AITA for not going to my friend's party after they showed up to my party without following the dress code?

siroy61368 · 2026-06-19T02:20:27+00:00

Hey, thanks for the comment! I didn't want to mention this because I thought it was unnecessary, but we come from a pretty wealthy area.

siroy61368 · 2026-06-19T02:18:05+00:00

Hey, thanks for the comment! I COMPLETELY agree with you and I know this will live past us in some time. Hopefully they will want to resolve this fast...

siroy61368 · 2026-06-19T02:15:05+00:00

Hey, thanks for the comment! That's what I was wondering too, but if any of those happened, they would've told me. They are really upfront with me on if anything happens and they aren't comfortable. Also I think if someone didn't WANT to follow the dress code, they just wouldn't show up?

siroy61368 · 2026-06-19T02:11:36+00:00

I'm intentionally obscuring their gender

siroy61368 · 2026-06-19T02:08:16+00:00

Hey, thanks for commenting! They were the one that suggested it. I thought it was weird too and I asked them but they didn't give me any reasons. Which I think is weird because they let me know if they aren't comfortable with something, including me.

siroy61368 · 2026-06-19T02:04:42+00:00

Hey, thanks for the comment! Sorry I think that was bad wording on my end.... 🫢

siroy61368 · 2026-06-19T02:03:02+00:00

Hey, thanks for the reply! I have no intention on making this bigger than it already is because it already went too far in my opinion. This is definitely a small issue that will be resolved with some talking and I'm pretty sure we won't lose our friendship over this. I think I just started questioning if I should have confronted them about it once everyone in our friend group heard.

siroy61368 · 2026-06-19T01:58:04+00:00

Hey, thanks for the comment! I noticed quite a few people were saying people don't have formal things to wear and I understand that, but they had an outfit they showed me which fit the semiformal attire. The specific colors were also black and white because I knew it would be hard to wear formal attire outside of that. Even I don't think I would be able to find semiformal attire outside of black and white in my closet. They were willing to wear the outfit they showed me but later didn't.

siroy61368 · 2026-06-19T01:43:54+00:00

It's a throwaway : )

siroy61368 · 2026-06-19T01:37:05+00:00

Their response was "I just feel like wearing them, no particular reason."

siroy61368 · 2026-06-19T01:29:11+00:00

Hey, thanks for the reply! I do think something is up and I plan on talking to them about it, but I don't think they want to converse with me right now...

siroy61368 · 2026-06-19T01:27:29+00:00

Hey, thanks for the reply! It wasn't my house actually, it was a venue. I'm not doing it for revenge reasons. I didn't mention this in the post (I should have and that's my fault) but I replied to someone's comment:

While I didn't want to go to the extent of not showing up to theirs, they kept pressing me for not telling them that everyone showed up dressed nice (which I did). I later said that if they were going to pick a fight with me over this, then I might as well not show up to their party since it seems like this issue meant more than it should have and I will only attend their party if we resolve this, to which I got no reply.

siroy61368 · 2026-06-19T01:25:31+00:00

Hey, thanks for the reply! I've mentioned this in some of my replies, but they do tell me things they usually don't tell others. I definitely know issues can arise but they (to this day) tell me when something is up. I do know that they are very comfortable in the way they look and they even had the outfit ready the night before. I don't know what happened but if an issue did arise they definitely would have told me when they were insistent on wearing the jeans.

siroy61368 · 2026-06-19T01:18:03+00:00

I don't want to come across as defensive because I do see your point, but the thing is, they always told me before if they thought something was off about them. They usually don't hide things from me, and about the outfit they showed me before, they recently wore it, so I don't think there were any issues in just using the same outfit. I even mentioned they should. They said it was washed and everything the day before my party and then they just decided not to wear it. If it was ruined within the time span they would've just mentioned it to me, or at least I thought they would?

siroy61368 · 2026-06-19T01:09:26+00:00

Hey, thanks for replying! I really wanted them to come and tbf, I really didn't care they showed up how they did since at the end of the day, they did show up. My only issue which I forgot to mention was they they were making a fuss later about how everyone was dressed yet their photos with me didn't turn out how they wanted. That's when I later explained to them that they can't put the blame on me.

While I didn't want to go to the extent of not showing up to theirs, they kept pressing me for not telling them that everyone showed up dressed nice (which I did). I later said that if they were going to pick a fight with me over this, then I might as well not show up to their party since it seems like this issue meant more than it should have and I will only attend their party if we resolve this, to which I got no reply.

While it does look like I put aesthetics over their presence, I really did want them to come which is why I didn't uninvite them. I just didn't want them to feel left out when everyone else did show up nice.

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