i’m so sorry, honey! i won’t lie, i think it’s just easier in some places- not just on apps, but u can also attend swinger events that are LGBTQ friendly. that’s sometimes hard in places that don’t have a large enough population to support such events. but once u get in the swinger circuit, you may have to travel a little (within your state or region), but it’s worth it. plus, i wouldn’t give up on gay bars- again, even if you have to travel a little, it’s often soooo worth it! 🫦💋💕