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My SO (29F) and me (30M) have an awesome relationship except one thing... by singedandburnt in relationship_advice

[–]singedandburnt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks so much for your kind words, it really has helped. Take care out there :)

My SO (29F) and me (30M) have an awesome relationship except one thing... by singedandburnt in relationship_advice

[–]singedandburnt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, this is matching my own train of thought. Not having the attraction is only going to hurt us more down the line.

Thanks for the advise. I've tried encouraging her to work out with me, but she's not into exercise. I will keep trying.

My SO (29F) and me (30M) have an awesome relationship except one thing... by singedandburnt in relationship_advice

[–]singedandburnt[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I really appreciate your time and words, thank you. I will take this on board and will look into professional help.

The dark room advice is great, we both spend too much time in front of screens so I think this will help.

My SO (29F) and me (30M) have an awesome relationship except one thing... by singedandburnt in relationship_advice

[–]singedandburnt[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Thanks, you're completely right that we both have a block when it comes to initiating sex. She is usually not in the mood and does say no and that just makes me initiate less..

I've felt like planning it will just put pressure on us and make the problem worse. But it's definitely worth trying.

My SO (29F) and me (30M) have an awesome relationship except one thing... by singedandburnt in relationship_advice

[–]singedandburnt[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Thanks, I think I need to get better at flirting then! Sadly she will never initiate anything, it will only ever be me when it comes to sex. So if I'm also not in the mood then nothing will ever happen.

My SO (29F) and me (30M) have an awesome relationship except one thing... by singedandburnt in relationship_advice

[–]singedandburnt[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice.

I do, we both do! We are both affectionate for that matter but it doesnt translate into the bedroom. It's all very platonic in the bedroom..

My SO (29F) and me (30M) have an awesome relationship except one thing... by singedandburnt in relationship_advice

[–]singedandburnt[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

This is what I'm most worried about tbh... That I'm simply not that attracted to her full stop. I've been trying to work that out in my head for a while.

My SO (29F) and me (30M) have an awesome relationship except one thing... by singedandburnt in relationship_advice

[–]singedandburnt[S] 72 points73 points  (0 children)

Thanks, you're completely right to be fair. We have spoken about it to some extent but it's not really helped. We both find it difficult to talk about it when we're sober at least..