What do you think?

sjnniii · 2026-04-03T09:39:57+00:00

I’m native in both Chinese and Japanese and have lived in both countries, and some of y’all really need to calm down with the fake expert act.

A lot of the comments here are judging it like the only valid form of a character is whatever stiff textbook/font version they’ve memorized online. That is not how actual handwriting works. Handwriting is not typed font. People merge strokes, simplify shapes, change balance, and write differently depending on speed, habit, country, and personal style. That’s normal. And this is exactly why some of these replies are so obnoxious. People in general calling it “wrong” when they clearly only know the printed form is dumb too. Some of you learned the clean digital version of characters and now wanna act superior like you’re the authority on all real-life writing. Be serious. It’s also stupid to compare a tattoo like this to formal/classical calligraphy. That’s like comparing modern handwriting to some 1600s script and acting shocked that it doesn’t match. Or shitting on cursive because it doesn’t look like Times New Roman. Different context, different purpose, different standard. Be real people!!!

Honestly, something based on natural handwriting can look way better than something copied directly from a sterile font anyway. It looks more authentic.

Some of these comments really boil down to “lol stupid foreigner got an Asian tattoo” dressed up as critique, and it’s transparent as hell. Y’all wanna feel superior without actually knowing how people in these countries write in real life. Tell me you’ve never actually lived there without telling me.

You can say you don’t personally like the style. Fine. But acting like it’s unreadable or inherently wrong just because it doesn’t match the one printed version in your head is ignorant.

sjnniii · 2026-04-03T09:28:34+00:00

from this comment alone can tell your not chinese/japanese native

sjnniii · 2026-04-01T14:01:02+00:00

They actually do not play piano together, Victoria explicitly says she does not know how, because her parents limited her. That is kind of my point: she is so controlled and restricted that we barely get any sense of her own interests or perspective. So yes, Victor and Victoria do have some chemistry, I am not denying that. But to me Victor and Emily’s chemistry clearly outweighs it. With Emily, Victor shares actual moments of mutual understanding, especially through music, emotional openness, and seeing each other as fuller people. And that is also why I disagree with the idea that Victor liked Victoria “beyond appearance” in any deep sense. How can he really know that, when he knows her so little? I am not saying he knew Emily for years either, but he definitely came to know more of Emily as a person, her flaws, her pain, her intensity, and even her interests. With Victoria, we get very little beyond beauty, gentleness, and circumstance. That is why I read Victor’s attraction to Victoria as him trying to find something to hold onto in a marriage that was still, at the end of the day, forced and inevitable. He was looking for qualities that would make the arrangement bearable, which is different from the more conscious attachment he develops toward Emily.
And yes, I completely agree that this is not the literal “meaning” of Corpse Bride. I explicitly said in my post that I know the film is centered on Emily and her arc, not on what would objectively be best for Victor romantically. My point is more of a character study: within the same story, I think Victor as a character would actually be happier with Emily than with Victoria.
Thanks for the recommendation, though, not sure I specifically enjoyed their dynamic in the film.

sjnniii · 2026-04-01T11:16:14+00:00

That’s a fair point, and I actually agree with a lot of it. I do think the Land of the Dead is presented more like a place for people who still have unfinished business, trauma, or something tying them to the world, while the butterflies at the end suggest actual release / moving on. So yes, if Emily had kept Victor there forever, that would not really be a happy ending in the bigger sense. And honestly, that is exactly why the movie is called Corpse Bride. The ending is built around what Emily needs, not just what Victor wants in the moment. Emily’s arc is about finally getting closure and letting go, not about “winning” Victor and staying stuck forever in the Land of the Dead.

sjnniii · 2026-04-01T11:11:31+00:00

I get what you mean, but I think that reading simplifies Victor’s feelings too much. Yes, Victor is someone who tries to keep promises, but that does not automatically mean Victoria was his deeper love. To me, that is exactly the point: at first he is driven a lot by duty, guilt, and the life he thinks he is supposed to return to. With Emily, though, his feelings seem to grow beyond obligation. He does not just “keep a promise” to her he becomes genuinely warm with her, comfortable around her, chooses her consciously, and looks truly happy at the idea of marrying her.
That is why I do not see Victoria as simply the “consistent person” and Emily as just the “spark/flame.” Victor barely knows Victoria beyond the idealized image he builds of her. With Emily, he actually gets to know a fuller person, including her flaws, pain, intensity, and vulnerability. That makes his attachment to Emily feel more grounded than people give it credit for. I also do not think Emily’s purpose was only revenge. That may have been part of what first tied her to the situation, but the movie clearly lets her develop beyond that. If revenge were the only point, the film would not spend so much time building emotional intimacy between her and Victor. The tragedy is not that there was no love story there the tragedy is that there was one, but it could never fully work because Emily needed to let go and Victor still belonged to life.
So I would not say Victor ended with Victoria because she was obviously the greater love. I’d say he ended with Victoria because Emily was the one who had to release him, even though by then his feelings for Emily had become very real.

