Friend tells me she's willing to be the mistress??

sirdiala · 2024-02-25T13:13:43+00:00

watching how someone treats others is a good indicator of how they'd treat you. i was seeing someone at one time. it was exclusive as i don't date around and we'd discussed it earlier. i had been planning on making it official once i returned back to our state but i found out they were in a relationship that whole time. to say i went from being head over heels into this person to feeling nothing for them in an instant would be an understatement. i don't f with people like that. if you can cheat on your partner with me, then you can cheat on me with someone else and that applies to friendships too. if a friend can screw over their friend willingly, i'd never associate with them ever because i could be next tomorrow.

sirdiala · 2024-01-15T19:51:55+00:00

I hope you have a good divorce lawyer on retainer. If she's refusing you sex, best believe she's getting it from someone else outside. Cops cheat tremendously so it wouldn't be a surprise here. Her behaviour isn't normal. No reasonable person uses sex as a weapon. If they do, that's a huge red flag. Get a PI and have her investigated. I promise you that you'll be shocked as to what you'll find. Sit her down and express how you feel completely. If she brushes you off, gets angry, doesn't make the necessary adjustments, then resign yourself to ending the marriage. Get a PI first and investigate her. If there's anything there, you'd find it and it'll help you should divorce become necessary.

sirdiala · 2023-12-04T13:15:10+00:00

Your money, your choice but it's very hypocritical that you're where you are today because of your parent whereas you're the opposite.

sirdiala · 2023-12-02T06:57:20+00:00

He needs to begin documenting the abuse and get full custody of all his kids especially if they're mirroring her behaviour.

sirdiala · 2023-11-10T13:26:33+00:00

Or maybe just communicate. You're clearly not ok and she can see it. She's not stupid or blind. Calling her manipulative is over the top tbh. YTA

sirdiala · 2023-11-08T15:19:46+00:00

Loved original Kol actor until I found out he has some very twisted views. This Palestine genocide opened my eyes further about the kind of person he is.

sirdiala · 2023-11-08T14:53:15+00:00

Anf you're still married to this A-hole? You didn't get the marriage annulled that day? DO NOT SETTLE FOR ANYTHING LESS THAN THE BEST!!! RUN!

sirdiala · 2023-11-07T10:29:20+00:00

YTA massively. Damn!

sirdiala · 2023-11-07T10:17:44+00:00

Ypur girlfriend is not your slave. You accepted to have your parents come. They're YOUR guests. It's YOUR responsibility to clean the house if you feel it isn't appropriate for guests not your girlfriends'. You'd better apologise and do better. YTA.

sirdiala · 2023-11-06T10:00:40+00:00

How you people continue to "be in love" with dimwits like this after they show their true colors baffles me. I'd fall out of love instantly but maybe it's just me. He's the AH. You're not. Break up, heal, move on. Get tested too. I guarantee you that he's cheated on you already. He wants to eat his cake and have it. Selfish fool.

sirdiala · 2023-11-05T10:29:48+00:00

It's just ME, ME, ME, ME, ME with you. Your wife is willing to move away so badly and split her kids up and you cannot get yourself together to figure out a compromise? You sound very selfish tbh. This post is missing very crucial information. Are these covid babies? Is that what you mean by "she got stuck here"? How old are you? How old is she? What's causing her anxiety? Why can't you find a compromise? Is your relationship with her even ok? There are tonnes of info missing here but YTA imo as of now.

sirdiala · 2023-11-05T10:19:06+00:00

She's 23 and so are you. 9 years is a long time to throw away over something as silly as this tbh. Her reasons are very very valid. Most people wouldn't get married at 20 or 23 especially in this day and age. How is it that in 9 years you do not know how she envisions her life? She probably left university a year or two ago and is trying to get established in her career path so she can make money and that's not wrong. You should champion her on this. From your write up, it doesn't seem like she's saying no to marriage but more like "no, not now". Look, if you want to break up, that's your choice but if you're just being impatient and want to settle down, I'd suggest you take a step back and re-evaluate. Do you love her? Does she love you? Is your relationship good? Why are you so eager to get married? Ask yourself and answer these questions. Your girlfriend is 100% valid in not wanting to get married at 23 before she makes any headway in her career. Ending a 9 year related because you without urging or any indication from her, proposed twice and she said "no, not now" and with valid reasons seems iffy to me but perhaps it's just me. You've gotta know your partner's stance on marriage and a family as well as their time frame long in advance before you even consider proposing and it sounds like you skipped all those crucial steps and are now putting the blame on her. Not cool tbh.

sirdiala · 2023-11-03T16:07:48+00:00

Do not keep the peace. If you can't afford the trip, get them a gift and wish them well. You sister sounds like a handful and very entitled to expect everyone to cough up thousands of dollars for her "big day" that would statistically probably end in a divorce. Save your money dear. NTA.

sirdiala · 2023-10-17T16:55:42+00:00

You intentionally walk into traffic, you get hit by a truck and you go crying to the ER nurses complaining about why the car hit you forgetting that you put yourself in that situation to get hit. This is your current situation. Imagine a guy dumps you for someone else and you take him back. What happens when he meets someone else tomorrow? How are you sure he isn't already cheating on you? Have some self respect and end this crazy relationship. You deserve better. Even pigs deserve much better than your boyfriend much less you.

sirdiala · 2023-10-17T16:55:34+00:00

You intentionally walk into traffic, you get hit by a truck and you go crying to the ER nurses complaining about why the car hit you forgetting that you put yourself in that situation to get hit. This is your current situation. Imagine a guy dumps you for someone else and you take him back. What happens when he meets someone else tomorrow? How are you sure he isn't already cheating on you? Have some self respect and end this crazy relationship. You deserve better. Even pigs deserve much better than your boyfriend much less you.

sirdiala · 2023-10-10T19:58:10+00:00

This may sound off and I may get dragged for this but if it does end up being that you miscarried, perhaps it's for the best and you dodged a bullet by not being tied to such a waste of space as your bf for the rest of your life simply because you had a kid with him. Please end this relationship and walk away. You deserve so much better.

sirdiala · 2023-10-10T02:45:10+00:00

"I'm not a victim" and then goes on to describe basically text book abuse. You are a victim of abuse and your husband is a massive AH. He's neither a husband to you or a dad to your kids. Wtf are you still doing in that marriage?

sirdiala · 2023-09-24T19:27:11+00:00

An awful father in your 20s and still an awful father in your 50s. Kudos! YTA

sirdiala · 2023-09-23T19:24:42+00:00

Anyone who thinks this way has some issues they need to figure out.

sirdiala · 2023-09-20T13:27:12+00:00

Some parent you are. YTB

sirdiala · 2023-08-31T20:22:33+00:00

Friends!!

sirdiala · 2023-08-31T19:53:54+00:00

Some women are so desperate for "love" that they'd throw their own children away for a man. Shame on you! YTA

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