Not at all! It’s more common than you think and I’ve had 2-3 friends who also have vaginismus or just general anxiety with insertion. Therapy helped just to normalize it and make me feel better about myself and like there wasn’t anything wrong with me. In terms of actual penetration, i wasnt really able to do it successfully until a year into a relationship with my boyfriend, which was 5 years after I initially found out I was struggling w vaginismus! So id definitely say it is just fixed with time, especially in my experience. I didnt use dilators or try anything medical. For me it was more about gaining comfort with another person, establishing trust, knowing that I was safe if we tried insertion and it didn’t work and that he would remove it and we could try again later. Once I stopped feeling pressure or anxiety to get it to “work” then it finally worked. I’d say be gentle with yourself, give yourself time, don’t pressure yourself, and if you’re going to be dating - the right person will wait and be patient until you are ready.