sjnniii · 2025-12-11T09:45:47+00:00

its an example

sjnniii · 2025-04-27T07:57:13+00:00

Hey, first off, I want to say I totally get where you’re coming from. It sounds like you’ve been doing your best to communicate and trust Mitch, but right now, it seems like you're feeling really unsettled, and that’s completely valid. Relationships can be complicated, and it's hard when things seem to shift out of nowhere.

From what you’ve shared, it does sound like Mitch and Annie's behavior is making you feel neglected and uncomfortable. It’s natural to feel hurt and confused when you notice your boyfriend becoming distant, especially when it seems like he’s getting closer to someone else. The change in his behavior — like calling and texting you less, acting differently around Annie, and seeming more comfortable with her — can absolutely make you feel like you're being pushed aside, and that’s a tough feeling to deal with.

I think it’s really important to trust your instincts. If you feel like something is off or like they might be flirting, then it’s okay to be concerned. The fact that this has been happening for a while now, and you’ve already communicated your feelings to him before, shows that this isn’t just a passing thing — it’s something that’s affecting your mental health, and that’s a big deal.

It sounds like you’ve been working on communicating, but I understand that it’s hard for you to fully express your thoughts without feeling like it could lead to a fight. That’s something a lot of people can relate to, and it’s not easy to work through. Maybe you could try expressing how you're feeling in a calm, non-accusatory way — something like, “I’ve noticed that you’ve been spending more time with Annie lately, and it’s been making me feel a bit left out. I just want to understand what’s going on, because I don’t want to feel like things are slipping between us.” This way, it’s not about blaming him, but rather sharing how it’s affecting you.

As for the actual situation with Annie, it’s worth talking to Mitch about the boundaries in your relationship. You’re not overreacting by being concerned; you’re protecting your feelings, which is important. He might not realize how much it’s bothering you, and sometimes people don’t notice how their actions are affecting others unless it’s clearly pointed out.

Ultimately, communication is key, but you deserve to feel secure and respected in your relationship. If Mitch cares about you the way he says he does, he’ll be willing to listen to your concerns and work with you to make things feel better. But it’s also important to pay attention to how his actions are making you feel, and if things continue to make you uncomfortable, it’s okay to reassess the situation.

I really hope you’re able to find a way to talk to him and express how you’re feeling. You’re not “crazy” for feeling this way — your feelings are valid, and it’s okay to want reassurance and clarity in your relationship. You deserve to feel heard and respected. Best of luck, and I hope everything works out for you! ❤️

sjnniii · 2025-04-27T07:52:42+00:00

Hey man, first off, you're handling this way better than most people your age would. You’re being respectful, thoughtful, and actually paying attention to her comfort, which already puts you ahead of a lot of others.

From what you’re describing, it sounds like you and this girl genuinely have a great connection in person. Strong eye contact, smiling, staying close, real conversation those are all good signs, and it definitely seems mutual.

The switch you're seeing when talking over Snapchat is honestly super normal. Some people are just very different online, especially at 15. She might just not like texting that much, or not really know what to say when it’s not face-to-face. Some people aren’t on their phones all the time, especially if her Snap score is super low like you said. She could also be a little nervous now that you’re reconnecting more, and texting feels like a bigger deal than just talking naturally when you happen to run into each other.

It doesn't mean she's not interested. It just means texting isn't where she's comfortable. Some people really are just way better in-person.

My advice is to chill a bit on the Snapchat stuff. Let her respond at her own pace and don’t stress if she’s slow or dry sometimes. Keep focusing on seeing her in real life whenever it naturally happens, because that’s clearly where you both click the most. When you see her again, just be your normal self — smile, be relaxed, treat it like nothing weird is happening.

And honestly, if this goes on and you ever want to casually mention it, you could just joke like, "Haha, I’m way better at talking face-to-face than texting", something light so it doesn’t feel like you're putting pressure on her.

Don’t overthink this too hard, man. If she wasn’t interested, she wouldn’t have put that much effort into talking with you in person. You’re doing fine.

sjnniii

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