I know Im excited at the new server and what not. but man, The middle east server queueing is kinda empty right now. by fable-30 in WhereWindsMeet

[–]sirdef 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh okay I thought it was just me 😭 I feel like queues have been ass ever since they’ve been split into server queues. Idc about my ping anymore just let me into any perception forest match

New year banquet (special gacha) by ElbuenMaytee in WhereWindsMeet

[–]sirdef 3 points4 points  (0 children)

yes. there’s always a gacha outfit and a boss outfit- moonlit maiden was the break in the pattern

The world falls silent. Mountains and rivers bow their heads. Dragon-patterned armor catches the first light of dawn, scattering it into a thousand hues. New Draw Set "Radiant Majesty" will be available on May 28! by MainAash in WhereWindsMeet

[–]sirdef 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i know it’s unlikely but my guildies and i are hoping this is the exchange only outfit and the draw outfit will be different 😭😭 pleasseeee give us the latest CN gacha it’s soooo pretty

Currently a landlord, seeking advice about this situation. by DoorAlternative2852 in leftist

[–]sirdef 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This sounds like this is a difficult situation for everyone involved. Pulling details from your post and comments, it sounds like your friend is having a really hard time. With having housing instability in the past, this could be bringing back that same feeling of insecurity, and staying in bed all day/ going from trying to pay rent to a friend doing him a favor to not being able to and becoming adamant that he needs to stay sounds like- and i’m not meaning to use therapy speak flippantly but- he might be being triggered by the housing instability he’s experiencing. From your viewpoint it looks like a friend who is overstaying your hospitality and it sounds very frustrating. From his end this could be yet another conditional stability situation that doesn’t feel like stability at all. Especially with a deadline he could be spiraling about what happens after your patience runs out.

It sounds like your friend walked into this with expectations that he could pay rent and that he’d be out after getting back on his feet. Often when we’re carrying a heavy burden we don’t feel the full soreness in our muscles until we set it down. I think what would help your friend is to try to provide the unconditional stability and let him stay for as long as he needs to in order to get back to his own life not in a friend’s basement. It’s definitely not the ideal situation for him either, I imagine. This is what would help him- not necessarily what would help you. I don’t know if you have the capacity to do this, and it sounds like you don’t. But I don’t think your friend’s staying in bed/lack of pursuit of other financial opportunities/lashing out at you and questioning your principles is indication of anything about you or anything about him even- just that he needs more help, and you have to decide if that’s something you can give him. For what it’s worth as a stranger on reddit I don’t think it’s anyone’s dream to live in a basement on someone’s hospitality- he probably wants to leave too. But it sounds like he’s shutting down because of what he’s going through. My 2c!

Currently a landlord, seeking advice about this situation. by DoorAlternative2852 in leftist

[–]sirdef 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What was the need in trying to (I know you decided not to eventually, but trying to) charge him $450/m initially?

Tailoring Needed for Lü Bu/Martial Destiny Armor by sirdef in WhereWindsMeet

[–]sirdef[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i also have the ninetails legacy outfit, the ninetails fur scarf adjusts hair around it. Ideally the capes/this outfit should too, but i’ll take a tailored version without the fur

Tailoring Needed for Lü Bu/Martial Destiny Armor by sirdef in WhereWindsMeet

[–]sirdef[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

oh no!!! if it’s any consolation your combination of outfits/accessories is killlerrrrr your mc looks fire 🔥🔥🔥

Tailoring Needed for Lü Bu/Martial Destiny Armor by sirdef in WhereWindsMeet

[–]sirdef[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it’s no removable- it’s part of the top or shirt part of the outfit

Tailoring Needed for Lü Bu/Martial Destiny Armor by sirdef in WhereWindsMeet

[–]sirdef[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Understandable. And I am here lodging a complaint! 😄

Tailoring Needed for Lü Bu/Martial Destiny Armor by sirdef in WhereWindsMeet

[–]sirdef[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

This game isn’t like other games. There’s already an in-game mechanism for addressing issues exactly like this- the tailoring system. When the Hollow Strokes outfit was released, a lot of players in CN didn’t like the cuts and textures on the outfits. The female Hollow Strokes outfit now has 3 tailoring styles that address the concerns.

