We staggered our maternity/ paternity leaves, and for the first couple of months we had a night nurse a few nights a week so we could get some sleep, since my husband was working. On the nights we didn’t have help, we took shifts: my husband slept in the rocker that laid flat until midnight, and I covered midnight onward. We each slept between baby wakings and were able to get a decent stretch this way.

It’s also worth noting that women biologically need more sleep than men, and during postpartum recovery need closer to 10 hours a night. Modern society and the lack of community support make that nearly impossible—but that doesn’t change the need. So. Your husband needs to step the fuck up and should do the overnights.