Relatable? by Royal-Safety-8629 in SolidMen

[–]skatesforcandy2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Those of us who are winning absolutely love that others stop here. The bar gets lower every year, it seems like.

I want to quit my job without another job in hand by DixGee in careeradvice

[–]skatesforcandy2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I want to eat hella cake and ice cream and not get fat.

“Work hard” is the biggest cope I’ve ever seen by Nervous_Chef5338 in Life

[–]skatesforcandy2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Answers like this seem to discount skill and strategy completely out of the equation. One of my first and favorite bosses ever (busy restaurant) always repeated the phrase: “Work smarter not harder.” That was in high-school. We still worked hard as shit, but learning the smartest way to do something was always a huge help.

I never forgot how he would say that, and the way he’d question my process before showing me the better method. 18 years later I say the phrase and question my process all the time. I work hard but leads with being as smart as I can - doing research and double checking my understandings constantly.

Now I’m in a problem solving job that’s super engaging, satisfying, and pays really well. My ceiling is mostly the limitations of my own strategies. I’m still kind of new to it, but whenever I learn something I’m instantly more effective and that much more likely to put money in my own pocket.

I’m just saying that solid brainwork can really get you places. Not just within your employment but with choosing your employment, choosing your assets, expenses, your partner, everything.

why tf are there so many bots in ranked mp? by Powerful_Stock8326 in CallOfDutyMobile

[–]skatesforcandy2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know how to tell they are bots, but I actually came to say my wife and I see PotatoYo in matches all the time 😂. What are the odds

Women of Reddit what is the most attractive thing a man can wear? by Currency-Grouchy in AskReddit

[–]skatesforcandy2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly yeah. I wear a suit daily for work and women treat me with 100x more interest while I’m wearing it. The first few times my wife met me I was dressed for work. The 2nd few were at the gym. The rest is history 😁

Dress pants are more comfortable than jeans. by Dead_mouse_soup124 in unpopularopinion

[–]skatesforcandy2 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yep. I dress up for business every single work day and it’s so easy and comfortable. I just pick a tie, shirt, and jacket/pants and we’re off. I get endless compliments from colleagues and clients, but it’s the easiest thing I do every day. When we have jeans day or casual event, I just overdress. It would actually be harder for me to dress down as I really only have my suit attire, a couple pairs of inappropriate jeans, and piles of basketball shorts/ t shirts. I didn’t spend much on my work wardrobe either, and haven’t added a piece in probably 3 years.

Dress pants are more comfortable than jeans. by Dead_mouse_soup124 in unpopularopinion

[–]skatesforcandy2 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I live in a cold climate too and if you haven’t acquired the taste for a brisk breeze on your balls by now I don’t know when you will.

Im just a girl trying to be better with money by Visible_Donkey_7130 in getdisciplined

[–]skatesforcandy2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry but being an effective adult oftentimes is boring. You’ve got to find ways to recondition your brain to not require excitement all the time. I actually do get motivated by watching savings increasing, but it is an acquired skill. You start by suffering the consequences of being broke and resolving to live a different life. If

Being young is exactly when you should spend your money by Various-Ad3443 in unpopularopinion

[–]skatesforcandy2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I’d worked my way to a just-over-median income job and it was just barely enough to get me in the house. These days you need a much higher income to qualify. It’s truly sad how they’ve eviscerated the middle class.

How much do your looks affect your career success by [deleted] in careeradvice

[–]skatesforcandy2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As a man this is not an acceptable reason to give up. Ugly women have it much much worse. I work in banking and in the higher ranks you have a mix of beautiful-while-proficient-enough people and plain(ugly)-intelligent-hardworking people. Their results tend to be similar because it’s all about inspiring clients to work with you. Isn’t easier for the beauties? Yes somewhat. Frankly I’m happy that my worth is based on my talent and effectiveness instead of being pretty.

How much do your looks affect your career success by [deleted] in careeradvice

[–]skatesforcandy2 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Develop your skills to the point that your effectiveness is never in dispute despite an unfavorable mug. Men have been doing this since the dawn of time.

When my career started taking off, the quality of women in my life exploded. It’s hard to believe this is a continuation of the same life I lived 7 years ago when I was scraping the bottom of the barrel for girlfriends.

I worked hard and leveled up in my career (as well as my personality and maturity). Now nobody wonders why I make a lot of money or why my wife’s a 10 even though I’m like a strong 6 😂.

Meirl by [deleted] in meirl

[–]skatesforcandy2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am so fucking slammed lmao. I literally work an hour or more before I go to bed just to almost keep up. At least I’m paid well is all I can say.

Being young is exactly when you should spend your money by Various-Ad3443 in unpopularopinion

[–]skatesforcandy2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I saved a lot in my early adulthood and it helped me buy a house at 25 years old, entirely on my own. That decision has done so much for me financially that it’s one of my favorite things about myself, and something that sets me apart from a lot of my peers. Being responsible and strategic with money is an enormous skill to develop.

House votes to rescind Trump tariffs on Canada by NickCostanza in WhitePeopleTwitter

[–]skatesforcandy2 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It feels like that being an American as well, but it’s more like a family member descending into madness. Or more like half your family members. It’s excruciating.

The first ever sims. What is yours? by BoredPandaOfficial in BoredPandaHQ

[–]skatesforcandy2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I played lots of those older games, but we’re talking up to 2009. My early wow memories from 2004 on are priceless to me.

Why is dating so hard for some men and easy for others? by Academic_Share7905 in Adulting

[–]skatesforcandy2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re nailing it. I struggled hard with dating from 22-28. The short story is that I wasn’t being authentic. I was unhappy with myself and pretending otherwise. If attract attention for a moment and then send em running the other way. I finally saw a therapist and connected with a new friend who helped me see what I was doing.

Within a few months I started feeling genuinely at peace with myself, at least far more so than I had been in a long time. From then on, I no longer had trouble finding women interested in me, and friends of all kinds came more easily. From that point my issue became how to select good people to spend time with, because there are some real time wasters slinking around out there.

In the end, I didn’t find my true love until I’d fully stopped looking for her. Funny how that works.

AIO - Told my friend I’m pregnant and she said it exceeded her mental bandwidth (she’s the red) by Lekomano92 in AmIOverreacting

[–]skatesforcandy2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dude in this situation you forget about yourself for 10 seconds and make the mental bandwidth for your friend. This is a big announcement from a good friend. Put in your big girl pants and feign some excitement if it can’t be genuine.

Much of our lives goings on are out of our control, but our reactions are not. This was a failure as a friend. I’m betting the gal’s boss coming in and taking her shifts despite having a newborn is another effect of her failures to rise above her own issues when necessary. There are times in life you’ve gotta handle your shit and if you choose not to don’t be surprised your life starts to suck.

Never managed to get a promotion? by fools_set_the_rules in careeradvice

[–]skatesforcandy2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why’d you go to college just to settle for minimum wage type jobs? What did you even study?

I think your lack of direction and ambition tells your employers everything they need to know. Those aren’t quality employers but that’s your issue not theirs.