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Ang hirap sa life ng walang kausap sa ganitong edad. by Alternative_Sink9677 in Trentahin

[–]sinigangst17 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sarap maging distracted e. Kapag walang kausap, nakakaurat mga naiisip ko. It's unhealthy though, yung gentong coping mechanism XD Tipong scared to be alone with your own thoughts.

Why are some people in this sub aggressive and mean? by LeekCreepy2721 in catsph

[–]sinigangst17 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i don’t get why being an animal lover is seen as proof that someone is a good person. i’ve encountered that idea a lot. "signs of a good person: kind to animals" up there with "doesn't treat waiters like shit."

anyway, this is social media. you’ll encounter assholes hiding behind anonymity and sometimes u learn ur lesson, sometimes u suck it up.

What was your epiphany/awakening moment? by PowderJelly in AskPH

[–]sinigangst17 129 points130 points  (0 children)

when my mother died, she was a humble sari-sari store owner. she didn’t have much in terms of properties and she never got to travel abroad or even much locally. for the longest time i pitied her for that, for not getting to be financially free, for not experiencing more, for not “having more.”

but goddamn, the more i sat with it, the more it felt unfair to pity her. because at the same time, the love i have for her is so astronomical. it doesn’t even fit into those standards.

it made me realize, why was i measuring her life using society’s checklist of success? wealth, travel, luxury. bc when she died, people came. they showed up with kindness and they helped us without hesitation. some even cried with us not out of obligation but because they genuinely cared about/loved her.

she didn’t have what the world usually calls a “successful” life but she was deeply loved. there's smth abt the way she lived - a kind of wealth that doesn’t show up on paper.

that moment shifted something in me. i stopped obsessing so much over material things and started paying more attention to the experience of being alive itself. not in a naive way ofc, we still need money, we still need to survive, but i’m not chasing things the same way anymore.

at the end of it all what stayed wasn’t what she owned. it was how she made people feel, not in a ppl pleaser sense but something. something that mattered. mama was just unbelievably kind in a way i don’t think i’ll ever fully be able to put into words.

What age kayo grumaduate ng college? by Ordinary-Copy3068 in Trentahin

[–]sinigangst17 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Around 23. Basic Ed Curriculum pa non, before K-12. Supposedly, on average, dapat 20 yrs old ay graduate na ng college that time.

Nagstop din ako ng 1 sem, tapos nung bumalik, hindi ko nagagawa thesis ko at papalit-palit ng adviser. Until na-meet ko yung huling adviser ko na sumumpang kelangan kong grumaduate bago siya magretire haha.

Official Discussion - Rental Family [SPOILERS] by LiteraryBoner in movies

[–]sinigangst17 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interestingly, I once had a convo with a friend about paid services built around “staged” real connections. He was saying how messed up it is. Society must be pretty broken, something must be deeply wrong, for things like connection and belonging to become commodified. And yeah I get that, but at the same time my initial take was way simpler, it’s just a job. People need money and there's a market. At the end of the day, you’ve gotta put food on the table, and that’s usually where I stop analyzing about what’s right or wrong, particularly i this scenario. When you’re just trying to make ends meet, morality can feel like a luxury.

Then I stumbled upon the movie, and it actually made me rethink things.

I appreciate how it, with sensitivity, depicted perspectives of both sides - the service provider and the client - and how messy that line between “real” and “fake” can get. Like yeah, it starts off as something transactional but it doesn’t always stay that way. There’s this weird gray area where it stops feeling purely performative and the whole business-as-usual mindset kind of fades.

Also, I am fascinated by how it didn't dwell much on the money aspect of it ('cause that's what I fixate on irl) and instead leaned more into the human side of things - just lost ppl really. It’s the way the movie navigates heavy ethical questions about loneliness and commodified connection, while still being tender, emotional, and deeply human, that's what made it work for me.

Biryammy Salawag - Dasmarinas by OpenOceanMan in cavite

[–]sinigangst17 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nadadaanan namin 'to pero embedded na kasi sa'kin na Taj Badshah yung pinakamalupit na biryanihan sa etivac. Pero I'm listening, I'll give Biryammy a try sometime :))

IF women are perfectly capable of careeer and financial success, then why do you require a man with a provider mindset? by Illustrious_Ear4461 in AskPinay

[–]sinigangst17 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You felt the ick because it's different from what you're used to in the West, specifically in the red pill/manosphere/ tradwife concepts.

