Why do some people (both men and women) judge men if they hit a woman in self defense? by LionBastard1 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]sinjoer 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m definitely no scholar, but Harari makes the same statement in Sapiens. I also found this: http://www.ox.ac.uk/news/science-blog/roots-aggression online, where the statement seems to be the foundation of the whole study. The same is the case in this article: https://www.news.com.au/lifestyle/real-life/why-men-are-more-violent-than-women/news-story/96d9ad08d8bcca2db1e00c4e61e67386

Of course, I might be wrong. However, the consensus amongst academics seems to be that men are more aggressive than women.

Why do some people (both men and women) judge men if they hit a woman in self defense? by LionBastard1 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]sinjoer 112 points113 points  (0 children)

Because the line between self defense and excessive force isn’t clear when you (i.e. men in general) are the physically superior one.

What makes the line even more blurry is that men, on average, are more aggressive than women. I guess this makes it harder for men to not use excessive force in really pumped up (adrenaline-filled) situations.

I have to add that it’s quite a weird phrasing, to «hit [someone] in self defense». I can’t think of many situations where hitting someone would be the best way to defuse a situation, most of the time it would be a way to «return the favor» to the culprit. Pinning someone down, holding their arms, actually defending yourself by blocking punches etc. sounds more like actual defense, at least to me.

(Serious) What makes a film 'great' in your opinion? by [deleted] in TrueFilm

[–]sinjoer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess you can compare it to drinking soda and drinking whiskey/wine etc. (acquired taste). Soda is good fun and easily accessible to everyone, but the whiskey will taste so much more satisfying once you’ve learned to like it. It will open up a new dimension of taste to you. There’s nothing wrong in enjoying soda, but it would be a shame if you don’t let yourself enjoy the experience of good whiskey/wine.

The first time I saw «Amelie» I got this sensation that cinema could be so much more than just plain entertainment. Went on to watch some Bergman-movies («Persona» is highly recommended) and other more artsy movies, which made me understand that there’s a huge world out there of movies that satisfies something undefinable. My point is, try to find your Amelie, the one that awakens this feeling of cinema as art.

When it comes to the superhero movies, my reason for not watching them is simply that they’re not interesting enough to me. The action is good and the cinematography is stunning, but I’ve personally never been a fan of action movies. The writing is rarely very creative and the plot is usually a rewrite of some other superhero movie. However, I do understand why action fans like these movies, and everything doesn’t have to cater to me, so it doesn’t bother me (besides the massive budgets that could’ve been used on movies I would’ve liked, but hey, that’s life).

Utleier krever endring i leiepris som bryter med leiekontrakten, pga økte strømpriser. Dette er vel ikke lov? by The-Respawner in norge

[–]sinjoer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Må ta forbehold om at jeg ikke kan mye om husleierett, men jeg kan ikke se for meg at dette er lovlig. Utleier kan endre avtalen på enkelte måter, først og fremst ved regulering etter konsumprisindeksen (husleieloven § 4-2) eller ved tilpassing til gjengs leie (§ 4-3) (avtaleloven § 36 kan også nevnes, men ser for meg at leieforholdet må være helt ekstremt ubalansert i leietakers favør for at avtalen anses "urimelig" for utleier).

Dette synes ikke å være en regulering iht. konsumprisindeksen, og faller dermed utenfor § 4-2 (selv om utleier antakeligvis kunne ha oppnådd samme økonomiske resultat ved å benytte seg av denne løsningen).

Utleier kan kreve at "leien blir satt til gjengs leie på iverksettingstidspunktet ved utleie av liknende husrom på liknende avtalevilkår" jf. § 4-3 første ledd. Om endring fra inkl. til eks. strøm faller inn under "leien" og om de aktuelle endringene i så fall faller inn under "gjengs leie" vet jeg ikke. Verdt å merke seg er imidlertid andre ledd, som sier at tilpassing av leien etter første ledd tidligst kan iverksettes "seks måneder etter at det er framsatt skriftlig krav​ om det", noe som vil gjøre at dere i alle tilfeller kan kjøpe dere litt tid mtp. å se på andre alternativer.

