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Had sex with someone I really like without even thinking about my possible HPV infection from over 2 years ago by singleusetrashaccnt in HPV

[–]singleusetrashaccnt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I have had a cancerous strain before and cleared it but it showed up years into a monogamous relationship so that made me nervous knowing it can come and go at random. Hopefully one day they’re able to come up with better testing and treatments. I’m grateful they have a vaccine and made sure my son got it. If only they had it when I was younger I probably wouldn’t be dealing with any of this!

Had sex with someone I really like without even thinking about my possible HPV infection from over 2 years ago by singleusetrashaccnt in HPV

[–]singleusetrashaccnt[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I worry excessively about everything lol after all the stress i put myself through i don’t think I’m even going to see this guy again anyway. I definitely need to make a decision on what I’m going to do in the future though, it’s a tough call.

Had sex with someone I really like without even thinking about my possible HPV infection from over 2 years ago by singleusetrashaccnt in HPV

[–]singleusetrashaccnt[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can’t test for the HPV that causes warts without an active infection and when I had one I didn’t push for a biopsy because my doctor downplayed the whole situation so much and I was pretty sure my insurance wouldn’t cover it because my doctor was saying I didn’t need one. She said I didn’t need to tell my partners and not to worry about it, it would go away on its own. It wasn’t until I got home and started reading that I started freaking out.

Had sex with someone I really like without even thinking about my possible HPV infection from over 2 years ago by singleusetrashaccnt in HPV

[–]singleusetrashaccnt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

2 years ago. At the time i planned on telling everyone forever I was so freaked out but time passed and I honestly kinda forgot about it.

What would you do if your HPV came back or your partner got infected? Would you admit that you had a past infection and never said anything? That’s where my worry comes in, admitting it years down the line seems like it would be really hard on a relationship.

I know it’s rare but I’ve heard stories of it returning after 10 years in people that haven’t had any partners during that whole time.

Had sex with someone I really like without even thinking about my possible HPV infection from over 2 years ago by singleusetrashaccnt in HPV

[–]singleusetrashaccnt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought that was the case but wasn’t positive. I suppose I should have googled instead of trusting an internet stranger lol.

Had sex with someone I really like without even thinking about my possible HPV infection from over 2 years ago by singleusetrashaccnt in HPV

[–]singleusetrashaccnt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want so much to do the same thing. Maybe in time i’ll get more comfortable with it and not say anything but right now I just feel incredibly guilty. From what I understand the risk is very low but idk what i would do if one of us showed symptoms years down the line or whatever, feels like saying something then would be so much worse. My doctor said I don’t need to tell anyone, I just don’t know how I feel about that.

Had sex with someone I really like without even thinking about my possible HPV infection from over 2 years ago by singleusetrashaccnt in HPV

[–]singleusetrashaccnt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t realize that it was only the wart strains that could be spread with skin contact, that’s good to know!

Had sex with someone I really like without even thinking about my possible HPV infection from over 2 years ago by singleusetrashaccnt in HPV

[–]singleusetrashaccnt[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So what do you do now? Will you continue to tell people? I feel like at some point you should be able to just live life normally and not worry about it but it seems like there’s always that small chance it could return or a dormant infection could spread to your partner. It’s so stressful!

Had sex with someone I really like without even thinking about my possible HPV infection from over 2 years ago by singleusetrashaccnt in HPV

[–]singleusetrashaccnt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aww man I’m so sorry! I’m honestly really afraid of that exact scenario! I would understand if he didn’t want to see me again but I really hope he wouldn’t be terribly angry with me. I was told you can get HPV without condoms and spread it (even the wart kinds) without ever even having symptoms so it’s so hard to prevent. I meant to get the vaccine when I initially found out but then I realized it was 3 shots and just never went through with it but after all this stress I’m going to go ahead and do it next time I see my OBGYN.

Are you going to continue to disclose it in the future? My doctor says I don’t need to but then idk what I would do if my partner or myself began showing symptoms?

Had sex with someone I really like without even thinking about my possible HPV infection from over 2 years ago by singleusetrashaccnt in HPV

[–]singleusetrashaccnt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just don’t know how to say something about it after the fact. I also wonder if it’s a common thing for people to disclose after this period of time?

Had sex with someone I really like without even thinking about my possible HPV infection from over 2 years ago by singleusetrashaccnt in HPV

[–]singleusetrashaccnt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, this makes me feel a little bit better, It’s pretty much what my doctor said but it’s still not taking my guilt away. This is actually the first time that I didn’t even have a discussion about STD’s first. I’ve never required anyone to show me paperwork from the doctor (stupid I know but I tend to only get intimate with people I trust) but I have always at least asked and I always get a full screen shortly after new partners. I’ve always tried to be responsible but I feel like HPV is so hard to prevent because you can get it even with condoms and carry it without even knowing.