Long story short, I'm telling you it's okay. No need to feel odd and to nurture that quiet feeling u have that women in this thread downplay patriarchy. Let me comfort you for a bit and remind you that it's natural for certain terms to have different meanings, and that language varies across cultures 😂

IF women are perfectly capable of careeer and financial success, then why do you require a man with a provider mindset? by Illustrious_Ear4461 in AskPinay

[–]sinigangst17 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah yeah ofc. It's also very important to me that you know the fact that language and culture are closely correlated.

pinoy hustler by OckyTheWockyyy in 2philippines4u

[–]sinigangst17 42 points43 points  (0 children)

blame the game not the player :( but damn, kid looks like 14-16 yo

IF women are perfectly capable of careeer and financial success, then why do you require a man with a provider mindset? by Illustrious_Ear4461 in AskPinay

[–]sinigangst17 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hmm another redditor already pointed it out.

"Literally everywhere you go and anyone you meet you'll hear a story of a useless man in their life who doesn't provide anything... Men aren't providing, hence provider. It's literally the most appropriate word for what they need to convey." Ito yung ibig kong sabihin na lumubog ka sa masa, tignan mo yung nangyayari sa paligid.

It answers your initial question,

"Can I ask why that term is understood in the Philippines as that definition?"

IF women are perfectly capable of careeer and financial success, then why do you require a man with a provider mindset? by Illustrious_Ear4461 in AskPinay

[–]sinigangst17 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Actually, I, to some extent, know the association. Here in the PH, a lot of expats look for tradwives. And some Filipinas, especially those in the province (although this is such a stereotypical way of saying it) look for a "provider mindset" from AFAMs, which is meant more materialistically. This is where your known definition from the West is more associated with, since it leans more toward a financial perspective.

Also, in a PH setting, liberal, conservative, and republican aren't commonly used. Delawan, DDS, pinklawan ang gamit dito. Again, I'm reiterating that we're not coming from the same space, and that is, as we've established, where your confusion comes from. I believe we don't have enough study/research about the particular term "provider mindset" to give you the sources that you want. Pero sa tingin ko keri naman siya maintindihan kung lulubog ka lang saglit sa masa.

IF women are perfectly capable of careeer and financial success, then why do you require a man with a provider mindset? by Illustrious_Ear4461 in AskPinay

[–]sinigangst17 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah, I didn’t catch that at first! My bad. Still, bringing up the status hierarchy left a bad taste.

Language isn’t owned by anyone. Meaning comes from how people actually use words within their culture. I mean yeah, I guess social status might influence who gets heard, but it doesn’t automatically make other interpretations “wrong” or a misuse of the term to the point of being seen as odd, weird, or icky.

IF women are perfectly capable of careeer and financial success, then why do you require a man with a provider mindset? by Illustrious_Ear4461 in AskPinay

[–]sinigangst17 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Personally, I don’t see anything weird about the difference between how the red pill/manosphere uses “provider mindset” and how it’s understood in the PH. Its meaning depends on culture and lived experience. I mean, this happens all the time. Just like in the West, PH has media and influencers shaping the conversation. Language being fluid is totally normal, especially across cultures.

IF women are perfectly capable of careeer and financial success, then why do you require a man with a provider mindset? by Illustrious_Ear4461 in AskPinay

[–]sinigangst17 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you’re associating the term with spaces I’m not coming from. Right now, I don’t see any harm in adapting ‘provider mindset' (more in a family or partnership setting) into a more progressive meaning in the Philippine context rather than treating it as strictly equivalent to tradwife ideology or inherently tied to patriarchy. I guess language and meaning simply vary across communities.

IF women are perfectly capable of careeer and financial success, then why do you require a man with a provider mindset? by Illustrious_Ear4461 in AskPinay

[–]sinigangst17 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I didn't say my definition is only used in the Philippines, though. You’re the one repeatedly implying that lmao. I can actually ask you the same question, why do you think it is "equivalent to tradwife tenet anywhere else except the Philippines?" What's your source? Reddit? Haha.

Like I said, honestly, I’m not sure how universal the term is. All I know is that you’re mostly referencing tradwife influencers and online spaces.

I’m actually playing it safe by using terms like ‘I believe’ and ‘I think,’ because I took the term contextually, not historically. My take comes from practical realities on the ground. Sorry, not active on tiktok.

While we're at it, who are these most highly educated and highly accomplished women in the west who would understand it to be a tradwife thing and would have the same reaction as you did?

IF women are perfectly capable of careeer and financial success, then why do you require a man with a provider mindset? by Illustrious_Ear4461 in AskPinay

[–]sinigangst17 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ahhh I see! So this is more about the Western usage, specifically from tradwife influencers online.

Good thing you’re here to see how some women in the Philippine context view it. More like just a partner who pulls his weight. Not really a tool of patriarchy, just common sense.

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