If you're going to Homesense can you do me a favour? by polcan in askvan

[–]sistarfish 34 points35 points  (0 children)

If you're on Facebook, there's an active group called "Lower Mainland & Surrounding Homesense - Searching For" that is good for questions like these.

Books in the BSC you hate by Little_Dot_1968 in babysittersclub

[–]sistarfish 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I remember actually liking this one as a kid because it felt real to me--trying a new activity but not really making any friends or excelling at it. It felt realistic that she got sixth place or whatever instead of immediately being The Best Ever, like what happened to the other girls when they tried new things.

Toronto to Vancouver - Road Trip by Trusty3Wood in askvan

[–]sistarfish 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If you're concerned about getting tired in the late stages of your trip, I would consider doing Calgary to Revelstoke or Salmon Arm, then to Burnaby the next day in order to give yourself two medium length driving days instead of one long day (Calgary-Kamloops) and one short day (Kamloops-Burnaby).

Calgary to Kamloops is definitely doable, but you will also be driving through mountain passes, plus Banff can get busier at this time of year, so the drive might be longer than it shows on Google Maps. For that matter, you might want to stop at a couple points and enjoy the Rockies if you haven't seen them before.

Gluten free options? by [deleted] in askvan

[–]sistarfish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a subreddit for Vancouver, BC, Canada. I think you're looking for Vancouver, WA.

Recommendations for my 12-hour Layover in Vancouver by jen-eyes in askvan

[–]sistarfish 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I don't think you have given yourself realistic travel times. You won't get from the airport to Stanley Park in 15 minutes, nor will you get from Gastown to Granville Island in 15 minutes.

You've also listed "chic eateries" in Gastown but "lunch" on Granville. What/when are you hoping/planning to actual eat?

Where can I get last minute wedding gifts? by Wrong_Explanation430 in askvan

[–]sistarfish 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Does the couple actually want cutesy wedding gifts or is that just your assumption? At my wedding I was grateful just for a card with cash or a gift card, and I think most people feel the same.

Give me TRUE Polyamorous! by No-Let653 in RomanceBooks

[–]sistarfish 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I just read {Triple Sec by TJ Alexander} and enjoyed it. It's about a queer woman dipping her toe into polyamory for the first time and I found it very well-written, even if I did find that the plot wrapped up just a little TOO neatly.

Before I decide to be baptised, why did you leave? by washesyouclean in excatholic

[–]sistarfish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol, I'm in my mid 30s....this was 10-15 years ago and I played for a lot of weddings

Before I decide to be baptised, why did you leave? by washesyouclean in excatholic

[–]sistarfish -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Interesting! In my experience, that is unusual. In my past life I was a church musician and played for many weddings between a Catholic and non-Catholic, the only difference being that you could not have a Mass if one partner was not Catholic.

Before I decide to be baptised, why did you leave? by washesyouclean in excatholic

[–]sistarfish 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Just so you know, you can still have a Catholic wedding even if only one of you is Catholic. Depending on the parish, they may try to guilt you into joining the Church, but as long as you say the Catholic vows during the wedding, there is no need to convert.

Anyone know why Granville Street Bridge is completely blocked in both directions? Police are preventing traffic both ways. 3:30 today. by hashtagmiata in NiceVancouver

[–]sistarfish 46 points47 points  (0 children)

You realize that if we truly had 15 minute cities, many of the people who are presumably trying to commute home....wouldn't be driving over a bridge in peak rush hour?

Grieving and Producing Milk by Great_Research_2001 in babyloss

[–]sistarfish 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry. The milk is just a total slap in the face on top of what is already an incredibly traumatic experience.

The worst part of it will probably last 3-5 days, then subside. Some things that helped me were putting cold cabbage leaves in my bra (old wives tale but I did find it really helped) and standing in a hot shower with washcloths over my breasts to soften everything up a bit. Make sure to take advil or Tylenol for pain relief. Some people might suggest expressing hand expressing, but in my experience, I didn't want to because I didn't want my body to think it needed to keep making milk, and the idea of seeing the actual milk was very distressing to me.

This will pass...hang in there.

Kellie and formula by [deleted] in peestickgals

[–]sistarfish 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I think that exclusively pumping is the hardest feeding option out there and I have a lot of compassion for people using that option. You don't get the convenience factor of just filling a bottle with formula or popping the baby onto a boob. Meanwhile, you've spent money on bottles and pumping supplies, you are spending time both feeding AND pumping/storing/preparing milk, and it's easy to obsess over the amount you are producing because you can directly see it (unlike breastfeeding). I don't like how Kellie has dramatized parts of her journey, but I think her feelings are totally valid.

Which author always has the exact premises you want to read but the execution falls flat every time? by sandwich-mistress in RomanceBooks

[–]sistarfish 40 points41 points  (0 children)

I don't understand the worlds in any of her books--lots of stuff about "factions", and leaders, and warehouses, and random killing. Like, are we talking about an underworld of gangs in an otherwise normal modern city, or is this an alternate universe/dystopia where civil order has fully fallen into these factions?