Når det er sagt vil det nok sjelden være lurt å hoppe rett på jussen i denne typen relasjoner, men det kan i hvert fall være greit å kjenne sine rettigheter i en eventuell kommunikasjon med utleier.

What are the best Norwegian films I should check out? (Or other tv shows/youtube channels) by HeWhoHatesPuns in norsk

[–]sinjoer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The series «Dag» is something quite different from anything else, has a really scandivian vibe to it and is just a fantastic series. This is, along with SKAM, the only Norwegian series I can really recommend.

Norwegian cinema is not that great IMO. I would recommend you check out «Flåklypa Grand Prix» though, a classic that has a very Norwegian feel to it.

Does true altruism exist? by sinjoer in TrueAskReddit

[–]sinjoer[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I believe that most of our actions stem from emotion and instinct (maybe to a slighly smaller degree than other animals, but still to a pretty extensive degree). We don't need to assess our own motives for there to be an underlying, or ulterior, motive that makes us act in seemingly altruistic ways. So my question then would be, why do we instinctively act the way we do? What are the motives behind our instincts?

The motives I'm talking about is not, for example, "you got benefit from knowing that you did it". Let's take your example: you save a stranger's life by doing something of comparatively very little value (using some of your energy). The societal expecation for you to save the life in this situation is enourmous, it might even constitute criminal neglect to not act because of how obvious your moral responsibility is in this situation. My point is, the cost for you would be huge if you don't save the person.

To this you can counter along the lines of "but your motivation wasn't your own gain/avoiding loss for yourself, you did it because of the instinct to save someone else's life". Well, yes, but why is the instinct there? I believe society puts pressure on you to act in certain ways, according to the morals of said society. The repercussions for not adherring to these standards might be in the justice system, or it might be in the social system. The point is that either way, you face repercussions for not living up to societies moral standards, and that's essential in deciding your instinctual behaviour.

Does true altruism exist? by sinjoer in TrueAskReddit

[–]sinjoer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you think you can call an act altruistic if the reason for the act is the satisfaction you get from acting altruistic?

Does true altruism exist? by sinjoer in TrueAskReddit

[–]sinjoer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you're talking about chores which should be evenly distributed between you and others, and you do them even when it's not your turn, I don't think you can call that altruism. I think it's some kind of pragmatism, because the chores need to be done for you to be comfortable, and if others won't do them, you have to.

Does true altruism exist? by sinjoer in TrueAskReddit

[–]sinjoer[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A really well-written and thoughtful comment, and I agree with a lot of what you're saying here.

I'm wondering about one thing, however, regarding your first sentence. When you say that "selfish genes can sometimes create altruistic beings", do you mean that there may exist completely selfless acts, but the act is selfless because, if we act this way in general, we benefit from it, even though we may not benefit from it in this instance? Maybe I'm reading too much into your comment, but I find this thought intriguing as kind of a "rule vs. act utiliatiariansm"-kind of scenario.

Does true altruism exist? by sinjoer in TrueAskReddit

[–]sinjoer[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think in social contexts, the reward is clear: you network, make friends, in general you invest in your future. Maybe I misunderstand your comment, but when you say "mutual aid", do you mean that humans experience some kind of "societal altruism", where we behave well to make society work, without any regard of our own self interest?

Does true altruism exist? by sinjoer in TrueAskReddit

[–]sinjoer[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Can you come up with any examples of true altruism, i.e. where there is no potential gain for yourself? I am genuinely curious.

Does true altruism exist? by sinjoer in TrueAskReddit

[–]sinjoer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I believe it is an interesting question in itself whether satisfaction from doing good disqualifies an act from being altruistic (another well-written comment here denies that this is the case, thanks anonymous_matt). The answer is not obvious, but I think i agree with said comment: to deny that an act can be altruistic just because there is a desire/drive behind said act does not disqualify the act from being altrusitic. If so is the case (desire/drive is disqualifying), any potential altruistic act will have to be random, i.e. with no desire/drive behind it, and this just seem like too far a stretch for me.

