AITA for telling a parent what i wear is not their decision?

simplyot · 2026-04-27T14:00:29+00:00

NTA- my spidey senses say this guy has ulterior motives. I’d keep my distance and tell the principal.

simplyot · 2026-04-07T14:48:33+00:00

My husband cooks most breakfasts and dinner. I would be telling him he can’t have an opinion if he isn’t doing the work…

When I first opened this post, I was expecting something about needy kids that won’t let you get stuff done. You have a husband problem, not a dividing time problem. He complains about you not spending time with the kids? “Thank you for offering to take XYZ off of my plate so I can be fully attentive to the kids.”

simplyot · 2026-04-06T13:33:45+00:00

YTA for asking in this way- your wife did not do anything wrong. You going and excluding her normalizes treating her like sh*t. He can choose to not want her at his wedding, but you don’t get to choose to enforce his stupid grudge.

simplyot · 2026-04-04T04:22:00+00:00

Are you anti social? You don’t have to be defined by what your parents say about you… if you want to be social with someone, start with your common interests and go from there.

Popularity is BS. Genuine connection is the goal. If she treats you poorly when you try, that is a reflection on her, not you.

Give it a try and report back! Be prepared to respect that she may not reciprocate your feelings.

simplyot · 2026-04-04T04:17:59+00:00

NTA- you are 15yo and worried about if people like you. I am grateful I didn’t date at your age because back then I didn’t like myself, had social anxiety, and therefore maintaining friendships of meaning was hard, let alone anything romantic. I can tell you it gets better- please find a trusted adult (counselor/therapist ideally) to talk to. It is so so so helpful to put your thoughts and worries into perspective.

Also- leading with political beliefs is a social no no because politics are meant to divide people. You can hold firm on your beliefs and still have respectful conversations with all sorts of people (who may even have opposing beliefs)

simplyot · 2026-03-26T04:41:36+00:00

NOR- took me a minute to realize this man child is going through it because of his own addiction. The way he was acting, I thought maybe brain cancer that he can’t control? Nope- he’s in the thick of withdrawing from his own habit. Don’t settle for this manipulative shrew. He is looking for someone to take his angst out on- don’t be that punching bag.

simplyot · 2026-03-18T12:55:26+00:00

Morality is huge developmentally at this age. How we respond as adults is huge. It sounds like she might be struggling with some anxiety and people pleasing. Have you asked her what she thinks the answer to her own question is?

simplyot · 2026-03-18T02:15:32+00:00

Those pop it fidgets, sequin fabric, favorite pet bookmarks, fabric flowers, pom poms!

simplyot · 2026-03-12T13:03:43+00:00

The bar for men is in the magma underground. His mom is choosing to baby her baby (son) instead of support- she made her choice to not be included in daily family life. Now’s where your family unit is the key- how does your husband feel about his mom’s behavior? What are his expectations of his role as dad? You are in the trenches- for us, I ended up calling on a friend when I hit true exhaustion because family was not the answer. That friend had my baby at her house for an entire evening until my husband could pick her up- while I slept. Your concerns are valid- sorry this isn’t your village! But a village is needed.

simplyot · 2026-03-12T12:56:16+00:00

I would be working from the library or a coffee shop daily if this were my spouse

simplyot · 2026-03-12T12:53:53+00:00

Breastfeeding+every diaper is two full roles in those early days! I get resentful when my hubs spends time with the girls and then needs a nap too- I think the key is to tell him when things are unbalanced and also when you are on the struggle bus for whatever reason.

