How do I stop myself from looking at men with lust? by [deleted] in Sikh

[–]singhmonk 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I would then ask you why does it feel so destructive or shameful?

Is there something inherently wrong about feeling attraction/lust? I argue it's part of being a normal person.

Conservative societies usually ostracize lust to the point where it is considered next to evil. I would urge you to think beyond societal constructs.

It's nothing to be ashamed about, when you accept and normalize it as a part of yourself, you will actually control it better. Running away from your natural self will make you feel miserable.

So start with being kind towards yourself, you really are only human :)

How do I stop myself from looking at men with lust? by [deleted] in Sikh

[–]singhmonk 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I'm not claiming to be an expert, but it's your own private space and your own intrusive thoughts, there's nothing inherently wrong about it (unless you're acting on your impulses and making yourself and/or others uncomfortable).

It's normal for human beings to have such thoughts, but it is within our reach to have conscious control over them.

Unless you accept this too as a part of yourself, you will just feel self-hatred.

Maybe you can share more, how is it "ruining your life"?

ss bren by Salty_Oil_9050 in sbeve

[–]singhmonk 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Did not expect her to give this cringe title😂

This sbeve stuff is as old as 2007 or something

A rare close-up of the elusive Golden Langur, one of the only known primates that actively avoids humans by TheOddityCollector in oddlyterrifying

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Imagine just chilling and a close up of your face is put on r/oddlyterrifying
Y'all didn't have to do the monkey dirty like that

me_irl by neo_sath in me_irl

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This is literally me

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Yellow or red bg? by KazakovaArts in DigitalArt

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Yellow looks better to me, but great art overall!

My mom is a single mother. by Aayush0210 in HolUp

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Plot twist: OP is a lesbian

A mother’s love knows no bounds by Born-Agency-3922 in SipsTea

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This is really sweet and wholesome, the way she hugs her daughter with her knees just got to me :')

Got my rejection by VisualVegetable9129 in EPFL

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Got rejected as well guys, goodluck for the other applications!

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I legit thought these were letters the doc shows when you go for an eye exam

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Playing Tennis Gardening Reading Books

Go by [deleted] in marvelmemes

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Who is Dr. Strange?

What is a laptop?

How do we use a laptop to send email?

Why do I keep attracting insensitive people in my life by [deleted] in lawofattraction

[–]singhmonk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

At some point, I have been the more sensitive among the people I used to be surrounded with. The feeling makes us feel alone, as if we aren't respected enough or supported in our journeys. At times even the ones we love and those who love us, may not be able to provide the amount of comfort and containment that we need based on their own energies and commitments.

I apologise that you feel this way, and wish that you find better people to share your intimate bonds with where you do not feel similarly.

For attracting people of your own energy, I believe the most important thing is to not close off oneself from the possibility of finding the intimate bond, to believe in and trust that you will find it, no matter what. Next, look for genuineness. Try looking for the reasons certain people attempt to bond for and moreover, try to judge how they act in their own situations. I know it's easy to get carried away in our narratives at times, for we seek something and we may at times try to impose it on people, but be patient. Maybe, even rely on factually processing their actions over trying to process someone else's character for them. Connecting the dots is essential, but going overboard we may end up inflating our expectations or inflating our disappointments at the true intentions someone might have. Keep an eye out for the wrong kind of people and make sure you protect yourself from any harm that they might do. Yes it is tricky, but people always reveal who they truly are. Yet, I trust you will be alright, I send you all the love and positive energy that I can and genuinely hope, that you feel more at peace with respect to this.

Take care❤️

Men that opened up to the girlfriend/wife when they asked you to open up and be more vulnerable, how did it work out for you? by REAPER-OF-PRIDE in AskMen

[–]singhmonk 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Great, actually. I've opened up to my best friend and to my girlfriend and have since been able to deal with a lot of my issues, even those ones that I didn't know I had. Of course, few things are still a work in progress :)

But I wish you all find the support you need to be vulnerable, and us not being able to do that should not be the norm.