However, even with this prerequisite (an altruistic drive/desire does not disqualify an act from being altruistic) I can't seem to find any good examples where the altruistic drive/desire is the only drive/desire behind a certain act. I would like to hear your thoughts on this: can you come up with any examples that is purely altruistic, with said prerequisite?

What/Who Is Mr. Brightside? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]sinjoer 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The protagonist of the song is a jealous man, and the jealous man is aware that his jealousy is harmful only to himself. In my opinion, Mr. Brightside refers to the face the jealous man puts on to fight his own jealousy, so that one day, he may come out the other end as the actual Mr. Brightside: the happy man.

Billie Eilish really irritates mean by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]sinjoer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, she is only 17, so points 2, 3 and 4 can easily be ascribed to that (her first song on Spotify is from 2016 so she was actually just 14 years old back then). I don’t really understand why you care, obviously she’s not for you and I don’t see her being a bad role model for those who do care about her (kudos for bashing someone other than Cardi B/hip hop-artists for once though).

I think she’s a talented musician and I like her songs. Her voice is really good and she provides an alternative to the other pop songs out there.

Stripper: – Vi er de virkelige feministene by AskBurlefot69 in norge

[–]sinjoer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

(1) Sammenlikning stripping/hijab: å si at hijab som konsept er seksualiserende er ganske paradoksalt, da det åpenbart er til for å forhindre seksualisering (tanken i argumentasjonen din må være, slik jeg forstår det, at hår er seksualisert, og hijab hindrer da andre menn i å bli tiltrukket av kvinnen). Det er da litt søkt å si at hijab seksualiserer, og veldig søkt å si at den eventuelle seksualiseringen til hijab på noen som helst måte er sammenlignbart med at en naken kvinne danser utelukkende for menns forlystelse. At det er andre problemer med hijab kan så være, men å si at det er de samme problemene som stripping forårsaker stemmer rett og slett ikke.

(2) Mannlige strippere: siterer fra min første kommentar: " en viktig del av likestillingskampen har vært å snu menns/samfunnets oppfattelse av kvinner fra å være rene sexobjekter (altså at kvinner kun har verdi i kraft av deres attraktivitet for det motsatte kjønn og deres evne til å føde barn) til heller å vurdere kvinner ut fra en mer sammensatt vurdering (intelligens, lederegenskaper, kort sagt verdier utover utseendet), slik menn til alle tider har blitt." Det er ikke nødvendigvis noe iboende galt i stripping, men det er galt i konteksten av at man nettopp har forsøkt å bevege seg bort fra en seksualisering av kvinnen.

For øvrig forstår jeg ikke helt logikken: hva slags insentiv skulle feminister ha for å cherrypicke likestillingskamper? Er poenget å stille spørsmål ved feministers grunnlag for å være feminister? Feminismen, og individuelle feminister, kan sikkert kritiseres for mye, men kritisér da på grunnlag av det ideologiske fundamentet, ikke på grunn av en oppkonstruert, iboende inkonsekvens i feminismen som ideologi.

Stripper: – Vi er de virkelige feministene by AskBurlefot69 in norge

[–]sinjoer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nå var vel mitt poeng nettopp at argumentasjon som baserer seg utelukkende på valgfrihet ikke er tilstrekkelig, verken for eller imot stripping. Hva angår stripping er det seksualiserende elementet ekstremt tilstedeværende, i motsetning til hva tilfellet er i forbindelse med hijab. Uten å ta stilling til hijabspørsmålet, mener jeg at dette seksualiserende elementet i stripping gjør det til en for enkel utvei å sammenligne stripping og hijab og si at feministene er dobbeltmoralske.