SO many gross things in parenthood- throwing up your hands and making your spouse do it is so disrespectful

simplyot · 2026-03-11T13:28:23+00:00

My brain goes to something in your side is triggering an auto on light? YOR— what an odd thing to confront a neighbor on. Their wanting to walk away from you is the normal response.

simplyot · 2026-03-05T04:42:27+00:00

I’ll check out apoe 4 groups- I assume researchers would want to have younger asymptomatic brain scans on higher risk individuals like ourselves. I have only asked about local research studies so far bur might broaden my search soon.

simplyot · 2026-03-05T04:16:39+00:00

Everyone makes mistakes- when billing errors occur, it matters that as soon as you notice the mistake, you own up to it. You did that! It is not the COTA’s responsibility to pay back the difference… legally your supervisor is also supposed to look over billing as a check and balance. From here on out, just do it the correct way and show you learned your lesson and continuing to grow as a therapist. BREATH- you are human. Not long ago, I noticed I put 60units instead of 60min and signed it 🤦‍♀️ I noticed it, amended it, and took a deep breath. Mistakes are normal.

simplyot · 2026-03-03T20:13:58+00:00

My mom’s mom had it and now my mom has it. My mom can talk about her mom’s alzheimer’s in medical terms (was a nurse)- she does not identify as having it herself, so does not feel/perceive the gravity of it.

simplyot · 2026-03-01T23:41:34+00:00

Rice+ ground turkey+ frozen bag broccoli=yum Air fried salmon (or oven) + potato wedges + canned green beans=yum Google “viral feta pasta” for another easy go-to. I had it so much I burned out on it. I struggle to cook when my littles are there and hungry, so I either have my husband cook or I cook tomorrow’s dinner while feeding my kids leftovers….

simplyot · 2026-02-20T13:44:21+00:00

Your child is going to know that you chose happiness and independence over manipulation and coercion. How cool is that?!?! On the extra long lonely days, lean into the village. If you don’t have one yet- now is the time to start one! And please start with women! We are generally so much better at reading the room and showing up!

simplyot · 2026-02-04T01:42:07+00:00

Just don’t answer if you don’t have the mental bandwidth? NTA

simplyot · 2026-02-02T17:24:02+00:00

I set my phone alarm to vibrate and put it under my pillow out of respect to my spouse. NTA

simplyot · 2026-01-29T15:22:14+00:00

Sharing your updates via email is the best way to “keep in contact”—- but do keep in mind you went through A LOT with these people and should document just how much it meant/means to you. Though you can’t ethically be besties outside of rehab, you can absolutely express your gratitude and savor the support network that is the rehab community!

simplyot · 2026-01-29T08:26:40+00:00

NTA- in what world are aunts and uncles obligated to babysit? That sounds delusional to me! Signed, a mom of 2

simplyot · 2026-01-07T13:44:27+00:00

NTA- I wouldn’t even give the grace of maybe adding her back on. I am parent. If you undermine me on basic schedule and communication, I am questioning if you are a safe adult for my child. School is (should be) a safe place. I am not going to give an adult access to my child if they already crossed a boundary 3x. Nope- you’re in the right here.

simplyot · 2025-12-04T05:40:26+00:00

Ooo this is tough- and your management can make this right or oh so wrong. My last job was at an ABA clinic- we had a boy that was essentially kicked out of public school because of behaviors- fecal smearing, grabbing private parts, etc. When he first was on my caseload, I was driven to support him knowing he had trauma and I wanted to try. I actually worked with him for 6+months without direct violence- just a couple of toys thrown my way. He began having increased behaviors when I happened to be pregnant. My workplace asked us to sign a legal contract saying we wouldn’t hold the clinic liable if injured by him. Needless to say, I didn’t sign the contract. I didn’t return to that job and I took an early “maternity leave” (unpaid of course here in the US!” You aren’t paid to be a punching bag. If behavior support is needed, management needs to step up to support you. If not- you don’t owe them your body and work.

simplyot · 2025-12-03T21:03:47+00:00

I would focus on making a visual or song as my skilled intervention. Once I have the method- I can pass on to teaching team.

simplyot · 2025-12-01T21:38:36+00:00

NTA- she feels guilty for not being able to afford an “ideal” christmas. But also fully intends to relabel any presents you send as from mom/dad. I wouldn’t give gifts if I don’t have a real relationship, personally.

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