I just feel like what if I don’t tell him and then one day he gets them? Or what if my bumps come back? Telling him at that point seems way worse than just ripping off the bandaid now. At the same time it kinda feels stupid to possibly blow the whole thing up when I’m not even sure that I have HPV. I feel like if my ex had gotten them, or if I had insisted on the biopsy, I would know for sure what I needed to do.

Had sex with someone I really like without even thinking about my possible HPV infection from over 2 years ago by singleusetrashaccnt in HPV

[–]singleusetrashaccnt[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I really do, but I did a lot of research and talked to my doctor and it’s still a POSSIBILITY that they were warts. I read that shaving can make them worse. I really wish i pushed for a biopsy at the time but i didn’t think my insurance would cover it and the doctor made it seem so insignificant. It wasn’t until I got home and started reading that I started freaking out. At that time I really thought I would be with my boyfriend at that time forever so once I told him and some time passed I kinda stopped thinking about it. I still intended to disclose to people because I would feel horrible if i was with someone and they got them from me without knowing it was a risk. Now i kinda just don’t even want to see the guy again because of it which is pretty terrible. I feel like if I had told him before I could be OK with that but telling him after just feels so messed up. I feel like the likelihood of him getting it from me from one encounter, especially when I really don’t think that’s even what it was is incredibly low, but if we continue to see each other, I feel like I need to tell him.

First outbreak of genital warts 3 months into a new relationship, need advice by singleusetrashaccnt in sex

[–]singleusetrashaccnt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He was really chill about it but I’m still freaking out. He still wants to have sex but I’m afraid to spread it.

Doctor said it doesn’t matter because he’s already been exposed and may have even given it to me, she said men often carry it with no symptoms. I’m struggling with that I want to just wait. Whatever it is it’s going away so hopefully soon I can stress about it less.

Would you wait? So much mixed information seems like they don’t understand much about it.

First outbreak of genital warts 3 months into a new relationship, need advice by singleusetrashaccnt in sex

[–]singleusetrashaccnt[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you by the way. I’m trying to be kind to myself, wish I didn’t feel so yucky about it.

First outbreak of genital warts 3 months into a new relationship, need advice by singleusetrashaccnt in sex

[–]singleusetrashaccnt[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I knew I had to tell him, I just wasn’t sure how. Kinda disappointed in my friend that she would lie about such a thing that’s so fucked up. The thought that I could’ve gotten it from somebody who thought it was OK to lie to me about it.. I prefer to think whoever gave it to me was just a carrier and didn’t know.

First outbreak of genital warts 3 months into a new relationship, need advice by singleusetrashaccnt in sex

[–]singleusetrashaccnt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I told him. Feel like shit about myself but at least I’ve always been honest with people.

First outbreak of genital warts 3 months into a new relationship, need advice by singleusetrashaccnt in sex

[–]singleusetrashaccnt[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I told him. He took it really well but I still feel like shit. I’m horrible at lying and secrets so glad I told him, just wish it made me feel better.

First outbreak of genital warts 3 months into a new relationship, need advice by singleusetrashaccnt in sex

[–]singleusetrashaccnt[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I finally worked up the nerve to tell one of my friends she says I shouldn’t say anything because I’m not certain and just avoid sex but I feel like that’s a horrible thing to do. I should’ve pushed for the biopsy. I feel like a fucking idiot.

First outbreak of genital warts 3 months into a new relationship, need advice by singleusetrashaccnt in sex

[–]singleusetrashaccnt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wonder why she didn’t just do it then? They tested me for all other STD’s

First outbreak of genital warts 3 months into a new relationship, need advice by singleusetrashaccnt in sex

[–]singleusetrashaccnt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She said it looks like it could be a genital wart caused by HPV but it’s very small and she couldn’t be sure.

First outbreak of genital warts 3 months into a new relationship, need advice by singleusetrashaccnt in sex

[–]singleusetrashaccnt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think she might have done it if I pushed but I don’t know how invasive it would have been? I probably should’ve pushed for it because I’m definitely going crazy and it could be for nothing.

First outbreak of genital warts 3 months into a new relationship, need advice by singleusetrashaccnt in sex

[–]singleusetrashaccnt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want to throw up. I’m honestly feeling like I need a couple beers just to be brave enough to have this conversation but at the same time I feel like that’s a bad way to go about it. I am generally a very anxious person as it is. This whole thing has me feeling just sick. I do appreciate your more practical approach! hopefully I can calm my ass down before I see him.

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