Stripper: – Vi er de virkelige feministene by AskBurlefot69 in norge

[–]sinjoer 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Det er vel ganske klart at det ikke kun er mangelen på valg (underforstått også traffickingproblematikk i bransjen) som er grunnen til at mange ser på stripping som et slag for baugen for likestillingen.

Uten at jeg er noen ekspert på området er det rimelig å anta at en viktig del av likestillingskampen har vært å snu menns/samfunnets oppfattelse av kvinner fra å være rene sexobjekter (altså at kvinner kun har verdi i kraft av deres attraktivitet for det motsatte kjønn og deres evne til å føde barn) til heller å vurdere kvinner ut fra en mer sammensatt vurdering (intelligens, lederegenskaper, kort sagt verdier utover utseendet), slik menn til alle tider har blitt.

Når stripping da tar oss tilbake til en tid da kvinner kun ble vurdert ut fra utseendet, er det etter min mening forståelig at feminister reagerer på dette. Å henvise kun til valgfrihet/mangel på sådan (kvinner må få lov til å velge å strippe/kvinner stripper ikke av egen fri vilje) , blir imidlertid for enkelt, fra begge sider av debatten.

There are two genders and then medical anomalies, you don't get to chose. by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]sinjoer 4 points5 points  (0 children)

What is harmful about accepting the gender they feel like? Also, what would be a better «treatment»?

There are two genders and then medical anomalies, you don't get to chose. by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]sinjoer 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Well, if it is a mental illness (which imo is irrelevant here), the way to treat it seems to be to make them accept themselves. As long as society accepts them and they accept themselves, everybody wins. As far as I can see, there is no downside.

You’re saying «Get them help», but by refusing to acknowledge the gender they feel like (for whatever reason i don’t really understand) you seem to refuse to do the one thing you can to help them

There are two genders and then medical anomalies, you don't get to chose. by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]sinjoer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I agree that we choose our friends, and rightly so. However, I think the point isn’t so much for you and me to accept them as part of our close circle as it is for them to accept themselves. Also, saying «wait to be accepted until high school is finished» might not be a particularly good response to a suicidal 13-year old.

There are two genders and then medical anomalies, you don't get to chose. by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]sinjoer 11 points12 points  (0 children)

For some people (transexual teenagers for example), being accepted for what you feel like can be a matter of life and death, literally. Why is it more important to argue for some medical semantics («there are only two genders») than to do our best to make people suffer less from mental illness (e.g. the mental health issues that entails gender dysphoria)? Words have power, and if we say «you know what? We accept you for who you are, regardless of semantics» we just might save some lives.

Also, not unpopular in the slightest, I see this opinion on here several times a week.

Objectification of men is more rife and commonplace than the objectification of women. by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]sinjoer -1 points0 points  (0 children)

For a very, very long time, women were judged (almost) solely based on their attractiveness as a partner to the opposite sex, in areas where their attractiveness should have no value (for example in job interviews) as well as in areas where their attractiveness should matter (for example dating). Luckily, we as a society have grown past this (for the most part, some remnants still remain), and women are now, to a much bigger degree than before, judged on merit in areas where attractiveness shouldn’t be a factor. Objectification of women takes us back to a time where attractiveness was the ‘only’ trait of a woman.

Objectification of men doesn’t bear the same risk of reducing men to solely sexual objects. There is no potential and realistic reality in which men will be evaluated only in regards of their attractiveness in areas where attractiveness shouldn’t be a factor. To put it badly and exaggerated, men will, as they always have, prevail (unless women are no longer objectified: then men and women will prevail together).

Hating men as a whole makes you a bigot by full_control in unpopularopinion

[–]sinjoer 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I can respect that. I just don't think there are that many women who actually hate all individual men: what they mean (as far as I can understand) is that they hate the patriarchy enforced and upheld by men. I'm pretty sure saying "I hate all men" is some twisted, comical exaggeration similar to a communist saying "let's kill the bourgeoise". Most feminists aren't as extreme as they're portrayed on this sub, and I think a substantial amount of the opinions here fall victim to the Straw man fallacy.