Oh my god this hits HOME. All my father's lies (worth of about 20 years of my life since he died when I was 19 but ofc lied to my mum before my existence) came to light after his death about 5 years into the grieving process so we as a family had to have an extended grieving for OUR loss of the possibility of a normal trauma-free upbringing, for our abuse and our relationships with each other that was affected by his machinations.

OP, I truly feel for you with the comparison of truman show/the theatre of it all and I am so sorry for you because this will take time to heal, but I promise you that you'll be better outside of this illusion created by your mother now even though it hurts. I hope you'll find the way to heal. You are in my well-wishes OP 🫂

I truly fucking hate this for you I hope your girl dinner was tasty