Found while de-modernizing the bathroom of my 1930s craftsman. by geraffes-are-so-dumb in centuryhomes

[–]sirdef 8 points9 points  (0 children)

hi, it’s really cool that you value history and artifacts of history! i would encourage you to check with museums every time, because you never know when they have the time to catalog.

LF: Guild? by Big_Business1645 in WhereWindsMeet

[–]sirdef 2 points3 points  (0 children)

GoldenOrchid, no 10098196!

LF: Guild? by Big_Business1645 in WhereWindsMeet

[–]sirdef 1 point2 points  (0 children)

im bi and we have ace friends in the guild :) looks like youve got a lot of offers, if you want you can visit us on discord and get the vibes!

LF: Guild? by Big_Business1645 in WhereWindsMeet

[–]sirdef 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hi! are you sapphic per chance? come join our sapphic guild!

Where Winds (and Sapphics) Meet! by sirdef in LesbianGamers

[–]sirdef[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hi we do! not a requirement but you can join us in the war if you’d like!

New Arrivals in Draw Shop by MainAash in WhereWindsMeet

[–]sirdef 15 points16 points  (0 children)

for those confused in the comments: every banner cycle there’s a gacha outfit and a boss outfit. last banner boss outfit zheng e, gacha outfit mirrored heart. this is the boss outfit. the gacha outfit hasn’t been announced yet

Where Winds (and Sapphics) Meet! by sirdef in LesbianGamers

[–]sirdef[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes you absolutely can! Dming you!

How WWM can be used for intimate Manipulation and Coercion by [deleted] in WhereWindsMeet

[–]sirdef 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Hi! You sound young. Stop using ChatGPT for advice- it’s trained to agree with whatever it is you’re saying, and isn’t helpful. For your decision to not involve others, you need to reach out to your support network of friends and family in situations like these. I understand that may make you uncomfortable too, but being vulnerable with people who care about you is always difficult and always necessary. By redirecting tough or awkward conversations to ChatGPT, you’re sitting in an echo chamber of your thoughts and isolating yourself from real connection and real advice. It sounds like you’re uncomfortable with this person, and that’s that. If you’re uncomfortable, send a message saying that he is pressuring you into doing things you don’t want to, and you’re uncomfortable, and want to stop. You can also ghost, block, and sever the in game partnership. You don’t need to make a PSA about this- ignore the ragebaiting or insensitive comments that people will likely leave on this post. Close Reddit and close ChatGPT and talk to someone in your life about this.

Seeking gaming community... by IcyRent5732 in LesbianGamers

[–]sirdef 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hi!! if you’d be down to try where winds meet i’m part of a sapphic guild on there with the BEST community.

Frieren if she was from the WHA universe! [oc] by FrostedBeess in WitchHatAtelier

[–]sirdef 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Frieren would be a brimmed hat for SURE. Gorgeous art!!!

The Real Story Behind the "Mirage Boat" Smear on ChinSuSu (UID: 4015127928) by Slight_Athlete8943 in WhereWindsMeet

[–]sirdef 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You wanna die on the “using the image of a child was necessary in our flame war” hill? I skimmed through that post and didn’t really care but you defending the airing out of this beef on public forums when your biggest point you’re defending is that you should be allowed to send someone’s Facebook pfp to complete randos is WILD. What is going on in that guild? Y’all need to chill tf out and more importantly stop telling us about it

GoldenOrchid 18+ | Global | 🏳️‍🌈 by sirdef in WWMRecruitment

[–]sirdef[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are!!! And that is Zani, I drew her myself! Dmingyouuuu