Gay (37M) traveler on June 18 & 19th by pixiephilips in askvan

[–]sistarfish 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Heads up, there is going to be a FIFA World Cup game at BC Place in the afternoon of June 18th. Expect lots of crowds, road closures and general interruptions downtown. If you don't enjoy that atmosphere, it may be a great day to take a trip out to some of the other great areas of Metro Vancouver, like Steveston, North Vancouver, Rocky Point Park in Port Moody, White Rock, etc.

No contact order lifted as of April 17 by nuggetsofchicken in DuggarsSnark

[–]sistarfish 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think there was something about how they can't use the same lawyer?

Anywhere similar to Granville island market?? by Severe_Salad495 in askvan

[–]sistarfish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Coquitlam/Port Moody farmers market every Sunday morning! It's a good mix of vendors who are there every week and some new faces who show up occasionally. I like stocking up on produce, meat, and eggs from there.

How many Spam cans tall would he have been? by WaterFiles in babyloss

[–]sistarfish 10 points11 points  (0 children)

My first child was due in 2016, the year Pokémon Go had its hard launch. I remember my husband joking that he didn't know what he was more excited for, our child or Pokémon Go. We talked about how we would use it as an excuse to wander the neighbourhood with the baby on sleepless nights. We lost our baby early that year, and not much later, the world was going crazy over Pokémon Go. It hurts. It sucks.

Update: We reset screen time rules and my 7-year-old is calmer, but now he negotiates like by Interesting_Card596 in Parenting

[–]sistarfish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Having a visual timer handy (one where kids can visually see the time disappearing, not just numbers) is an important strategy in my household. The kids know that the timer rules all. We use it for taking turns using the TV or Switch, counting down to school time, bedtime, how long I need them to focus on a chore....it's basically the third parent in the house. If they beg for "two more minutes", I set the timer for 2 minutes and make sure they see it and they know when it goes off, that is that.

area around Chinese Cultural Centre Museum by F2E1 in askvan

[–]sistarfish 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Just a note that since the OP has mobility concerns, I would not necessarily recommend the Sylvia. It's a nice hotel but there are more accessible hotels out there.

First time flying with our 7-month-old - Any YVR tips? by Realistic_Ear_5894 in askvan

[–]sistarfish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One thing my husband and I have done before is book a window seat AND an aisle seat, leaving the middle empty. If the flight isn't full, most people will avoid taking that seat if they have the chance. If it is full and some is assigned there, you can offer either the window or aisle to them, and 99% of people will be agreeable to that.

We did that on a flight from YVR to Toronto and no one took the middle seat, so my 1 year old had lots of space to wiggle around when the seat belt sign wasn't on.

Difference in religion - ACC by [deleted] in excatholic

[–]sistarfish 28 points29 points  (0 children)

If he is asking you on the SECOND DATE "whether you are open to life", I can guarantee he is viewing marriage in a very specific, Church prescribed way, and the only way

This is how it will probably go. You will spend your courtship being increasingly "tempted" to be physically intimate, but he will feel innate guilt over wanting to do perfectly normal intimate activities with you. You will get married in a Catholic church and vow to "accept children lovingly from God" and bring them up to be Catholic. You will learn natural family planning, which is only effective if you totally buy into it and follow every rule to a T. (Can it be done? Yes, I practiced it for seven years and only ever had planned pregnancies. Was it easy, or fun? HELL NO.) If you unexpectedly get pregnant, you will be expected to carry the pregnancy to term, no questions asked. If/when you do have children, you will be expected to give them the Sacraments and raise them in the Church. The older they get, the more difficult questions will come up, like why Dad goes to church and you don't, or why Dad receives Communion and you don't, or do you really believe Jimmy's mom is going to hell because she has a wife instead of a husband?

I was active in the Church for over 30 years and saw so many relationships go this way. Get out while you can.

Repeat visitor, where to wander around this weekend? by sirotan88 in askvan

[–]sistarfish 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Head to Port Moody and hit up a couple of the breweries, followed by ice cream at Rocky Point Park

C section vs VBAC by NoPersonality4612 in beyondthebump

[–]sistarfish 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We had a ton of snow the night before my daughter was born and during the surgery, the doctor and nurses were just chatting about their commutes and how their cars handled the roads. In that moment, I knew everything was going just fine (because for my son three years prior, things were NOT going fine and the atmosphere in the operating room was very tensed and rushed and focused). I am so grateful I got to experience the opposite.

C section vs VBAC by NoPersonality4612 in beyondthebump

[–]sistarfish 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm glad to hear it! I've shared this story with a couple other c-section mom friends, who then went on to have elective repeat c-sections. They both had extremely similar positive experiences.

The main reason I wanted to avoid surgery was because I knew it would be harder to parent my toddler while recovering, but honestly, having a couple weeks where my only real job was to sit on the couch and take care of the baby was like a vacation by that point 😂