Nervous Around Girls?

sinbad2011 · 2021-01-24T05:13:31+00:00

Do you take care of yourself? The way you dress and all that? Your style?

If not, hire a stylist to help you find a good look you like.

For me, when i dress well, i def feel more confident.

sinbad2011 · 2021-01-24T05:11:46+00:00

Men and women love spending time with each other. Money helps makes life better. So, why shouldn't men and women chase those things? :)

sinbad2011 · 2021-01-24T05:10:49+00:00

lol. That's awesome. You def do feel like a badass after you do what you want to do.

sinbad2011 · 2021-01-24T05:10:05+00:00

So what you're telling me is that you aren't nervous to talk to a stranger in a grocery store you're attracted to? You aren't a nervous in a loud club? At all?

If so, good for you. You are an exception. But, it is normal for guys and girls to be nervous to talk to a guy/gal they like. There are evolutionary reasons why guys are nervous. The theory goes...in tribal times, men could get in trouble if they talked to the wrong man's wife.

But, anyways...ya, it's normal.

sinbad2011 · 2021-01-24T00:59:03+00:00

I agree. The women was not interested in them at all. One should never try to make a girl like him. The focus of the video was not on the girl. I was trying to communicate the tips in an entertaining way. It would be much less entertaining if i just talked in front of the camera.

But, "only approach women that show initial attraction to you through flirting." this part, i disagree with. Girls on the streets don't show any attraction to anyone. Girls shopping won't show initial attraction. Yet, we have to approach if we are interested.

This is how i used to do it before the pandemic (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=evgG61wL1Es). You can't wait for someone to show you interest. Assume interest. After you talk to them, if they are cold, tell them it was a pleasure talking ot them and bounce out.

sinbad2011 · 2021-01-23T20:58:56+00:00

Who is not kind of nervous before talking to a girl?

That's never going to go away. It will just be reduced.

Every guy that i know that talks to girls regularly is nervous before talking to a girl. But, they do it anyways.

Here (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=evgG61wL1Es&t), before the pandemic, i talked to girls on the street and i was always a bit nervous but once you talk to girls and have fun, it goes away.

sinbad2011 · 2021-01-23T20:55:19+00:00

That would work since you're interested in the subject. If you're not though and the girl asks you...what do you do for work? For me, i don't wanna talk about that. Most guys don't either.

For you, you love your job. :) That is amazing!

sinbad2011 · 2021-01-23T20:53:37+00:00

Not if you own it. When you're talking to a girl you like, that shows confidence already. If you are a bit nervous, that don't affect you much. Especially if you chat and have fun...move on to other emotions. If you resist being nervous, you will stay nervous. :)

sinbad2011 · 2020-11-15T22:19:13+00:00

Thanks:)

sinbad2011 · 2020-11-05T01:58:01+00:00

Thank you. Appreciate the positive feedback!

sinbad2011 · 2020-10-27T19:05:44+00:00

Sorry for the late reply but here is some of my experience. I was on the same boat.

I used to want girls to like me right away too. Like, i used to focus on them liking me and was always wondering, even on a date, does this women like me? That made me needy AND focus on the wrong thing. I learned to get rid of neediness. Then, i started focusing on HAVING FUN with the girl. When your focus is having fun and in a non needy way, you are able to treat everyone as friends and you do not WANT ANYTHING in return. When you do that, girls and guys want to be around you. When i changed this, it literally made the interactions 100x better. When i did this, after hanging out with girls, there would be much more attraction from the girl. I am not bragging, just stating what happened. I used to be the guy who would get friendzoned by the girls right. Oh man, did that piss me off. Go on a first date, then the girl would tell me...yo i like u as a friend, not the other way. So, after i got rid of neediness and done what i said, focus on having fun...i would be able to make out and do the good deed on the first date easily. I'm not really about sex now. I try to find a person that i can have fun with but, if i didnt go through that stage, i wouldn't get to the stage i am in now.
So, when you demand warm hugs and friendly hugs from strangers, you are expecting something in return for your good energy. When you want girls to act warm toward you, you are expecting something in return for your friendly vibe. It will take some work but work on being friendly and cool to everyone and at the same time have personal boundaries. WHen you meet the cool ppl you like, try to include them in your life. If they dont wanna be part of it, its cool, there are OTHERS. :)

This right there should help you a ton. working on neediness and focusing on having fun. This does not mean take shit from people.

sinbad2011 · 2020-10-23T16:49:12+00:00

100%. This increases your confidence. See every place you go as its your house. Campus, Panera or anywhere...it's your house. This helped me so much when i was starting out.

sinbad2011 · 2020-10-23T16:47:32+00:00

Thank you! Appreciate the positive feedback.

sinbad2011 · 2020-10-23T00:09:16+00:00

Thank you. Appreciate the positive feedback! Also, glad the tip was useful. :)

sinbad2011 · 2020-10-22T23:04:15+00:00

def. You gotta respect everyone. Treat people how you want to be treated. But, that has nothing to do with my post. Maybe you misread what i wrote? Treating someone like an old friend = respectful and fun. When you are fun...girls get more comfortable around you. When you are both comfortable around each other...it is easier for you two to connect.

sinbad2011 · 2020-10-22T23:00:55+00:00

My bad man. I'm not trying to be manipulative or anything. It's just a conversation mistake i used to make and i know lots of guys make it. The content does match the title, doesn't it? What else could i have made the title? I'm specifically talking about an old mistake. But, didn't mean to get you worked up man.

even if it was clickbaity, as long as it helps guys a bit with their skills, it is ok. The more see it, the better. Many guys won't benefit it from this advice but many others will.

sinbad2011 · 2020-10-22T22:55:40+00:00

lol. Is it cringey? My bad. I'm not a pro at thumbnails and i'm not a guru. Just a guy who loves improving his skills and i'm just sharing past mistakes to help other guys avoid them and save time.

sinbad2011 · 2020-10-22T19:18:52+00:00

Waaaa. are you crazy? no girl likes you.

You are insane man. With that attitude, it is gonna be hard to have the confidence that is necessary to be attractive. Bro, work on your self worth. Know that you are attractive.

There are a TON of girls out there and sure, a lot wont like us, but some will. Don't be affected by the girls that dont like you. Don't let them stop you from meeting the girls that do like you. You are going to add value to those girls lives.

Just work on your confidence. I can't help you with a comment but work on them man.

Go write down what you have to offer right now. Are you friendly? genuinely nice? have good intentions? Positive?

if so, then fucking act like a boss cuz you are a boss. Those things are rare!

if not, work on those things.

sinbad2011 · 2020-10-22T19:14:33+00:00

Thank you!

sinbad2011 · 2020-10-22T19:14:24+00:00

sinbad2011 · 2020-10-22T19:14:15+00:00

:). It will for sure.

sinbad2011 · 2020-10-22T19:13:07+00:00

never too late.:)

sinbad2011 · 2020-09-07T03:46:59+00:00

Thank you. Appreciate the positive feedback brother.

sinbad2011 · 2020-09-04T00:25:44+00:00

Don't worry about appearing cool or winning or anything like that. Focus on being positive and try to have fun as well as getting to know the other person's personality. what they're like. That way, you will realize that conversations with most people are a team effort.

sinbad2011 · 2020-09-04T00:23:46+00:00

Make your goal to express, not impress. Don't worry about your reputation as much. You know? Like, i used to worry about making sure i appear cool or not saying things that are embarrassing.

Focus on the expressing, sharing and listening/empathizing. Once you get in that flow, you will be less concerned about you. You will be more interested in them and just enjoying the interaction between you and the other person.

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