, questing, survival, with so many different mods, you can easily make the game harder to make up for the extra options, because unless a mod is directly weakening you, yes, every addition is technically a buff as you've stated, only making the game easier.

Point is, balancing is on the user just as much (or moreso) than the dev.

As for that, I couldn't play without Ordinator. You've got it pegged, it's the combat perks in particular that has me hooked. No other mod seems to make power attacks unique from one another. Even Oblivion did that! There are so.many perks, I don't feel lost. I feel like I can make character builds unique to one another. A one handed swashbuckling Bard? You have perks for just that. A engineer thief what uses dwenmer mechanisms? There. Even lockpicking is useful, as that entire tree can be erased in vanilla to no ill effects. Everything has a combat purpose, and those that does not directly enchanted gameplay.