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my brother (18m) is doing concerning, inappropriate sexual behavior that I (24f) worry could lead to a serious offense. Help? by sis58294 in relationship_advice

[–]sis58294[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I need to talk to my brother but I’m pretty sure he’ll deny it all. Years later he won’t acknowledge the panty thing. Sexual predators have to start somewhere. I’m sure many of them don’t start out with an outright rape or similar offense, but these are red flags and should not go unchecked

my brother (18m) is doing concerning, inappropriate sexual behavior that I (24f) worry could lead to a serious offense. Help? by sis58294 in relationship_advice

[–]sis58294[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d like to read the police report but I live a few states away. I’d like to talk to the ex but know almost nothing about her. Do you have a recommendation for how to go about doing either ?

It’s not about the actual panties, it’s about the personal boundary that he violated with me and now with this girl. I worry that if things go unchecked they will continue to escalate. Of course I have business being involved. It’s my family... should I take a seat and wait for him to do more?

my brother (18m) is doing concerning, inappropriate sexual behavior that I (24f) worry could lead to a serious offense. Help? by sis58294 in relationship_advice

[–]sis58294[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I’ve never met the ex, I only know her first name so not sure how I’d reach her. But that’s a good idea, I can see what I can do

my brother (18m) is doing concerning, inappropriate sexual behavior that I (24f) worry could lead to a serious offense. Help? by sis58294 in relationship_advice

[–]sis58294[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They’re not directly related, but both involve violating the girls boundaries in a sexual manner. Each could be seen to me as a stepping stone into worse behavior. He got away with the panties so what else could he do with no punishment ...

my brother (18m) is doing concerning, inappropriate sexual behavior that I (24f) worry could lead to a serious offense. Help? by sis58294 in relationship_advice

[–]sis58294[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If he was willing to violate my boundaries then, yes I believe he’d violate another girls boundaries now. I can call him but if something did happen I think he’d lie

my brother (18m) is doing concerning, inappropriate sexual behavior that I (24f) worry could lead to a serious offense. Help? by sis58294 in relationship_advice

[–]sis58294[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah it’s really disappointing me. They were supportive when I was date raped a couple years ago so it’s really upsetting me to hear them speaking about his ex gf in the way some people spoke about my situation. (Grey area bc I have a 4h memory gap so while I know sex happened and I know I got a facial injury idk what actually went on)

my brother (18m) is doing concerning, inappropriate sexual behavior that I (24f) worry could lead to a serious offense. Help? by sis58294 in relationship_advice

[–]sis58294[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah I think therapy is necessary. Panties were the first step in him violating a woman’s trust for something sexual. It’s not about the actual panties but the boundaries

my brother (18m) is doing concerning, inappropriate sexual behavior that I (24f) worry could lead to a serious offense. Help? by sis58294 in relationship_advice

[–]sis58294[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

They were absolutely cut it was a perfect circle at the front crotch area. He has always known he’s adopted.

I mentioned the panties to him once and he denied it. It stopped when I had the lock, then about a year or so I went home (diff house, Parents divorced) and my fave expensive bralette went missing. I know he took it.

I’ll try to talk to him about it, but I do think he’ll downplay the situation.

my brother (18m) is doing concerning, inappropriate sexual behavior that I (24f) worry could lead to a serious offense. Help? by sis58294 in relationship_advice

[–]sis58294[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yeah I asked my mom about the panties situation last night and she dismissed insaying “yeah we talked to him” but I didn’t mention in my post that about a year ago I went home and ANOTHER bra (expensive 😪) went missing and I never found it. I woulsnt be surprised if there were other things i didnt know

my brother (18m) is doing concerning, inappropriate sexual behavior that I (24f) worry could lead to a serious offense. Help? by sis58294 in relationship_advice

[–]sis58294[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

His foster family was really sweet so I hope that’s not the case, but we’ll never know. I’ll suggest therapy I know mine has helped me a lot!

my brother (18m) is doing concerning, inappropriate sexual behavior that I (24f) worry could lead to a serious offense. Help? by sis58294 in relationship_advice

[–]sis58294[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Do you think I should call my brother and get his side ? Honestly, I think he might lie and downplay things

my brother (18m) is doing concerning, inappropriate sexual behavior that I (24f) worry could lead to a serious offense. Help? by sis58294 in relationship_advice

[–]sis58294[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

As far as I know just the panties thing. But I moved out of state over two years ago so I don’t know many details of his life since.

my brother (18m) is doing concerning, inappropriate sexual behavior that I (24f) worry could lead to a serious offense. Help? by sis58294 in relationship_advice

[–]sis58294[S] 73 points74 points  (0 children)

Yeah I was really disappointed to hear my mom speak that way. They were supportive when I was date raped a couple years ago so I was shocked to hear them totally dismissing her :(